I can't get my head around how many posters blame their MILs while their lazy (or absent) FILs seem to have escaped any disapproval. You do realise that history's going to repeat itself and even if you do half of what your MILs do, your sons and daughters will learn that women always do more domestic work than men? And your DILs will probably be on a thread in a few years time blaming YOU and not yours- or their- lazy husbands?
If a man does fuck all, it's partially his fault if his son does the same but honestly, when that son becomes an adult, it's no-one's fault but HIS if he does fuck all. Not yours. Not his Mum's.
I don't see many women in their twenties or early thirties blaming their dads for them having an inability to put a dustbin out when they left home. Or many young husbands blaming their FILs for their wives' inability to change a fuse. This is because women tend to realise that these are tasks every adult needs to do- and because men refuse to blame other men for women's incompetence when it exists.
Men who don't know and wont learn how to perform everyday life skills are selfish, lazy partners and dreadful parental role models. It's trivialising it to say it's a stark choice between putting up with it or leaving them because it's not just that women get exhausted with the responsibility for it all, it's the sheer resentment it causes, plus a dawning realisation that it's not incompetence, it's neglect and ultimately, a lack of respect that's crept into the marriage.
Putting this under the umbrella of housework is a trivial euphemism. Disrespect and a lack of care and feeling is a more accurate title.