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AIBU?

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Just been really upset by someone, AIB too sensitive?

180 replies

whyrpplsonasty · 18/09/2013 15:53

So I was just at an induction and was to be fair, probably the oldest one there so the rest of them tended to congregate together and only one made the effort to include me. Not a problem.

But one of the women/girls kept looking at me and sniggering. I told myself I was being paranoid but it was becomming really obvious. Her friend then looked over and looked back at her to ask what she was laughing at. The girl then whispered (honestly) something to her and they both burst out laughing . I let it go but I was starting to get a bit upset and angry at this point. Minutes later the girl came over to me and said "sorry about before, I wasn't laughing at you, it was something else." I just said "ok no worries" and she then pulled out her mobile and said "do you mind if I take a quick picture of you? I'll delete it afterwards." I asked what for and she said she'd text her boyfriend to say I really looked like Peter Griffin and he didn't believe her so had asked for a photo.

I told her she was offending me and asked her to leave me alone or I'd report her. She was sweet as pie from there on but I feel so down now. I'm home now and I can't get it out of my head. I'll be working with her next week too which just makes it even worse.

Sorry for the namechange but I am embarrassed by it all. :(

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BiBiBroccoli · 18/09/2013 19:58

God what a vile person - I just can't believe anyone would be so bitchy and foul.

Report her. I feel so upset for you. Nobody should have to put up with this kind of shite.

Shall we all come round en masse and buy you a drink/knock her head off?

beginnings · 18/09/2013 19:58

Report her. No question. If you're at an induction, she's still on probation. I'd fire her immediately.

catgirl1976 · 18/09/2013 19:59

If you work in a public place, let me kn ow. If I am ever passing I will come in, point and giggle at her and then ask if I can take a photo of heras I told my DH she looks like some whose entire soul is rotten but he didn't believe me so I need a picture

BigW · 18/09/2013 20:04

OP my mouth literally dropped open when I read your post. Utterly utterly vile, as others have said. I actually can't believe what I am reading. As frog said, she'll get hers.

Floggingmolly · 18/09/2013 20:09

Please report her, op. You get the opportunity not to have to work with her (hopefully). At the very least, she'll be given a warning which should teach her to keep her foul nonsense to herself.

WillowKnicks · 18/09/2013 20:18

OP I'd rather be you than her and I would be devestated if my dds ever said anything like that.

Exactly that...I would be beyond ashamed if she was my DD, she has shown herself up, not you!!

Sianilaa · 18/09/2013 20:20

OMG OP! That's disgusting, YADNBU. Where did this happen? Please report the nasty bitch.

And you're doing well with your diet, don't give up xx

cakebar · 18/09/2013 20:25

That is so horrible, please do report her. If a member of my staff did this I would give them an official warning and be watching them like a hawk. I hope you can put it behind you soon x

ThatVikRinA22 · 18/09/2013 20:25

how old was she?

i would have gone apeshit - i also had to google - im appalled that anyone could actually think it ok to say that to someone.

i would report it. i really would. if this is how this woman behaves on an induction imagine what a bitch she can be when she gets her feet under the table.

she deserves disciplinary - i would report her asap. If you had been in a wheel chair or black she would not have got away with it - why should she get away with cruel jibes about your appearance? bitch.

report and dont feel guilty.
i reported someone i worked with for doing something that was totally beyond the pale - they were disciplined and they simply avoid me now. job done - suits me. i remain professional but the person in question clearly finds it very difficult to speak to me on a professional level - their problem - not mine. they overstepped the mark and i made sure they knew.

do it or you risk setting yourself up as someone who does nothing when bullied.
people leave me alone now and it suits me just fine. they can have their opinions - as long as they keep them to themselves in my case.

YANBU and that woman is a first class bitch.

flyingspaghettimonster · 18/09/2013 20:27

People at uni can be just as cruel as kids. I was referred to as the 'fat ugly munter' byy friend's flatmates - I have never forgotten it and I wasn't even very large back then. try not to notice it... they just do it for reactions and to feel popular. pathetic.

pigletmania · 18/09/2013 20:28

Omfg how old is she 8! Please op ignore te silly little grl, she will soon realise tat her behaviour will not be tolerated in the adult environment. Totally unacceptable, hod your head up high when you are at work and try not to give her anther thought

AgentZigzag · 18/09/2013 20:33

No need to feel crap pet.

Thank your lucky stars you're not her

twistyfeet · 18/09/2013 20:39

you are not being over-sensitive. What an awful experience and what an awful cow. I would report it like others have said as that girl will go on to hurt others.
Well done on your weight loss and dont let her stop you

SuzySheepSmellsNice · 18/09/2013 20:45

What a fucking bitch. Report her.

nowwhat · 18/09/2013 20:45

Please report her!

Don't let it spoil your success with your diet this week, 2lbs is amazing! There are over 160 people on this thread outraged on your behalf, she was completely in the wrong. I'm actually shaking my head at the nastiness of it.

VitoCorleone · 18/09/2013 20:48

Fucking hell! Ive never heard such rudeness in all my life!

I hope next time she decides to be such a cunt she does it to the wrong person and gets a fucking good hiding. Id happily give her one.

Turquoiseblue · 18/09/2013 22:50

Please report her. You re fab, new job, losing weight, don't let her being an asshole wreck that for you. Nip this bullying behaviour in the bud. The quicker you stand up to her and stop it then t can't develop into anything more. Go official route / hr or supervisor tomorrow morning, cut and past your post to an email.
Do this for re lovely successful person you are who deserves to be treated with mutual respect in the work place and who isn't going to be trod down by a vacuous idiot like her. If anything you need to maintain professional standards and show the group you re here to do your job and will do it with pride but not be stood on. I am so angry on your behalf.
A wagon like that would be good motivation in the gym at a kick boxing class :)

CocacolaMum · 18/09/2013 22:57

Tell someone ASAP about this utter bitch.

mumofthemonsters808 · 18/09/2013 23:16

Agree with everything that has already been said, even though this experience was awful please do not let it knock your confidence. She will not be losing any sleep over her cruel behaviour so I'd try not to mull it over. You will have the last laugh with this vile girl. I'm angry on your behalf and I'm upset that people are made to feel like shit by silly, insensitive, immature remarks.

festered · 18/09/2013 23:21

Report her, definitely.
One thing I cant stand , that people do to overweight people is not understand that causing upset does exactly what you said, it makes it harder for them to lose weight.
Very unreasonable behaviour!

ZillionChocolate · 18/09/2013 23:22

Whether it's a course or a job I think you should report her. She'll be looking to bully other people too.

namechangesforthehardstuff · 18/09/2013 23:30

I know you've had loads of really supportive messages here OP. I just wanted to add - I have a mate who is a really really good looking bloke - I mean drop dead gorgeous. He is also the spitting image of P C Plum (who is not gorgeous). So I guess my point is that you can resemble something a little bit but not actually look like it Iyswim?

Just in case you are actually worried about that

GoodbyeRubyTuesday · 18/09/2013 23:43

What a piece of work. Please report her.

Helpyourself · 19/09/2013 08:15

I really hope you're feeling better and uplifted by this support OP.
No one has thought you were being over sensitive or that the other woman is anything less than an utter bitch.
Everyone on this thread would rather be you, have you as a friend, and be mortified if anyone we loved had had that said to them or said that.

Sparkletastic · 19/09/2013 08:25

Where are you OP?

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