It's been a long week for both of us. Long hours at work for him and me at home with dd1 (4) and dd2 (10 months).
DH rang earlier to say he's taking us out to dinner to our favourite Chinese restaurant which is in a huge shopping mall. I had an exchange to do for dd2's clothes and thought I'd get it sorted while we were there.
DH arrives home and we are all ready, we get to the restaurant in good spirits and DH comments on how we're going to have a nice fun evening after a long hard week. We eat and enjoy the meal. Then we walk into the shopping mall and i tell DH I'd like to do the exchange now to which he agrees.
We go to the shop and I start to look for some clothes I can exchange with and DH starts to look antsy but he's ok. I continue looking, and ask his opinion on a couple of outfits to which he gives helpful answers. I choose some clothes then say, I'm just going to take one last look on that side and then I'm done, and he gets really annoyed. He said, 'this is what you always do. This is what you did on holiday'. Then he sat there with a face on while I looked (for the whole of 2 minutes), and waited outside with dd1 while I did the exchange.
When I came out I was annoyed and he was in a big huff and we argued 
I'm really upset at how impatient he was being. I'd only been in the shop for a maximum of 20 minutes. I'm the one who usually does all the shopping and clothes buying and so what if he had to 'waste' 20 minutes of his precious time while I BOUGHT CLOTHES FOR OUR CHILD.
He said I always try to dominate every situation and that I ruined the plans, and we were supposed to be having family fun time. I asked him what plans and he said 'what's the fucking point in asking now'.
We drove home in silence (with dd1 chattering away to herself in the back) and have both come to bed without talking.
AIBU?
To be mad at DH for spoiling the evening?
TeaJunky · 28/09/2013 00:05
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Er, who said I'm replacing friends/social activities with shopping? 
I was doing an exchange for baby clothes because they didn't fit very well, salmotrotto. It's not so uncommon!
All the posters at the beginning of the thread that said he was BU and a twat please come back 
Gosh, yes, Tea, how very dare you do a necessary child-related task during a Special Family Evening That DH Had Planned All Special Like, bless him?! A wife's role is to make all the family stuff happen like magic, so Your Dear Husband may relax and enjoy his special showing off time with the children you have lovingly prepared for him.
How could you be so selfish and unreasonable as to make him join you in choosing things for his baby? That's not what men are for! And twenty minutes??? Goodness, you irresponsible woman! Anyone might think you expected him to be interested in his children's things 
Some might suggest that, if a man couldn't be arsed to spend one third of one hour showing an interest in providing for his baby, he might take the children outside instead of grumping around the shop moaning at you. But, dear Tea, they would be wrong. Because he is A Man, you see. They must be humoured like ill-tempered gods.
You're jolly lucky he only punished you with sulking and ice-cream deprivation. He is not behaving like an overtired 5-year-old: I mean, he is, but one should never ever say so! No, a woman's role is to serve and be sorry.
YABVVVU
As an aside: where the fuck have all these Handmaidens come from? Are you all docile newbies, or is this some sort of invasion from a surrendered wives forum?
Morloth & SGB excepted
I'll just have to suppose you two are having a shite night!
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