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man shouted at my 3 year old for kicking

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ghostspirit · 08/09/2013 14:53

I took my children to chessington. and was in que for the ride. my 3 year old daughter had been kicking the man in front of us. ( i had not seen) He turned and shouted at her 'stop kicking me,don't you dare kick me' his tone and voulume of voice was a bit over the top. I told my daughter you don't kick its naughty. Then i told him she is 3 years old if there is a problem you talk to me not her. The woman who was with him said they have to be firm with their child because of some special needs he has and i said that may be your situation and you may need to talk to your son that way, But that does not mean its ok to talk to my child that way.

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usualsuspect · 09/09/2013 16:55

Shall we fill the rest of the thread with Brew and Cake

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ghostspirit · 09/09/2013 16:59

is it choc cake????

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FreudiansSlipper · 09/09/2013 17:00

yes i have Brew and rich tea stuff low carb diet

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ghostspirit · 09/09/2013 17:01

silver behind a computer screen people can play a part they have alot to say. if real life people are probably very different

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ghostspirit · 09/09/2013 17:04

am i being unreasonable not to share my cake

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Bearbehind · 09/09/2013 17:05

I didn't say you were ridiculous icebeing I commented that you had taken the OP entirely at her word and, given she didn't even see what happened, the whole thread is completely pointless as it it based on asking if someone was being unreasonable but we don't actually know what happened to them or know exactly the tone of his reaction as it has been some what embellished and contradicted over the thread.

KittieCat · 09/09/2013 17:08

Fill your boots, Ghost the cake is all yours. I'll share gin, too...

usualsuspect · 09/09/2013 17:13
KittieCat · 09/09/2013 17:25
SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 09/09/2013 17:27

Samu - according to the OP, the man reacted very strongly to what happened. It is far more logical to assume that this is because he was kicked (painfully and/or more than once) than to assume he would react that strongly to just being brushed once by the child.

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ghostspirit · 09/09/2013 17:37

3 year old kicks suspect. gets cake back for mummy Shock

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ghostspirit · 09/09/2013 17:40

and its not at all logical to assume. the man could have over reacted.

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Thepowerof3 · 09/09/2013 17:42

That's not fair I have no emoticons

confuddledDOTcom · 09/09/2013 17:46

Do you know I have lost count of the amount of children who've taken me off my feet by trying to walk off with my crutch. I'm weight bearing but when I'm expecting my weight to go through it I do tend to stumble at the very least. It hurts! I pull my pelvis where all the problems are and struggle to walk for the rest of the day, often needing to go to bed early. I have never shouted at them. My 4yo does it, has done since she could walk, she'll walk up behind me when my crutch is off the ground and walk under it so it lands on her shoulder and she walks off with it like a dwarf (hi ho) I wouldn't shout at her either.

So that's not a hands up from me.

I think people have been very extreme on this thread, yes he should have said something to the mother who's job it is to correct the child, not the child and he should have done so before he got angry enough to yell.

Bearbehind · 09/09/2013 17:47

and its not at all logical to assume. the man could have over reacted.

FFS- that's exactly the point, you can't assume your daughter didn't kick him many times either.

Good luck for the future, I hope you manage to make many more mountains out of molehills.

Runningchick123 · 09/09/2013 17:48

I think it is logical to assume that he was doing a decent job of keeping his sn child calm in the queue (which is often a very tough task) and so got mighty pissed off that an NT three year old was kicking him and the parent was saying nothing as she was too preoccupied to notice.

Helpyourself · 09/09/2013 17:53

I'm glad this has got a little better tempered. I was lurking yesterday afternoon and found the bullying tone pretty shocking.
Brew, Cake all round.

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ghostspirit · 09/09/2013 17:54

the mum was taking care of the child with sn. and she seemed rather nice was talking to my daughter. whilst the guy stood there with the grump

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usualsuspect · 09/09/2013 17:55

Oh give it a bloody rest.You have bashed the OP enough now.

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ghostspirit · 09/09/2013 17:55

helpyourself. i guess it all depends how the person is feeling. for me some days i can take it other days i cant some times it will make me laugh sometimes piss me off. guess thats that same with most people though.

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usualsuspect · 09/09/2013 17:56

Ghost, just ignore the sniping now.

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ghostspirit · 09/09/2013 17:57

I agree with suspect stop bashing me. or i will telling my little asbo

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TiggyD · 09/09/2013 17:59

Don't set the Chessington ninja onto us!!!

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 09/09/2013 18:01

You accepted he had kicked her - at the time and on this thread - but now you are backpedalling.

I am hiding this thread before you ask for a sainthood for your dd and a lynch mob for the man she kicked.

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ghostspirit · 09/09/2013 18:05

he kicked her??? ok inever saw that wish you had told me at the time Shock Shock

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