To wonder what's the shittiest thing someones ever said/done to you?

[annabanana84]

Something happened when I was 18. I fell pregnant. I was in a relationship at the time, even lived with thR bastard, but boy they were shit times but I thought I was 'in love'.

Anyway, I told boyfriend who said I had to get rid of the baby or I'd be out on the street. Property was in his name. I told my family. They said i'd have nowhere to live neither and i'd be on my own. I believed them completely, and I was forced and bullied into a termination and on a winters day I was marched to the hospital by my mother and bastard boyfriend (let's just call him cunt from now on, terrible word, but fitting).

As soon as I'd got the hospital gown on, Cunt said he had to go because the football was on and he couldn't miss it. I had the termination and my heart almost killed me with the pain that the baby inside of me was being murdered by my consent by me being there.

I was discharged and went home, was lied on the couch feeling really upset but trying not to show my feelings, and my grandmother told me to stop being so pathetic, and that I'd only had an abortion.

I now am 30 almost, still childless and suffer from fibroids. If I ever cannot concieve, I will never forgive those bastards.

Sorry it's so long, just never told a soul and it still hurts.

Anyone else want to pour their hearts out? It's quite cathartic I must say!

[hobnobsaremyfavourite]

My brother used to look at me and say "God you're ugly".
And my dh wonders why my self esteem is shit and I loathe photos of me :(

[picnicbasketcase]

I'm so sorry for all of you who have lost loved ones, and equally sorry that so many of you have been treated so horrendously by those who should love you most.

[Pandorassox]

sosha I am absolutely and about what your exh said about your little baby! What a vile person he is!

I don't have anything that comes close to some of these

for all of you

[emmelinelucas]

to all who posted.
I have cried on and off all afternoon, but yes, it has been cathartic.
My worst ever was when the shit of exh (who battered me, my pets, stole from me, lied continuously, alcoholic etc) beat me because I wouldn't go to a family party (free booze)because the BIL who molested me for years would be there.
I cracked and, appealing to any compassionate molecule in his body and told him why I wouldnt go.
His response ? "well, you deserved it "
He is dead now.
I wasnt sorry.

[BinksToEnlightenment]

My worst was my mum telling me that she wished I'd never been born. This was when I was aged eight. I've heard and been through some crap since then, but nothing else has affected me like that. I'm mistrustful inside permanently because of her saying that.

[Dawndonnaagain]

My mother deciding that I was a fat teen, then putting me on a diet and beating the shit out of me if I didn't lose 2lbs a day. Ignored the call from the hospital telling her I was having my anorexia treated.
When I was nine or ten, grandparents bought me party shoes. Black watch tartan and black patent winklepickers, the height of fashion at the time. She put them on me to walk the three miles to visit my Dad in hospital, and the three miles back. The shoes were ruined, due in part to the amount of blood inside. I couldn't walk for days. I know now that she did it because I wasn't allowed anything nice, only my her or my sister.
We don't speak strangely enough. However she recently sent ONE of my twins a birthday card with a tenner in it and a note to email her behind my back. My sister did point out that to her, the ultimate prize would not be splitting up twins, but splitting up my twins. My beautiful, clever twin dds, got together, 'phoned her, and told her to fuck off! They are 17 and I am proud.

[middleclassdystopia]

My abusive adoptive father telling me I was "a fake and a phoney and the only reason people liked me was because they didn't know the real me."

Also he made me stand on scales at the age of 12 and told me I was "a fat cow."

[thegreylady]

These are all far far worse than anything that has happened to me.Even the death of my dh aged 44 did not come close to the death of a child or the systematic abuse some of you have suffered.
DawnDonna I think you will know why I single you out and say-now I understand to all of you.

[Angloamerican]

We had a baby daughter who died in utero last year. We were told early on that she had a condition that meant she almost certainly wouldn't survive the pregnancy. Most difficult was the drip-drip of the medical tests and the results. Literally every week was worse news, but until the end there was always that glimmer of "maybe next week's tests will be better." They never were.

We told my parents about our pregnancy and the poor prognosis, in a single phone call (we live overseas). We also told them the name we had chosen for our daughter. The name of a 1930s actress, it's quite unusual. My mother paused and said, "If she survives, will you keep that name?"

After our daughter died our priest conducted a short service where we scattered her ashes. When we next Skyped with our parents we told them about the service (we'd told them our plans the week before but they'd obviously forgotten about it.)

Me: "We scattered (daughter's name's) ashes last week."
My mother: "Who?"

And she wonders why I don't like her much.

[TheDietStartsTomorrow]

Wow, just wow. Isn't it so sad what we endure in this life. The pain that so many of us mask. The saddest thing is that it's the ones we love most that end up hurting us the most. It's the power that love gives.

Sending a bit of love and to those of you who have had such horrific experiences in life, although I know such a gesture can do little to console those of you still hurting.

[MyBaby1day]

Mine happened today!, a man who came into this country with nothing who I grew to love and adore (as did my Mum), he was in a very oppressive job (crap wage, not treated well etc.) and each day we would go down to see him, take him food etc. He would call me his little Sister (he didn't have a Sister) but I ended up falling madly inlove with him and told him. It was his Birthday a few days ago and we bought him heaps of gifts, gave him money etc. and took him out around town, then cinema and a restaurant, he even put on his Facebook status how much we ment to him. But today we walked him to the railway station and he turned. For a start I have an illness (he knows all this) and he didn't want to get in the lift, saying he prefered the stairs and would meet me, ( but in the end, after some coaxing, he did get in the lift)!, then as I held his hand (I do this for comfort) he said how if I come to Romania to see him he wouldn't let me do it, his friends know he doesn't like that kind of thing and if he had a girlfriend he wouldn't let me do it (that broke my heart) . I replied if I had a boyfriend I wouldn't do it to which he then called me cheap and said something about 2 boys, my Mum was there and I said "I have never cheated on a boy, tell him Mum", but she just shook her head (but I felt didn't defend me enough), then he said if I overcrossed the line he would return all my gifts to the doorstep . I'm crazy about him, worship the ground he walks on, would marry him in a heartbeat and he does this. We even said we'de try and get him to live with us when he returns to England next year. Tomorrow is his last day here and am unsure whether I'll go down and see him now, would LOVE to see him one more time but can't forget it. He was only saying earlier how he had a nasty side, he has, and now I've seen it. Feeling sad as it can't be unsaid now.

[MyBaby1day]

VERY true TheDietStarts, the power of love.

[CharityFunDay]

Good God, there's grim reading at every turn on this thread. Good thoughts to all here who have suffered and are suffering.

[rattlemehearties]

mybaby1day you sound young and it sounds like you've had a lucky escape to be honest. When a man tells you who he is, listen.

Really feel for everyone who has posted in this thread.

[Sparklysilversequins]

My Mum told me repeatedly through my childhood that she wished she had "got rid of me" and "flushed me down the toilet". She used to spit in my face a lot too and I was never allowed to wipe it off.

Last year she told me she could see why my, in all ways, abusive ex H had treated me as he has.

My ex did many awful things, too many to go into here but the ones that stand out are ringing me up when I was 8 months pregnant and telling me to go out and post his Dad a birthday card. It was January and so icy and cold and snowy. I said I was worried about going and falling over and he called me a selfish bitch etc. i felt really guilty so I went, holding onto walls and sliding all over the place. Later I found out he was having an affair with someone he worked with and had been since I was 5 months pregnant. He put me and ds at risk like that when all the time he was shagging someone else.

When concerns about autism for ds were raised and I felt like the world was ending, like you do, he said "there's nothing wrong with him, you've got that Munchausens and WANT him to have it to get attention yourself".

There's loads more equally as bad but I would be here all day!

[ILoveAFullFridge]

20y after finishing 2ry, a classmate contacted me to say that she felt bad that I had been bullied and wondered whether it had affected my life as an adult.

WTAF?

If you were aware that I was being bullied, why didn't you do something about it?

And of course it's affected me my whole life!

(But perhaps that email was cathartic for you, and you no longer feel guilty for having stood by?)

[TortillasAndChocolate]

My now ex partner and dad to my little boy has said and done horrendous things but the one that springs to mind now is I was going into hospital for major surgery and in a row he said 'I hope you fucking die in hospital'.

[Mama1980]

My ex refusing to come and see my 24 week premature son who they didn't think would survive the night as it would be too difficult and it might be for the best if he didn't make it he had already walked away from me but that....that....
If I could have killed him at that moment I would have happily. My son is now 9 months, healthy, happy and just amazing.

[ILoveMakeUp]

My son is now 9 months, healthy, happy and just amazing.

So happy to hear this, Mama1980.

[TeaCuresEverything]

my dad telling me when I was just 14 and at a very impressionable age that I was ugly and my then 3 year old sister was 'worth ten of you'

to be honest I doubt if he even remembers saying it now (alcoholic) but it affects my self esteem to this day and I will never forgive him for saying it.

[SkinnybitchWannabe]

I was going to write down my story..but after reading all.of yours it seems ridiculously trivial now.
to you all

[DeckSwabber]

I had a very normal childhood. Parents never fought. Dinner on the table every night. No casual violence or raised voices.

But when I was a child (I don't know how old, but on two separate occasions a few years apart) my mum told me that my dad would have drowned me in the bath if I'd been born disabled.

My dad was a very gentle man so I can't see it happening.

What I got from it was that their parental love was not unconditional, and also that I could not count on my mother to protect me.

[GruffBillyGoat]

Nothing compared to these stories, and my heart goes out to you all.

As a child, after a fall where I hit my nose quite badly (weeks later fully healed), my mother informed me that she had started a fund to pay for my nose job before I was born (in case I had my fathers nose, I do) and was so disappointed that she had spent it because it looked like I would be needing it now. I was called big nose right through school, but that comment hurt more than years of names.

I will always remember the lovely girl who started in our last year of primary and when she heard someone call me big nose, she turned to me and asked why the hell were they calling me that, my nose was a perfectly normal size. Turned out she was right and my face did grow to fit it, but in the eyes of my mother and former classmates it will always seem huge. Mum still makes the occasional comment about it.

Then this week, my partner who had been unemployed for almost a year and only started work a month ago (when he announced that now he could buy me an engagement ring) dumped me out of the blue. Saw a conversation he had on his fb wall where he publicly stated that he dumped me because I don't have a job (I lost my job just before he started his). Would be much easier if I didn't still love the fucker. And when I told my father his first question was not "what happened?" but instead "what did you do?" because it had to have been my fault.

[JumpingJackSprat]

Im so so sorry at some of the shit all of you here have had to put up with. What a credit to yourselves that you're still putting one foot in front of the other. take care everyone

[ZingWantsCake]

the person I thought was my best friend said she was relieved that I had a MC (5th pg) because she had thought I would have struggled with 5 kids.
she said she was happy about it!
she is no longer my best friend.
And I went on to have 2 more children...

The snakebitch that my Dad cheated on my mum with omitted my mother from his eulogy.
my parents were married for 25 years, but my mum was not mentioned in either his "life story" or amongst the people who mourned his death.

I don't know if I can ever truly forgive either of them.