My mother put my DD in care of a total stranger

[Noodle1963]

Ok I am new to this, but feel I have to get this off my chest. 1st August first day of annual child care 2 DD's with parents whilst I am at work (in the same town). DD2 and mother came to place of work and I asked where DD1 was, mother replied she has gone off with Lucy and her parents. Who I asked are Lucy's Parents? They are the the daughter and sil of my neighbour. Where has DD2 gone? and do you have a phone number? I don't know and no I have no phone number. As this point my mother stormed out of my workplace saying I can never do anything right. I had to inform my boss that I needed to find out where and who my DD was with, so locked the shop (in a state of panic) and went to see the neighbour, she gave me contact details of her daughter and I was able to phone and find out what was happening myself.

I went to pick my kids up after work and was then told to P--S off and get out of our lives by my Mum and Dad in front of my kids!

I was then in a state of shock and had to find alternative child care for the next 6 weeks of the holiday. My mother has not spoken to me since but has tried to contact my kids, I told her I want an apology for the kids and for me and the phone was then put down on me.

All this because I was concerned about my child.

I let my 9 year old go off to play at the houses of his friends' parents all the time. Some of these parents I've only met once or twice to exchange small talk. By that age it's really not practical to have an in-depth knowledge of everyone your child might be with.

If my mum knew who my DD was with and thought they were ok, I'd be happy to trust her judgement.

I think your mother's behaviour in swearing and having a strop is unreasonable. As for the friend - would have been different if she had swapped contact details. The fact that she didn't was irresponsible of her.

Your mum should have checked with you first. But to virtually disown her over it? Total over reaction.

If you want a child care provider to do exactly as you want - pay for it.