To wonder what's the shittiest thing someones ever said/done to you?

[annabanana84]

Something happened when I was 18. I fell pregnant. I was in a relationship at the time, even lived with thR bastard, but boy they were shit times but I thought I was 'in love'.

Anyway, I told boyfriend who said I had to get rid of the baby or I'd be out on the street. Property was in his name. I told my family. They said i'd have nowhere to live neither and i'd be on my own. I believed them completely, and I was forced and bullied into a termination and on a winters day I was marched to the hospital by my mother and bastard boyfriend (let's just call him cunt from now on, terrible word, but fitting).

As soon as I'd got the hospital gown on, Cunt said he had to go because the football was on and he couldn't miss it. I had the termination and my heart almost killed me with the pain that the baby inside of me was being murdered by my consent by me being there.

I was discharged and went home, was lied on the couch feeling really upset but trying not to show my feelings, and my grandmother told me to stop being so pathetic, and that I'd only had an abortion.

I now am 30 almost, still childless and suffer from fibroids. If I ever cannot concieve, I will never forgive those bastards.

Sorry it's so long, just never told a soul and it still hurts.

Anyone else want to pour their hearts out? It's quite cathartic I must say!

[makemineamalibuandpineapple]

My ex said some pretty horrible things to me but probably the worst was when he called me a freak for having epilepsy.

[BiscuitsAreMyDownfall]

My mum asked me if my Granddad had abused me as he had abused my then 13 year old sister. She had Downs Syndrome unsure if thats relevant.

[flippinada]

Some of these are awful. How can people say these things? It's so cruel.

My own "favourites".

When I was around the age of 11, my mum attempted suicide (she survived). Me and my sister ended up staying with my stepmother who at first was very kind but then seemingly "turned"on us. I was constantly told I was stupid, hopeless, no good at anything etc. Her daughters of course were absolute paragons.

Anyway, one day I was helping her change the bed clothes. I was struggling as my mum had never shown me how to do it. I will never forget her hissing this at me in a vicious voice: "No wonder your mum tried to kill herself, you're so useless you can't even put the duvet cover on".

My Dad is still married to her.

Second one

When I was suffering with severe PND my abusive ex told me "You're not sick, you just want to have PND because your mum did" and "you're not ill you just can't be bothered looking after DS".

[flippinada]

((())) to all of you.

[ItsTheOnlyWayToLive]

expat and anna, so so sorry

[notanyanymore]

This is stupid compared to others, but being called a 'fat ugly mong' by DP 3 months after having a baby and a stroke in the same week.

[Pawprint]

I was very badly bullied at secondary school. It almost ruined my education and definitely led to me getting two bad reports although I did mess around a bit too There was one girl who took great pleasure in getting the whole class to stop speaking to me for a year. She was horrible.

I know I was mean too - I treated a dear friend at school absolutely appallingly :(

Apart from that, I've had some nasty bosses and at least one EA relationship.

[CharityFunDay]

This is stupid compared to others, but being called a 'fat ugly mong' by DP 3 months after having a baby and a stroke in the same week.

Please tell me s/he's now XDP.

[StackOverflow]

My father, to my sister at a barbecue at his house:

"It's nice to have my biological family and my spiritual family (his second wife and her son from a previous relationship) in one place!"

He also used to sign cards "Dad & family".

We now speak about twice a year - it's not as though he considers his daughters family, after all. Still hurts, though.

[StackOverflow]

... have to add for clarification: my father is a hardcore New Ager. When he says 'spiritual' that roughly translates as 'a hundred thousand times more important than any physical realities'.

[EmmaKate1985]

OP, I was crying bitterly when I read this because I am feeling similar VERY ANGRY feelings regarding my mum and the abortion issue. I SO wanted to hug you as I feel I can relate to the justified anger you're feeling, although my situation isn't factually identical to yours.
Although you feel concerned about your fertility, many women who've had abortions go on to have children naturally. Also, this is what I said to another woman a few months ago who'd had a termination (and like you) - not her fault! - I feel that not even death can fully sever the love and the ties between mother and either born nor unborn baby so at some level I feel that the baby knew you had no choice in the matter and would therefore, now want you to be happy.
Therefore, even if some days you feel you don't want to make an effort to achieve your goals for yourself (as I don't, often!!) - try and do it for the sake of the baby that never was, and in time, I feel good things will start happening for you. You're only 30 as well - you have plenty of time on your side!
But the way the adults and your ex partner behaved was unforgivable and I feel you deserve so much better!!!!

[Beckyboo4]

My MIL much calling me fat after I had lost my precious daughter at 24 weeks pregnant the month before. Never forgotten or forgiven

[YoureAllABunchOfBastards]

Bloody hell, there are some arseholes out there. Glad I haven't had to encounter them, and sorry so many of you have.

[0utnumbered]

All the stupid things my prick boyfriend has ever done that have left me in tears of anger look so insignificant next to this story so I'm not going to reply with a story but it broke my heart to read & I just wanted to say
I sincerely hope you have a new lovely partner and are blessed with a beautiful little baby soon.

[cooeeyonlyme]

Dp got down on one knee, pulled a ring box out if his pocket and proposed. Then laughed in my face because it was a big joke at my expense. I was devastated because I had always wanted to get married. I don't think I have ever been so embarrassed.

[Pawprint]

Coo OMG some joke! What a prat. That is a truly cruel thing to do.

[Whocansay]

cooeeyonlyme I sincerely hope you're not still with that cruel bastard.

[ZingWantsCake]

coo



please tell me you are not with him.
I would have ltb on the spot.

poor you

[JesuslovesmethisIknow]

I hope you stuffed the little box up his nose.

what a nasty nasty thing to do and I am so sorry that happened to you - you did not deserve that.

I repeat - you DID NOT deserve that.

to you xxxxxxxx

[KellyElly]

My mother saying it was my fault she's had an abortion and as a result couldn't have more children (I was nine) because I said I didn't want brothers or sisters.

My ex calling me a 'rape case slag who deserved everything that had happened to me' in an argument - referring to a rape as a teenager and sexual abuse as a child. That was particularly hurtful and resulted in me smacking him round the face and then him telling people he was the victim of unprovoked domestic abuse!

[hiddenhome]

Some of the corkers from my mother include:

Announcing to me that she was going to go upstairs and take all her medication whilst I was on the phone to her 20 miles away. It was punishment for an argument that we'd had. I rushed to get the bus home to find her sitting upstairs happily watching tv and eating ice cream.

Having to fend off phone calls to her whilst I was sitting at home due to go into hospital the next day to have my dead baby removed from my body. She was phoning me to find out when I was going to give her some money and take her shopping.

Being on the phone to her whilst staying in the hospice with my first dh. He was basically dying and she was complaining to me about how the food I was having was nicer than what she was having. The last straw came when she berated me for refusing to take her to the vets with her cat because I had to go with dh to the hospital for his palliative radiotherapy to relieve the pain he was in.

Stealing some slide photos of my late father and me as a baby from my house, refusing to return them when dh phoned her to ask for them back then, when I offered her £200 for them, happily handing them over.

Needless to say I don't see her anymore

[cooeeyonlyme]

Yeah still with him. I wrote a thread about him last year but have name changed since then.

[mum2bubble]

Anna and expat - my heart goes out to you, as indeed it does to all of you who have shared these sad experiences here.
It angers me that people can be so unbelievably callous and insensitive. I visited an old boyfriend for a week years ago, and the day I left he took his own life. A few weeks later, a colleague said 'no wonder your friend killed himself, having you as a friend'.

[LessMissAbs]

Nothing as bad as some of these, but my boyfriend "got together" with my best friend in a party at my house a few months after my father had died, and she lied to me then dropped me like a stone. They are married now and he is a serial cheat.

A more recent boyfriend, after we had a disagreement, admitted to mutual friends that he had another long term girlfriend that he had told no-one about, then thought I was being most unreasonable when I dumped him!