To wonder what's the shittiest thing someones ever said/done to you?

[annabanana84]

Something happened when I was 18. I fell pregnant. I was in a relationship at the time, even lived with thR bastard, but boy they were shit times but I thought I was 'in love'.

Anyway, I told boyfriend who said I had to get rid of the baby or I'd be out on the street. Property was in his name. I told my family. They said i'd have nowhere to live neither and i'd be on my own. I believed them completely, and I was forced and bullied into a termination and on a winters day I was marched to the hospital by my mother and bastard boyfriend (let's just call him cunt from now on, terrible word, but fitting).

As soon as I'd got the hospital gown on, Cunt said he had to go because the football was on and he couldn't miss it. I had the termination and my heart almost killed me with the pain that the baby inside of me was being murdered by my consent by me being there.

I was discharged and went home, was lied on the couch feeling really upset but trying not to show my feelings, and my grandmother told me to stop being so pathetic, and that I'd only had an abortion.

I now am 30 almost, still childless and suffer from fibroids. If I ever cannot concieve, I will never forgive those bastards.

Sorry it's so long, just never told a soul and it still hurts.

Anyone else want to pour their hearts out? It's quite cathartic I must say!

[musicismylife]

expat :(

[nevergoogle]

Following my parents divorce my dad said he was surprised I was the only one to keep contact with my Mum, especially as I was the one she always hated the most.

Nasty bastard.

He gave up with his crap after a while and behaves like it never happened.

[soorploom]

aside from all that happened after this event, the hurt etc..... the nature of it really gives me the creeps.
we had a BBQ at our home to get to know a few new folk and catch up with some friends. I was 6 months pregnant and sitting in the garden with feet up and one of dh's colleagues came to have a chat. like girlies do, we had a laugh about all sorts and got on really well. then she told me that she thought she had been pregnant but it was a false alarm as of the day before. she played with my dcs, helped with washup etc. when she was leaving she gave me and then dh a v friendly hug. was a bit ott, but then left.
on holiday a week later dh told me of their affair and that he couldn't be married to me any more.
long story short we are still together
tbh the thing that gets me is not the sex or sneaking around that they did but the calculated, cold, deceptive arrogance that makes up the cruel, mean nature of what they did.

there. I am aghast that I still feel the need to vent

big hugs to all with a story and all those who have been through the emotional wringer just reading them .

[dipitydoyou]

My ex after six years together ending our relationship in a text message saying he loved me but wanted to be on his own.
He changed his number, moved to another city and completely and utterly broke my heart.
We have 'mutual' friends on facebook now and I would love to have the courage to e mail and say why? but I'm married, very happy and if i'm being honest I don't want to look like a tosser. I presume he just met someone else Bastard.

So sorry op this is nothing in comparison to your story I know. It felt good to write it down though. Wishing you a very happy future

[LilyBossom]

My ex screamed in my face I was a crap, lazy mother feeding my week old daughter while I was lying down and he was going to buy some baby milk and take her away from me and I would never see her again.

[littlemslazybones]

My Mum suffers with a serious mental illness which was undiagnosed and untreated for much of my childhood.

When I was 12 there was an incident when she tried repeatedly to throw me through my bedroom window. It was one among a lot of terrifying incidents. What marked this one out above the others was my response. I was so exhausted by all the shit that I started goading her, 'go on then, is that the best you can do' and I genuinely meant it. It's the only time I have felt properly broken in this world.

[Milkywaysandbump]

Not as bad as everyone else's experiences and I'm sorry to everyone who has had such a shit time.

The crappest things anyone has ever said to me are: My sister telling me I hadn't prayed when I had my first miscarriage and then telling me that lack of praying was causing my babies to die.

My brother telling me I was after my inheritance and telling my other brother this too even though my dad is still alive. It hurt me because it was wholly untrue and I'd wish my dad an immortal life if it were possible, that's how much I love him.

[TartanRug]

My ex boyfriend. We had been going out for 18 months when he told me had some news for me and that 'Melanie's pregnant'. I asked who Melanie was to be told 'my wife'.

[EmmaKate1985]

Thank you KellyElly!! - I haven't learned how to 'do' the flower icon thing! I'm too thick lol!!

[KellyElly]

Let's all have some

[EmmaKate1985]

NeverGetTheBestOfMe - sorry - now reading back I realise that the flowers were for the OP! - Thought I'd clarify as otherwise my first sentence would sound a bit weird!

[EmmaKate1985]

KellyElly but I meant to add I don't regret it.

[EmmaKate1985]

KellyElly - I've cut my Dad off this year and tbh it's the most difficult thing I've ever done.

[EmmaKate1985]

NeverGetTheBestOfMe

Thanks for your good wishes! It sounds that at least your mother wasn't a bully, but everything else in your post sounds very upsetting and I'm really sorry you had to go through that. I'd have been crying my eyes out too. Well I did, tbh, just by reading the original post on this thread.

[JesuslovesmethisIknow]

Can I just give you all a hug (hey I am even going to give myself one whilst I am at it!)

We are stronger than we think - cos we are still standing

to all

[NeverGetTheBestOfMe]

OP I know exactly how you felt, the same thing happened to me when I was 20. I got pregnant by surprise and my bastard boyfriend made me have an abortion. My mother didn't really say much about it. I went on my own and was also very upset. My boyfriend never even mentioned it again (we broke up shortly after.)

The worst part for me was about a year later I saw him in a pub and he said to me he had thought about things and maybe it would have been good to have the kid. Knowing how much it had hurt me I just walked away and cried my eyes out.

A big bunch of for you OP.

[KellyElly]

EmmaKate1985 Yep, there's always an enabler. My step dad was one of those. People find it strange as I wasn't upset at all to cut them out, I just felt a sense of relief to be honest. People still say, oh but one day you'll make it up. No, I really won't!!

[EmmaKate1985]

KellyElly - Sounds like you did TOTALLY the right thing in doing that - that behaviour just can't be condoned and in a similar way, my Mum's comment to me was tame compared to some of the other things she did over the years. My mum died earlier this year - but I'm considering cutting my Dad out as he enabled my Mum's behaviour.

[KellyElly]

EmmaKate1985 I've had to cut mine out of my life. That comment was pretty tame compared to her destructive actions over the years!

[EmmaKate1985]

Thank you GutterFlowers as well as everyone else who has made compassionate comments - yes - I thought I'd had it bad until I read some of these...

[GutterFlowers]

Awful experiences on here... for all of you. xxx

[EmmaKate1985]

My mum was an alcoholic and a bully so if I posted everything she'd said/done to me - I would be honestly here until Christmas typing!!

[EmmaKate1985]

KellyElly - I had exactly the same experience with my mother - OK not quite the same subject matter - she blamed me - aged 9 - for the fact that she was still in a sham marriage with my father!!!

My conclusion now that I'm an adult for my Mum's behaviour is that she was an emotionally immature woman who found aspects of adult life too difficult to handle.

[bigTillyMint]

Pag, that is so horrible

And Night-Scented - how awful

And GetOrf

How can parents/relatives be so nasty to their own?

[LeGavrOrf]

Good fucking grief.