Bit of background. My OH decided to end out relationship a few days ago. We have 1 DC under 1. I don't want the relationship to end at all, we have our problems and decieded we would give it one last try for each other but a couple of weeks in after telling me he had no intention of ending things he no has. I'm heart broken. We rent a house of his parents and they have said if I stay they will increase the rent to so can't afford to stay so I'm moving out with DD. The tenancy is all in my name. XP has said he is moving in wen I love out so the only things I'm allowed to take is DDs things because he needs the rest. I'm a SAHM mum and he has a good paying job, I think should have most the bigger stuf like fridge, dryer, sofa but he says I have nothing. When we brought anything we both put money into everything and had 1 pit so it was all just "ours" I'm angry I'm being forced out my home with DD and now he says I'm not allowed anything. So WIVU to take it anyway?
Please don't flame me if I am, my heads a mess, I've lost my whole life and now I'm expected to start again from
Nothing while he has everything
AIBU?
WIBU to move out and take everything
FarOverTheRainbow · 30/09/2013 08:15
You're coming up to the final page on your thread, Far. You'll start another one, yes? Don't leave us in the lurch! 
YOu were going along with contact - despite the (significant) problems eg him not handing dd over until he got the telly ( 
)
THEN you got medical and legal advice that you shouldn't allow contact. So you told him.
That's the timeline.
Buy your own smoke detector (or get one from the fire service) so you can say you have made sure you have smoke detectors.
They cancelled placing smoke detectors in the house their dd and dgd lives in because they were angry you cancelled contact? How very concerned for her welfare they do sound.
Don't worry about the SIL having a law degree. I have one, and even a master's in family law, and the most useful thing about it is that I know actual real lawyers I was at college with, who can help me when I need it because they know how. 
I couldn't possibly represent myself any better than a layperson, other than a slight head start in understanding the system/caselaw. And an undergrad degree covers so many areas of law, they can do none in any real depth; it's only at post-grad level that you can start to really get to grips with the theory behind policy and judicial thinking. Even then, there's a big difference between theoretical discussion of legal issues, and even legal advice work on someone's rights, and being a practitioner who can present a case well in court. In fact her being a cocky, over-confident little madam could be most unfortunate for her brother. We can hope! But yeah, her legal training is worth a hill of beans, especially if you have a good solicitor behind you. Women's Aid should be able to advise on locating someone excellent in your area.
I also think you need to talk to Women's Aid about how to prove abuse so you can access legal aid. I know your Dad is being great, but protracted litigation can cost tens of thousands of pounds. Hopefully it just won't come to that, but having legal aid would save a lot. Definitely thousands. And as Women's Aid have offered you a refuge place they clearly think you qualify (a night in a refuge is accepted as evidence qualifying you for it). Talk to them about how to access the help you deserve to protect dd going forwards.
And don't worry about any lies. You have a text in which he has asked when you feed her, what you feed her and how much. This was a baby he was supposedly sharing care for under the same roof, and had removed from your care for the entire day. That shows really clearly that you were and are primary carer, as do his nasty comments about breastfeeding. The main concerns are about not disrupting primary attachments and hers is clearly with you. You don't need to be perfect, just a good enough mum. So don't be frightened they can do a thing to you - their behaviour in evicting you and suggesting the baby lives in a shelter with you says it all, really.
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I have 1 smoke alarm and have brought another today 
I think everyone is onthe other thread now 
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