Just been really upset by someone, AIB too sensitive?

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So I was just at an induction and was to be fair, probably the oldest one there so the rest of them tended to congregate together and only one made the effort to include me. Not a problem.

But one of the women/girls kept looking at me and sniggering. I told myself I was being paranoid but it was becomming really obvious. Her friend then looked over and looked back at her to ask what she was laughing at. The girl then whispered (honestly) something to her and they both burst out laughing . I let it go but I was starting to get a bit upset and angry at this point. Minutes later the girl came over to me and said "sorry about before, I wasn't laughing at you, it was something else." I just said "ok no worries" and she then pulled out her mobile and said "do you mind if I take a quick picture of you? I'll delete it afterwards." I asked what for and she said she'd text her boyfriend to say I really looked like Peter Griffin and he didn't believe her so had asked for a photo.

I told her she was offending me and asked her to leave me alone or I'd report her. She was sweet as pie from there on but I feel so down now. I'm home now and I can't get it out of my head. I'll be working with her next week too which just makes it even worse.

Sorry for the namechange but I am embarrassed by it all. :(

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Spiteful cow! She obviously needs to make someone feel bad to make herself feel good. This is a reflection on her, not you.

Don't let her put you off track-2lbs is FANTASTIC. In the days/weeks/months/years to come she will still be a nasty,mean individual. Hold your head up high & realise you are already in a different league. Do report if you feel able-there is no way that you are the only person she is targeting.

Have a big hug from me :)

This was all about her and not you. She felt the need to establish herself as a leader/cool/ popular/funny to the rest of the group and could only do this by belittling someone else (as she so obviously lacks any people skills). If you had been in a group she would never have singled you out and it would have been someone else. I'm sure she has done it before and will do it again. It's more common than you think, similar thing happened to me about 10 years ago, but I knew what she was up to and had a go at her. I'm not sure what HR can do, although if you really want to get her a bad name you could mention how distressed you are to be likened to the leader of the BNP! Don't give this waste of space the satisfaction of letting it get you down.

I was shocked by the rudeness and meanness of this even before I'd googled Peter Griffinn to see what he looked like. Report her.

And well done on your weight loss - please don't let her spoil how good that makes you feel.

There aren't enough words to express outrage at both what she said and the arrogance in saying it and asking for the picture.
What a vile evil little witch. If she's capable of this at an induction imagine having to work with her - report her to hr immediately.

Report her immediately, no employer wants a nasty bully like her on their staff and if she's like this on induction, just think what she could be like after her probationary period. Please please please don't let this horrible bitchy little c* get away with it! on your behalf

Contact HR and ask to see their docs on workplace bullying.

If you are not feeling confident, you could just ask to speak to someone to see if you should report it. Get her name flagged up.
Sadly, or it may be a comfort, you will not be the first or last person she does this too.

However, if you are feeling strong, a quick factual report yo HR is the best course.

OP, you are not being sensitive. What this person did was offensive straight up and down.

Please go to HR and make a complaint. It is entirely wrong that this bullying person should be permitted to work in any organisation.

God I'm speechless and so angry for you.
How dare she!im afraid I'd have wiped the floor with her cos I'm a bit hot headed.
Please report her and let us know what happened.
Extremely unprofessional to say the least.

If you are worried about what the company will think, which you absolutely shouldn't be, check your induction pack. They will likely have a "whistleblower" phone number to call for advice.

Please don't let this go. If you have to work alongside this bully she will simply get worse.

OMG I've just googled! I'd have knocked her head off!

She's a spiteful shallow little bitch. Was this a work thing? If it was you really should complain.

Nothing different to add, just that she is nasty & spiteful & immature.
I expect everyone else at work will see that too sooner rather than later.

Just question her on anything else she says or does towards anyone which is even in the slightest bit similar.

Wow, what a cunt - I do not use that word lightly. You responded in a very dignified and polite manner. You are a hundred times the woman she will ever be, so hold your head high and report that twat!

Do you want me to come and duff her up for you?

Totally disgusting! I would report to hr or new line manager asap.

What a raging bitch.I really commend you for your dignity in this situation, and as hard as it is, try not to dwell on the words of a pathetic, insecure little cow. It may have been her trying to make herself look big and clever in front of others, but I guarantee the rest of the group will have thought she was a prize shit, and admired your graceful response.

I have no idea who Peter Griffin is.

But - that woman is a total fuckwit. Report her. I'm sorry you've put up with that awful bullying. Put a stop to it ASAP. Hold your head up - walk tall.

OP don't let the little shit put you off your diet. Most of your new colleagues will already think she's a nasty little idiot. People aren't daft when it comes to spotting a prize twat.

Wow.
You know what?
You will continue to lose weight and look and feel amazing.
But there's no cure for being a cunt.
:)

She sounds horrid. Well done for standing up for yourself.

what a bitch!

just so you know you can lose/gain weight ... however she is stuck with that ugly nasty personality for life!!!

What a nasty little cunt-weasel! She's lucky you didn't scream "take a photo of this bitch" and then shove her phone up her backside.

Don't let this poor excuse of a human being derail your good work - she doesn't deserve to be given that much power. Do report her though because although you are rightly hurt and humiliated by her cruel comment, you acted with great dignity and restraint which indicates a fair amount of inner strength. You won't be her only victim and she may pick on somebody who really can't cope with such bullying and doesn't have mumsnet to rally round and call the evil little twit all sorts of profane names on their behalf.

Sorry that that happened to you .

What a spiteful nasty bitch. Please report her.

This was said to you in a professional environment?! Report her to someone senior. Disgusting way to behave anywhere, never mind at work. Try not to let it upset you-some people are entirely ridiculous and rude.