to consider a fussy diet as a big against for a potential new love

[glitternanny]

and I mean seriously restricted 2:

Proteins, one carbohydrate and the same lunch everyday.

Yes.

ExoticFruit and others making similar points. I don't see why being vegan or vegetarian means you aren't allowed to 'be fussy' aka can't help but dislike, certain vegetables.

I don't expect meat-eaters to like every kind of meat! I wouldn't think just because they like ham they will automatically like liver, or cat, or crickets, or bull's testicles.

East rather silly comparisons. Would you like draw parallels between crickets/ bull's testicles and any veg likely to end up on the average dinner table?

Yes, I would. Just because they aren't average to you, doesn't mean they aren't to other people. But ok, liver then, most people don't like that, even meat eaters. Is that them being fussy?

If you don't eat meat for ethical reasons, fine, so what. But if you then be fussy about what veg you eat, you're annoying.

Fussy eaters are often just so full of themselves. Aw diddums, you don't like green veg? So fucking what, you're a grown up, eat it anyway, and stop complaining about it.

They can dislike a few, but any more than that is fussy eating. If someone comes to my house I ask what they don't eat. Most will have a couple of things- any more than that and I wouldn't ask them again!
Fine for a vegetarian to say they don't eat nuts or mushrooms- impossible if it is a list as long as your arm and amounts to the fact you can only think of a couple of meals to serve.

Gosh am a bit surprised at how judgey people are about what food people choose to eat. They're not limiting anyone elses diet, who cares what someone else eats. If they're a pain in arse to cook for then tell them to bring their own. It's not so difficult to accommodate other peoples preferences surely.

Why are you not allowed to dislike certain vegetables, simply because you have taken an ethical stance against animal cruelty?
If you used to be a meateater and didn't like sweetcorn, you are suddenly supposed to like sweetcorn all of a sudden because you've stopped eating animal flesh? We are all entitled to have taste preferences and not like everything!

I would love to know what would happen if there was a sudden global shortage of the prescribed foods in a fussy eaters diet.
Would they choose to starve over, I dunno, trying something else?
I think not.

Lacking in imagination, are we, exotic?

You can have all the preferences you like, but if you're known as a fussy eater, it must mean you bang on about it. So the secret, I suppose, is to keep it to yourself. I'm sure there are plenty of fussy eaters that aren't known as such. Be one of those.

I think some people don't eat beef but will eat chicken on semi-vegetarian grounds because cows are much more intelligent (and much nicer) than chickens.

And don't be one of the " oh, I'm such a special snowflake that I must sit as far away from anyone at the table eating onions/ garlic/ mushrooms as I'm allergic"
Except you're not allergic, are you SIL, it's just your faddy diet of the week like your only drinking goat milk phase, your no gelatin phase, your no fish phase.....
All things you eat quite happily now.

Katie maybe they would.

DS's paediatrician told me to carry on giving him milk rather than making him get his protein from meat, cheese, eggs etc none of which he can stomach, because he is self-limiting.

This happened with my friends little boy. They took the milk away and it didn't encourage him to get protein from anywhere else and he actually won't drink it now so has a lot of prescription things to keep him going.

If starving and there was only meat, I'd just vomit so wouldn't be able to take in any calories. Same as meat eaters might if faced with raw meat, offal or human flesh

Vault, I'm talking about adults, not children.

Run for the hills.
My cousin has a similarly restricted diet & it is annoying to cater for her. She has a long list of foods she doesn't like/eat and a tiny list of foods that she will eat. I do think she has serious problems because she does not like cream cakes.

I have issues with a lot of foods because of their texture, this is why I rarely eat meat. I am not vegetarian but find it easier to say that I am if I am eating out or at a wedding for example, as it is less complicated than explaining my issues.

I love cooking though and spend hours creating meals that I can't eat, the family love it though! I remember spending 2 days preparing food for a dinner party, and I had a jacket potato. My guests understood and still had a great time. Having food issues doesnt automatically mean that someone is anti social, anti food or had no imagination or spontaneity.

Just read about your PITA SIL, yes I see

I love her really but she drives me insane when she calls them " allergies"

I know someone who is a vegan, fair enough, difficult to cater for but not impossible. However, they have also decided that they won't eat wheat (can't remember the reason they gave, but not allergic/intolerant, I think more on ethical grounds). That really limits them.
I think I would be wanting to know if the "fussiness" is a result of considered moral decisions, which isn't fussiness at all, or just being very unadventurous - in which case, don't get involved.

I love cooking but my husband (now an ex) didn't like eating much. He would only eat cheese and tomato sandwiches, but wouldn't eat tinned tomatoes or melted cheese His evening meal would consist of a small tin of tuna and a jacket potato. It was a nightmare. When I started dating after our divorce I used to ask the egg and chips question. If they liked to eat something like that then they would eat almost everything. Had many years of cooking and experimenting with food to an appreciative few.

The egg and chips question? I'm intrigued. How did you phrase it?

It wasn't a first date question. They would have thought I was mad. Just by chatting really about food and slipping into the conversation that I like either egg, beans and chips or sausage, beans and chips because they are easy and quick and gauge their response. Then go in for the kill by talking about things like asparagus, linguine, paella and risottos.

'The man behind the squash'

My observation over many years is people who are odd about food are often odd about a lot of other things too

I think that's reasonable. I'm odd about food (but not fussy about it) and I'm definitely odd about most things. I'll try virtually anything and eat most things, but only on my terms. I don't eat meat of unknown provenance, for example, for ethical reasons. I'd eat it if a friend made it for me, of course, but given the choice, I won't contribute to the market. I also have a phobia of a certain root vegetable and respond ridiculously to its presence in my direct vicinity. Fortunately it's rarely served whole and I can stand its presence if someone orders a meal containing it when we're out. I accept that it's pretty mental to actually fear a vegetable, but it's not something I have control over. It's also usually a very avoidable vegetable in restaurants and life in general. plus all my friends know and find it hilarious so wouldn't serve it to me at their houses other than possibly as a cruel joke

I love food, but I couldn't date someone who took food too seriously, or questioned my choices (by which I mean judgementally, I'll happily discuss my more eccentric views with anyone!). They simply wouldn't be compatible with my outlook on life