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To think this is a little bit mean spirited

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TeaAndABiscuit · 18/08/2013 17:00

A friend asked me along to a spa day. Her and her husband are very well off (they work hard, don't begrudge them that at all) but have a bit of a reputation for being tight fisted (always last to the bar etc). It was quite expensive but I thought a nice treat. We came to pay and she said she'd cleared it already and I just owed her for mine as she had a voucher for hers. If it had been me I would have said up front I had a voucher and needed someone to go with and I would have shared the voucher. I didn't necessarily expect her to do that but I think she should have said something before booking. I can be over sensitive so I accept this might be the case here but this is a long line of similar situations. Not an earth shattering problem I know!

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everlong · 18/08/2013 21:37

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Nagoo · 18/08/2013 21:39

I wouldn't put it past the the tight friend's DH to have given her a BOGOF type voucher for a present....

lougle · 18/08/2013 21:45

No, everlong. £69 for one 30 minute treatment, plus access to the spa facilities for 3 hours and 30 minutes.

lougle · 18/08/2013 21:46

For the OP, of course.

For the friend, it was £34.50 for one 30 minute treatment plus 3 hours and 30 minutes access to the spa facilities Wink

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YellowDinosaur · 18/08/2013 21:48

See your latest post is a giant drip feed and totally changes the whole thread. If she had paid half price while you paid full price she is a sly bitch. You should have paid half of the total cost. She should have used her voucher towards her share and paid the difference in cash.

YellowDinosaur · 18/08/2013 21:50

So she uses her voucher for 2 sixths, cash for 1 sixth equalling half. You pay half.

YellowDinosaur · 18/08/2013 21:51

Actually given this I'd call her on it and tell her she owes you the difference. You don't want to be friends with her now anyway so nothing to lose. She ripped you off. Call her on it. Then tell her to fuck off.

mynameisslimshady · 18/08/2013 21:55

Yes for the friend it was £34.50 plus her gift voucher. For the op it was £69. The friend got a present from someone, why shouldn't she be the one to benefit from it?

emsyj · 18/08/2013 21:56

I don't think the OP is drip-feeding, I think she has just looked it up to satisfy her own wonderings...

OP, YANBU. Regardless of the new information. But especially so now that you know she used you to subsidise her own spa visit!

everlong · 18/08/2013 21:57

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emsyj · 18/08/2013 21:57

My understanding is that:

Spa day is buy one get one half price

Friend has voucher for equivalent of half price

Friend conveniently pays bill of one full price plus her voucher for half price

Friend charges OP full price

So friend has paid half via her voucher and OP has paid full price. 'Friend' has diddled the OP because if 'Friend' didn't have the voucher she would only have paid half in cash what the OP paid.

YellowDinosaur · 18/08/2013 21:59

No myname. For the friend it was £34.50 which was the value of her voucher. For the op it was £69. Because the op paid full price the friend got it half price - the value of her voucher. Hence her being a cheating bitch.

Op if you only looked up the prices during the thread I apologise for accusing you of drip feeding.

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emsyj · 18/08/2013 22:00

Yes definitely call her on it! If you are brave enough, and you want the friendship to be over anyway - ring her and ask for an explanation and listen to her squirm. People only do this stuff because other people let them get away with it.

YellowDinosaur · 18/08/2013 22:00

Everlong I was initially with you because the information about bogohp wasn't initially revealed. Now it is it totally changes things.

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TeaAndABiscuit · 18/08/2013 22:01

It was buy one, get one half price. I paid £69, 'friend' paid £34.50 with her gift voucher.

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YellowDinosaur · 18/08/2013 22:02

If friend had gone on her own she would have had to pay full price. She only got half price because the op went. She shouldn't have to share the value of her voucher, which was her gift. But she should spilt the benefit with the op.

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YellowDinosaur · 18/08/2013 22:03

The voucher was exchanged for one for afternoon tea for two. Which conveniently costs half of the spa price. So I think it's fair to conclude op has been ripped off here.

Call her and ask.

mynameisslimshady · 18/08/2013 22:04

I have a headache now Confused

You don't like her anyway so put it down to a lesson learned and avoid spas like the plague in future.

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TeaAndABiscuit · 18/08/2013 22:05

I only looked up prices during the thread. The value of the voucher is irrelevant. She paid half what I did and then deliberately hid the receipt from me. It's crap. I am going to have this out.

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Viviennemary · 18/08/2013 22:06

The friend was not upfront about the arrangments for paying, settling the bill first so the OP did not realised she was being scammed. I would drop her like a red hot brick. Who needs friends like this.

mynameisslimshady · 18/08/2013 22:07

Op can you clarify what the original issue was since you have only just discovered the bogohp.