Pictures of sick child in hospital on FB?

[TheWomanWhoMisplacedHerHusband]

Close-up shots of very sick child sleeping/with drip in arms/trying to smile for camera with balloons people have given them with updates like 'thanks for the balloon they cheered her up a bit' taken by parents have come up on my feed (they don't know what's wrong with child yet).
Aibu to be a bit shocked at these?

Like I said earlier, that is the view of one person and one person when the world techonolgy wise was very different than it is now.

Your post seems to suggest you find blogs more acceptable that facebook? I find that strange when blogs are more likely to be read by strangers whereby facebook which is for most people people they know is less acceptable.

I think Porridge made a very good point. And I don't disagree with it.

Like many posters, I was just surprised that the OP hadn't recognised why parents might do this and at least been able to show some sympathy for their position, whether or not she agreed with their actions.

But I've concluded we're all just being goaded for the sake of it. That achieved, OP has bogged off.

I am not assuming none of the posters were poorly as a child. She is just one of the few people on this thread who have share their pov as a child and not as a parent.

And the insight of an adult who has been the sick child is a very interesting one to get an idea of what could be the consequences for that child as adult.

A blog is different a FB post. Because thats PUBLIC to the entire world, rather than FB which is for people you have chosen to engage with, privately. You're agreeing with porridge by arguing the precise opposite of what she says?

Also, FB do not own your photos and do not use them for any nefarious purposes. This is an urban myth bandied around by people who don't really understand how FB works.

I posted earlier on in the thread my iences of fb with my very poorly dd I would be not only incredibly sad but furious at letting anyone onto my very private facebook or into my life like any of the deluded posters above or the cretin that is the op. I hope to god you never find yourself at the bedside of your child in hospital!!! You have no clue what it's like.

Mrsdever and expat I am so sorry for your losses and that you had to see this thread and the nonsense spouted from some posters.

Twunk I hope your wee one Is getting better, take care of yourself.

YABVU

Okay, I haven't read all messages.

But OP, I do find your attitude disgraceful and by the way, it is neither here nor there whether you 'agree in this instance (or not) with people who post pictures of their sick child'. It is none of your business.

Parents of a sick child are the only ones who have the right to decide whether to post photos, how, where and when. It is absolutely NONE of your business OP. Please go and do something useful, rather that criticizing parents who got already enough on their plate.

Facebook as a lifeline. Heard it all now.

If that's the bit that stood out to you from that post, that alone, then I can only presume you are tr

*trolling. No one is that fucking ignorant.

Mitzy have you ever been in the position of being stuck in hospital unsure what the future is going to hold for your child?

Mitzyme, I don't know your circumstances, but yes, things like FB and Mumsnet can be and are a lifeline for people. People who are going through things that no one around them can really understand, but someone on an Internet forum or social networking site can, because they have been in that same position of sitting and fearing the worst and having to hold it all together.

When ds has been in hospital, FB and MN have been a life line for me, partly to maintain my sanity by talking to friends and people who understand, but also because ds has a rare genetic condition, and being able to talk about what is going on with people in other parts of the world whose children have the same condition, is actually invaluable.

Nope, still don't get it. Sick child, Facebook is the last place I would be.

ODFOD.

Starship just said it far more succinctly than I could.

It is a wierd reality sitting with your child in hospital. Having to make small talk with other patient's parents, negotiating your other children coming in and the practicalities of daily life going on, whilst having to deal with the horrendous stuff of watching your child suffer and have cannulas and blood tests. The last time ds was in I spent one night awake all night, with him propped up on me, whilst I held am oxygen mask over his face, because he couldn't tolerate having it on him.

Maybe it sounds trite to you, but being able to FB and talk to friends on here, helped me through that long night.

So you haven't been in that position then yet you still feel the need to judge?

I am 'lucky' compared to a lot on this thread the longest DS has spent in hospital is 12 days his other admissions have been between 2 and 10 days. When he was in for 12 days he was in HDU for 5 of them at that point I was truly helpless and could do nothing for him - everything down to nappy changes was medicalised. There is only so much time you can spend looking at the same 4 walls, so much time of the nurses 10 hour shift you can spend making small talk. Sometimes you need a distraction whether that is a newspaper or a look on Facebook.

I can't begin to imagine how those who are in For months at a time cope but I certainly wouldn't judge them for the way they choose to do it.

Well what I did do was stay with my DD who had meningitis. Never occurred to me to leave her side while her fingers and toes turned black.
Her beautiful long hair started falling out and I prepared for the worst.
Facebook no. If It helps others, shrug, I just don't get it.

You don't need to get it, just don't judge others who cope that way.

You don't need to leave the bedside to Facebook anyway.

Some people have children who are in and out of hospital constantly or have long treatment. For one common type of childhood leukaemia, the child may be having treatment for up to 3 years. I imagine there must be some sad, scary sleepless nights where FB is all you have because it's too late to make a phone call and you don't want to leave your child's side. Have some compassion!