Before my friend "A" and I met she had been friends with my DP for years. DP and I were both mutual friends with A. That is how we met, she thought we would be a good match and introduced us 7 years ago. Fantastic.
Obviously because they have been friends for so long they occasionally text which doesn't bother me in the slightest, I know they don't have any romantically inclined feelings for each other. He has often said she is like a sister to him.
Anyway, I was playing a game on DPs iPhone while he pops round to his dbs house and a message from A popped up. I accidentally pressed it (really was an accident, as I was playing the game and hit the notice), and saw my name mentioned in the text so couldn't help reading it.
It said " Lol! do you want me talk to babybunny about it? Ill make her promise not to say anything to you about it."
Anybody seeing that message would feel inclined to read previous messages, wouldn't they? So I scrolled up and saw that supposed best friend and "d"p were talking about how much weight ive apparently gained. This is word for word how the text convo went:
A: hey, thanks for coming over last night. DH and I enjoyed seeing you both and your DD has got so big!! (We went to theirs for dinner last night)
DP: babybunny and I had a nice night as well. You cook a mean curry!
A: haha I know everybody loves my curries! Maybe though a salad would have been more healthier lol!!
DP: Ahh but who wants a salad on a Saturday night? Curry goes better with Beer! Babybunny doesn't like salads anyway.
A: yes I know... Maybe we should try to get her to like them though..before she puts on any more weight...lol...
DP: yeah maybe. ( I suspect DP didn't know what to say at this point)
A: you know I love her like crazy, but she seems to have put on a bit of weight.. Not good for her health!!
DP: Yea its been since DD was born. Do you have any suggestions? I've noticed this too but for obvious reasons can't say anything.
A: tell her to put down the pies lol!! Just joking! Talk to her about it if it were me I would like DH to tell me!
DP: are you joking? She will go apeshit. Definitely not guareenteed to put down the pies then!
A: Lol! do you want me to talk to babybunny about it? Ill make her promise not to say anything to you about it.
I am sitting here half devastated half furious! I can't believe the two of them have discussed this! Ok fair enough it wasn't for my eyes and they are probably worrying about my health but I am so upset and don't know what to say to DP when he gets back. Do i say anything to A? i already have self esteem issues and this has made me feel total and utter shit.i didn't think I was that fat. And they are both wrong, I do infact like salads!
Help? :(