To wonder what's the shittiest thing someones ever said/done to you?

[annabanana84]

Something happened when I was 18. I fell pregnant. I was in a relationship at the time, even lived with thR bastard, but boy they were shit times but I thought I was 'in love'.

Anyway, I told boyfriend who said I had to get rid of the baby or I'd be out on the street. Property was in his name. I told my family. They said i'd have nowhere to live neither and i'd be on my own. I believed them completely, and I was forced and bullied into a termination and on a winters day I was marched to the hospital by my mother and bastard boyfriend (let's just call him cunt from now on, terrible word, but fitting).

As soon as I'd got the hospital gown on, Cunt said he had to go because the football was on and he couldn't miss it. I had the termination and my heart almost killed me with the pain that the baby inside of me was being murdered by my consent by me being there.

I was discharged and went home, was lied on the couch feeling really upset but trying not to show my feelings, and my grandmother told me to stop being so pathetic, and that I'd only had an abortion.

I now am 30 almost, still childless and suffer from fibroids. If I ever cannot concieve, I will never forgive those bastards.

Sorry it's so long, just never told a soul and it still hurts.

Anyone else want to pour their hearts out? It's quite cathartic I must say!

I had a MMC 4 years ago and spent the day before my 21st in hospital waiting for a D&C. The tablet they gave me to soften my cervix was giving me painful cramps. I was crying with pain, physical and mental.

All my mum could say was "Wait until you actually have a baby, then you'll know pain."

2 months before I gave birth to my daughter last year she said "You won't cope with labour, what with the state you were in last time and that was probably nothing!"

It's nothing compared to the other stories shared tonight but it really hurt to hear that, she's my mum, I needed support.

There are some other things, but this really sticks with me: at about age 13, my mother telling me that the only reason my friends were friends with me was because next to me they looked good. That still hurts.

Also, I'd had years of back problems caused ny big boobs. I finally plucked up the courage to have a reduction. I had two options of where to have it done, option A with no support after, option B with support after. Option A was where I was living. My best friend talked me into staying (option A), because she'd come around every day to check on me and help with things. Did she fuck! Eight days out of hospital and I spoke to her about what she'd been up to (busy with work - ok..). Then she told me that she was going to stay in bed all day because last minute, the night before, she went out to a friend of a friend of a friend's party. I hadn't been eating properly, hadn't been sleeping properly and needed someone to help and had told her - and she knew i had nobody else. I realised then what sort of priority our friendship (and I) were to her. Pretty painful.

God there are some seriously twisted nasty people around. :(

I don't recall any single event, my mother just spent years saying nasty things to me, now I don't have any contact so there is no chance of any more nastiness :)

I feel so sorry for all the posters on this thread.
Some people are just evil . It just shows how

After years and years of verbal and sometimes physical abuse.
After finding out I was self-harming and severely depressed, she told me I was just a miserable fat cow and I was copying her.
What hurt most was the fact my so called mother refused to believe that her "partner" sexually abused me as a teen and implied that I encouraged him by play fighting.
I still can't forgive her, I tried to move on and invite her to my wedding and offered to pay for her passport and everything but she refused. She told me she didn't want to meet my DS1 either.
After that conversation, I could feel that my heart was broken.
I've spoken to her twice in the past 4 years.
I've cut her out of my life because she is toxic.

I don't have a father and all I ever wanted was a mother who loved me for who I was and treated me well. I'll never that but I'm trying and failing to do that for my DCs.

Other bad things are being sexually abused as a child by a relative and a family friend on separate occasions. I've never told anyone that.

anna How sad - Im so sorry that happened to you.

I had a relationship with a man who sucked me in, told me he loved me and when I got accidently pregnant he refused to discuss it with me at all and vanished, never to be seen again. Looking back, the relationship was entirely wrong but I was in a terrible state. Like you my family were also unsupportive of my decision to have the baby. He sent me abusive and threatening emails after he found out his family was aware that he has a child he has chosen to ignore. The CSA is now chasing him for child maintenance and he has denied paternity I don't care about him anymore but I will never be able to understand his cruel treatment of me or forgive it.

I was raped and sexually abused for years(can not believe I've just admitted that on here)from being tiny till I was 11 years old.None of my family know apart from my husband.

Got bullied in secondary school because I was slim and the boys liked me,I was anorexic.

Was force fed by my father,I'd became anorexic because of the assaults and crap going on at home.

First husband,raped me lots of times(I didn't realize at the time that if your husband forced you against your will it was rape)he treated me and the children like shit,got us into loads of debts,made me quit work,stopped me having any friends,wouldn't let me learn to drive and lots more.

Oldest brother and his side of the family stole from my wedding.I have nothing to do with any of them anymore and my parents stopped talking to him for awhile and my parents and lovely brother(second child I'm the youngest)have nowhere near as much to do with him or his side of the family anymore.

Second partner buggered of whilst I was pregnant with our first child(my 3rd)because his Mum was a mad fucker who choked him with her apron strings,came back we sorted things out then I found out that he'd started taking drugs whilst living back with her(her infulence)I kicked him out and then found out I was pregnant with my 4th LO.

There's loads more,but I'd be here all night.

Yikes these are awful. Last year my father killed himself suddenly and out of the blue. But brother let me know... By email! Not the worst thing that's ever happened to me but one that has irked me for a long time and wonderfully indicative of my dysfunctional family.

When my parents found out I was being abused by a family member, turned a blind eye and did nothing about it. That one still smacks...

I can't say too much because I don't want to be identified, but a friend stealing 2 grand off me whilst I was on maternity leave, and my dad saying when I was 12 "you're like the opposite of an anorexic, they're thin and pretty and they think they're fat and ugly, you're fat and ugly and you think you're thin and pretty" I tried to kill myself for the first time after that.

When on a night out with my brother and some friends my brother told a girl who was showing interest in me, "I wouldn't go,out with TLC, his last girlfriend was raped and murdered". Which was true. I went home. Lump in my throat just repeating it.

There are some horrendous people out there, I'm so sorry that everyone has had these horrendous experiences, hoping your futures are much brighter x

Met a guy and thought we were soulmates. He lost his job, moved in and started talking about marriage. I got pg and we subsequently got married. A couple of years in after supporting him emotionally and financially in the belief that he felt the same way and that we were building a future together I received a text from a family friend. She informed me that they'd had a long term affair, got engaged and then he had insisted on her aborting their child. She and her best mate hassled me with texts, picture messages and calls to confirm it all.

He initially denied it and then admitted it. Like a fool I believed him when he said it had been a huge mistake and wanted to rebuild our marriage. He then secretly applied and got a job at the other end of the country with a gf that he could cocklodge with.

He chose to tell me the marriage was over on our anniversary and that he'd always known that he didn't want to be married but had felt he didn't have a choice. My dmil then chose to tell me it was hardly surprising because I was too old and boring for him and that I should never forget that my dd was theirs.

Between the pair of them they destroyed all my misplaced happy memories of our time together. I lost all confidence in my ability to read a person's character. The only bright spot is my dd who I adore but also means that I will never be entirely free of him.

Nurse in casualty when I went in (pregnant with much wanted baby after fertility treatment) with stomach pain.

"Oh, you,ll be pleased to know your pregnancy test was negative!"

No. I was devastated to know my baby had died!!!

I didn't want to read and run. My heart goes out to you all and I have read every single one of your posts. I'm so glad you are all here and able to share your tales because life does go on and we have to, for our friends and family and dcs that do love and need us. Be kind to yourselves.

I was bullied at school by this one particular girl over several years. She once hit me with a had a metal baton on the back of my head. The teachers were powerless at the bullies. I've googled her, searched for her. I dreamt of walking up to her asking if she remembered me? I will never forget her name and would love to get in touch with that bitch. Most of all I would like to understand why she was like that. Selfish, cruel, unkind.

I also had an ex whp used to always leave the room when I entered because I wasn't white. I too want to write to that bitch a real letter telling her that people died fighting for our freedom against the ethnic cleansing. She was degree educated and her husband used to apologise for her beliefs.

Part of me wishes to think it is nurture/ environment but I can't help thinking these people are born like this. That inherent selfish superior streak. Sorry folks to here your injustice. The biggest revenge is a life well lived. Keep well.

TLC :(:(:(

There is nothing that's ever happened to me that compares to the op. I'm so sorry that it happened to you.

and massive respect for all of you - to have endured and survived these terrible experiences shows incredible bravery.

I salute you all - those who have not posted as well as those who have.

My EXH standing up in court and telling everyone I was a drug addict and never fed my DC properly (I never take drugs and I am an excellent cook).

My DD grew up in care because of his spitefulness .

A colleague telling me I'd 'moved off that street just in time, after that house blew up'

"That house" was the house I grew up in. I lost my mum and grandad when that happened. And I live one street away.

I'm not sure that compares to some of the posts on here though. Such sad things

Mine is also ex and termination related. He booked a holiday and left the country for two weeks the day after (the termination that I had to go alone to) he then returned and put up baby photos of his relatives children that he had been been having fun with on his holiday while I had been going through hell. I left, never looked back, he wasn't a good person, he is the ony person who I don't wish well in life. Sadly or maybe justly I will never be the same person after this experience, it was years ago now and I try not to dwell on it but ask god for forgiveness.

My brother saying "oh good you can come to my wedding now" after my first MC (baby was due on the wedding date which was abroad).

He also announced his wife's pregnancy with a "See, we managed it first time!". Insensitive bastard. I will never forgive him.

I have subsequently had two gorgeous girls. When his wife suffered a MC, I offered nothing but empathy. He was distraught.

Also my DM (during her wild mood swing menopause and me aged 17) declared she "wished she had lost me at 20 weeks" when she had had a bit of a scare. Then whacked me around the head, cutting my forehead with her ring. I was rather challenging at that age, but no one deserves that.

These words stay with you unfortunately.

I am in tears reading these. I can't believe human beings can treat others so badly and I am so so sorry you've all had to go through such awful things.

The worst thing anyone has ever said to me was my mum telling me she was dying. She'd had a successful liver transplant after having cancer and she was doing brilliantly, I began to hope and breathe and want to live again but it was discovered the cancer had spread to her spine. She died aged 43, when I was 10. I still cry with longing for her.

expat I will always remember your beautiful Aillidh.

I can't read and run but want to give to everyone who has posted. To those who have lost a child I wish you peace. Words fail me.

My mum telling me i was a crap mum and my son would not make it to his second birthday and she was going to come take my baby - all cos i had PND

My ds is now 5 and happy and has a baby sister.

The worst thing (barring the death of a loved one) for any one of us is relative.

As an Ex DV victim, my stories would horrify others, but not me. The little things I didn't think were that bad so shared were the things that often were met with open mouthed shock and in some cases, gasps. But others would tell me things they didn't think that bad, and I would gasp.

Looking at my life and some of the things i've been put through by parents, siblings and my ex, and reading the heart rending stories here, it's been helpful to recall the things that have hurt me most and for me to remind myself that these things don't reflect on me, they reflect those that meant me such ill-will as to have to inflict their cruelty on me/my family for their own sick purposes.

It's not US, it's them. As hard as it is, we have to refuse to allow deliberate cruelty to define us as people. We can't be defined by what OTHERS CHOOSE do to us.

To all those who have suffered losses of loved ones, of children, i'm so sorry that you have had to feel such monumental sadness, and I hope that in time the rawness subsides.

Anna, that's so horrible. I'm sorry that happened to you.

When I was 16 and a virgin, I was raped on a night out with friends. My best friend at the time (who was there at the time and knew I was locked in the room with this guy, against my will) decided to tell our mutual friends that I was a "slag" and "slept around" She had even accompanied me to the STD clinic.