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Just been really upset by someone, AIB too sensitive?

180 replies

whyrpplsonasty · 18/09/2013 15:53

So I was just at an induction and was to be fair, probably the oldest one there so the rest of them tended to congregate together and only one made the effort to include me. Not a problem.

But one of the women/girls kept looking at me and sniggering. I told myself I was being paranoid but it was becomming really obvious. Her friend then looked over and looked back at her to ask what she was laughing at. The girl then whispered (honestly) something to her and they both burst out laughing Shock. I let it go but I was starting to get a bit upset and angry at this point. Minutes later the girl came over to me and said "sorry about before, I wasn't laughing at you, it was something else." I just said "ok no worries" and she then pulled out her mobile and said "do you mind if I take a quick picture of you? I'll delete it afterwards." I asked what for and she said she'd text her boyfriend to say I really looked like Peter Griffin and he didn't believe her so had asked for a photo.

I told her she was offending me and asked her to leave me alone or I'd report her. She was sweet as pie from there on but I feel so down now. I'm home now and I can't get it out of my head. I'll be working with her next week too which just makes it even worse.

Sorry for the namechange but I am embarrassed by it all. :(

OP posts:
frogwatcher42 · 18/09/2013 16:04

Is it local authority or NHS? Or a private company.

Asking because if local authority etc you are practically guaranteed support if you speak to somebody about it I should think.

Roshbegosh · 18/09/2013 16:04

What a nasty bitch. If you get an opportunity you could tell her quietly and privately that her behaviour was terribly hurtful and did she mean to be cruel.

QOD · 18/09/2013 16:04

What a friggin bitch!!!!!

I'd have a word with personnel, how can you work with her?

iloveweetos · 18/09/2013 16:05

YANBU!
keep up with the weight loss, don't let stupid little girls affect your hard work so far!! :) x

Thumbwitch · 18/09/2013 16:06

What a bitchy thing to do to you! How mannerless of her!

So sorry that she put you through that, OP - YANBU. She needs a sharp lesson in manners, that one.

wannabedomesticgoddess · 18/09/2013 16:06

What a nasty little bitch. Shock

2lbs is great! Keep going! I think you should report her to H.R. But then that would involve you telling someone face to face ( which I couldn't do, I have experience of similar). Perhaps you could put a complaint in writing?

Iheartcrunchiebars · 18/09/2013 16:07

You have to be a seriously unhappy, vile person to make comments like this. As hard as it is, try and ignore her. She must have a horrible life to have to make other people feel bad to make her feel better.

DoJo · 18/09/2013 16:07

I would report her if possible - she sounds like a spiteful piece of work who needs to be held accountable for her rudeness and apparent inability to appreciate the importance of keeping your trap shut if you have nothing nice to say.

KellyElly · 18/09/2013 16:08

That is bullying plain and simple. Report her. There's no place for that in the workplace or anywhere else!

Lcbirdy · 18/09/2013 16:08

I agree. Report her, no question.

Sounds like you're working hard to improve your quality of life/ health. Keep going and you'll achieve it. She, on the other hand, will always be a bitch.

Tricycletops · 18/09/2013 16:08
Shock

What was it an induction for? A job? I think you need to report her to HR.

gamerchick · 18/09/2013 16:08

She's a bully and you should put a complaint in about it. Nasty little bitches need to be reigned in as quickly as possible

TheCraicDealer · 18/09/2013 16:08

Is this an induction for a uni course or a job? Whatever it is, she needs to know that this behaviour is unacceptable in any environment. Report her. You're not overreacting, this would knock me for six Thanks

KoalaFace · 18/09/2013 16:08

What. The. Actual. Fuck.

What a little bitch.

I can guarantee that she never thought you looked anything like Peter Griffin and it was all about her looking hilarious and bold in front of others or possibly even to just make herself feel like some kind of popular, queen bee.

Please report her and then carry on with your work with pride because you don't have to act like a spiteful little bitch to feel good.

And well done with your diet. If its making you feel good don't let that little twat derail you.

I'm furious for you Angry

Tricycletops · 18/09/2013 16:08

Sounds like you're working hard to improve your quality of life/ health. Keep going and you'll achieve it. She, on the other hand, will always be a bitch.

This.

encyclogirl · 18/09/2013 16:09

That is beyond vile. OP you are not being oversensitive she is an evil little bitch.

I would report her too.

HandMini · 18/09/2013 16:09

I just had to add my twopence worth, even tho its no different from everyone else's because I'm so outraged on your behalf.

She is a vile vile person and her blatant attitude shows she thinks she can get away with it and probably has in the past.

Please report her and make clear to your employer how seriously you take this. They should too.

And well done on your diet. Dieting is hard.

IronOrchid · 18/09/2013 16:09

She targeted you because you were outside of the group. Typical bully behaviour. If it wasn't you, it would have been someone else.

That's my rational opinion. Other part of me wants you to ram her phone up her left nostril, but that's probably not helpful. Ram it up her right one instead.

sparklekitty · 18/09/2013 16:09

Next time you see her ask if you can take her picture. When she asks why smile and tell her your DH didn't believe that you've found someone whose personal ugliness shines through onto their face quite so much.

Or a bitchy comment about something she's wearing.

Alternatively smile coldly and say how lovely it is to see her again

Chrysanthemum5 · 18/09/2013 16:09

Was it a university induction? She sounds like she's trying to establish herself as funny, and popular. You are not too sensitive, if anything you've been too nice.

Take comfort in the fact that people like that (assuming it is new students) are used to be the cleverest, and best in their group and often get a huge shock when they are suddenly not the cleverest person in the room.

You sound very nice, ignore her and focus on you

TinyTear · 18/09/2013 16:09

Definitely report her!

SuperiorCat · 18/09/2013 16:09

OMG what a horrible woman - please report her.

And please don't allow such a spiteful baggage to upset you.

Fenton · 18/09/2013 16:09

That is Unbelievably rude.

Take no notice, next week you will most likely have lost another 2lbs but she undoubtedly will still be as socially inept as a giant 2 year old.

Igloofornow · 18/09/2013 16:10

You poor thing, what a spiteful little birch (I don't use that word lightly).

Her opinion matters nit a jot, do not let het get to you and be grateful you are better than her.

auntmargaret · 18/09/2013 16:10

YANBU, she sounds really nasty and spiteful. I would take that further, tbh, and report her to the boss. If its an induction, they can maybe get rid of her before she starts there. She sounds like she would cause havoc in a workplace with that level of nastiness. Please don't let her get to you.

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