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Would you wash mouth out with soap of 12 year old Son

322 replies

SilverStreak7 · 16/09/2013 17:38

He KEEPS using the C word .. Out of all swear words I hate that the most .. Would you wash his mouth out with soap ? I am aware he may swear outside (which Im not pleased with) but in front of me disgusts me . .

OP posts:
InSpaceNooneCanHearYouScream · 16/09/2013 20:59

Thanks for clarifying that JesusInTheCabbageVan Grin

Tee2072 · 16/09/2013 21:00

Man, I miss all the fun. That'll teach me to watch illegally downloaded episodes of Newsroom rather than pay attention to Mumsnet.

Even if it was the series finale.

Fenton! You're back!

Cake Cake for Olivia.

SilverApples · 16/09/2013 21:03

Pipkin my poppet, the OP is a grown up and should act like one, with better self-control and better judgement.
The 12 year old is a child.
Did you mean to sound pompous and pretentious and patronising, or was that entirely accidental?
Or have you wandered away from your usual haunts into the zone labelled 'Here Be Dragons'?

Dawndonnaagain · 16/09/2013 21:03

Pipkin, waltzing in and behaving as though you are head girl isn't going to get you very far around these parts.

hobnobsaremyfavourite · 16/09/2013 21:05

the op's posting history is....erm...interesting.

usualsuspect · 16/09/2013 21:06

Pipkin, I would maybe name change for your second post.

usualsuspect · 16/09/2013 21:07

I thought the OP was ok on another thread I was on.

Well she did agree with me on it ,so she must be ok Grin

SilverApples · 16/09/2013 21:08

'Pipkin, waltzing in and behaving as though you are head girl isn't going to get you very far around these parts.'

What about all the Chalet School types, and the Mallory Towers Gels? Might they not enjoy the company of a new chum?
As opposed to the sort of chum that involves sharks and rather a mess if she roams the boards freely? Could someone be her pal and help the newbie?

Pipkinhartley · 16/09/2013 21:10

Anyfucker, thanks for the welcome and advice. Wasn't being patronising or posting as a mum, just from my view on this particular thread.
Gnb, don't know if the op is as rude on other threads, if that's the case, not excused but if that's the case why not just ignore?

AllThatGlistens · 16/09/2013 21:11

Ahhh a baptism of fire Grin

usualsuspect · 16/09/2013 21:11

It's no fun ignoring.

I'm bored ,DP is,watching football.

diddl · 16/09/2013 21:11

I'm ShockSad & Angry that people do this & have had it done to them.

I thought that it was just a well, saying-I didn't realise that it was carried out!!

HairyGrotter · 16/09/2013 21:11

Pipkin, you come across as a bit of a cunt Wink

AnyFucker · 16/09/2013 21:13

Don't come crying to me then, Pipkin. (sticks with the Bossy Mum theme)

AllThatGlistens · 16/09/2013 21:13

I just don't know why people would call us vipers, we're such a shy, retiring bunch that clearly relish newbie guidance Grin

Pipkinhartley · 16/09/2013 21:14

Nope, not wandered in, just offering an opinion.

AllThatGlistens · 16/09/2013 21:14

Diddl actually going back to the OP for a sec, it's horrifying isn't it, and then to read that some posters see it as a normal part of childhood, just Shock

SilverApples · 16/09/2013 21:16

'but if that's the case why not just ignore?'

Because she was threatening to scrub out her son's mouth with soap. so she needed to be told that it was abusive and wrong.
If he's 12, he may be big enough to fight back as well. It's not an acceptable choice.

MadBusLady · 16/09/2013 21:21

You jolly well oughtn't to be beastly to newbies, you girls!

Pipkin, IME people often arrive on AIBU threads and have their say when it's been running for an hour and the OP has changed their position. Bit annoying, but a hazard of comment threads generally, and also sometimes the new comments add something. AIBU is a bit of a free for all anyway (some people avoid it altogether) and people won't hold back about emotive topics like this one. Also you'll notice quite a lot of the later conversation about abusiveness in punishment was related to other people's experiences, not the original question.

Pipkinhartley · 16/09/2013 21:22

Made it clear I don't agree with what the op suggested, as did most on this thread. I was referring to the suggestion that you ignore on the basis of her other posting history.
Hairygrotter, agreed, you are right!

gobbynorthernbird · 16/09/2013 21:22

PH, I was just pointing out that some people react rudely because they're rude. Not because they are at breaking point.
And some people then wonder why their kids are rude.

cory · 16/09/2013 21:23

How do people even manage this physically (supposing they should want to)? Confused

At 12, ds was already bigger than me and though he is a gentle soul I hardly suppose he would have stood still and opened his mouth for me to shove soap into it. I wouldn't if I were him.

MadBusLady seems to sum it up nicely:

"Don't you feel like a complete fucking primitive moron?" I know I would.

LadyBeagleEyes · 16/09/2013 21:23

Weird thread,
I love a weird thread I do.

Pipkinhartley · 16/09/2013 21:25

Gnb, fair point.

cory · 16/09/2013 21:27

Have just read Silverapple's description of how it is done Sad- but still don't see how you get a child of almost adult size to stand still and not gently push your hands away unless you have bullied them to the point where they are physically scared of you and will put up with anything.