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AIBU to hang my boots up and then retire from AIBU/MN?

156 replies

ComposHat · 13/08/2013 08:02

Right, been here for two years, learned a few things, had a few laughs, been impressed with the kindness and thoughtfulness of people and was helped through one particularly difficult episode.

But I've had enough. I'm closing my account down this week.

I'm not sure if things have got worse of late, or the scales have fallen from my eyes, but AIBU seems stuffed to the rafters with threads that don't sit right with me. Either they're goady (the 'classic' benefit basher thread endlessly recycled) trolling attempts or threads you know can't be true as they contain information that contradict what the poster wrote a couple a days ago.

I'm at the stage now, where I am so jaded that I treat nearly everything I read on AIBU with suspicion, which I know isn't fair on genuine posters. Which is a pity as AIBU should be and, at its best ,still is a brilliant resource and source of mutual support.

To be fair, I genuinely don't know what, if anything, can be done by mods/MNHQ to improve the status quo. MNHQ were good enough to write me a detailed email explaining how they mod the site and the ethos behind their decision making, but until there's something more rigorous in place, I'm out.

I fear that eventually the entire board will become so full of crap that there won't be any genuine posters left and it will become an endless feedback loop of goaders, bullshitters, emotional vampires and Walter Mitty types, all peddling nonsense to one another.

Anyway, farewell and good luck to all.

OP posts:
FredFlintstonesSister · 13/08/2013 13:46

Sorry scone, was that supposed to be funny?

SconeInSixtySeconds · 13/08/2013 13:50

Nooooo, sorry, MN shorthand of Fred for Thread not referring to you at all.

ie, that thread (Fred) in site stuff is deleted now thank god, not that you FredFlintstonesSister is being deleted.

I am having a shitola day. :(

FredFlintstonesSister · 13/08/2013 13:51

Just being overly sensitive. Pregnant and shattered!

SconeInSixtySeconds · 13/08/2013 13:52

Not to worry. I really really should be on the diazepam for my back but sole jurisdiction of the dc means I am on paracetamol which is not quite as effective...

When is your baby due? :)

SilverOldie · 13/08/2013 14:01

Go if you must but then you won't be here to see the end of Tidy's epic bridezilla thread. Can you live not knowing? Can you?

ComposHat · 13/08/2013 14:22

Having lived through a mother of the bridezilla scenario, I'll survive somehow.

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LRDYaDumayuShtoTiKrasiviy · 13/08/2013 14:31

Yes, I feel like this too.

The thing I hate is that I used to come on here and feel all warm and fuzzy about how genuinely nice, and funny, and clever everyone was, and I felt like I was being a reasonably nice person too.

Increasingly I feel as if I'm wandering around the whole place being a total, utter wanker because I don't believe half of it and get impatient with it all.

I wish I had the discipline just to hide most of it and only post on totally innocuous threads.

WhatHo · 13/08/2013 14:32

Does anyone else think it's time for another zombie thread? They're always hilarious.

Might even distract the teenage boys trolling on AIBU.

WhatHo · 13/08/2013 14:34

I'm going to do it. Yeah!

aargh I should be working

FredFlintstonesSister · 13/08/2013 15:19

Sorry scone, fell asleep for a bit there! I'm actually just getting to the end of 1st trimester and everyone keeps assuring me I'll stop being so tired any day now! Due in February.

Emilythornesbff · 13/08/2013 15:23

What's the ARRSE thing?
Why do I miss everything?
Where's lovely lego?

Beastofburden · 13/08/2013 15:36

I am so bad at telling who the trolls are and anyway I am scared of troll hunting by mistake. [waves to mnhq]. I am only just beginning to find all the various places, and people keep talking about something I have no idea about [flouncers corner? Arsse? I barely get pfb ].

Once I am past that feeling of being a new kid at school arriving midterm I should be fine. I got the impression that there are lots of genuine people here, as well as a few odd ones. Am I just pathetically naive?

Pagwatch · 13/08/2013 15:45

Mn feels weird ATM. It's like suddenly realising you are wearing someone's else's pants.
It's the endless gleeful point scoring I am finding tiresome. I need a break or gin or something.

BOF · 13/08/2013 15:56

Sigh- I'll do it before she gets here, shall I, and save us all the bother?

Ok.

tbh,flounce threads i think oh trot off then.who cares? all the histrionics and hope expectation of someone pleading oh puhleeeese stay wontcha MN days of yore when it were all fields and big heids. All MN oscars and gwynnie greetin. Words on a screen. Bumping gums.

Have I left anything out?

Pagwatch · 13/08/2013 15:57

It's uncanny

HoneyDragon · 13/08/2013 16:07

BoF. Should you not be finishing off interesting things you want to do whilst your still in your 30's?

I think most people on here are lovely. You can't agree with everyone all of the time and that's fine. Different opinions doesn't mean they are bad folks.

I still think one of MNs finest points is that when someone posts wanting validation for being a bit of a tosser, than everyone comes together in a big cosmic twat stopping force of acerbic wit. Yes trolls and goady fuckers are a pita, but they fail because they allow the very smart and the very funny to shine. And people who post something kind aren't suddenly stupid or naive because the op is a troll, they are just nice people. But the fuckwit troll remains a fuckwit troll.

WhoreOfTheWorlds · 13/08/2013 16:09

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ComposHat · 13/08/2013 16:12

nah that wasn't the point bof it was mostly a reflection of how depressing AIBU has become, I certainly don't want or need my ego massaged.

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Vintageclock · 13/08/2013 16:14

AIBU is just a bit of fun really. Yes, there are some rude obnoxious posters that come steaming on full of spite and malice. But if you just treat it as a bit of a laugh or a place to mull over some interesting discussions then it won't really get to you. The problem is when you invest too much in it because there are a number of posters on here who seem to have no concept of the fact that there are actual people behind all those pseudonyms and they have feelings that can be hurt.

HoneyDragon · 13/08/2013 16:17

I quite fancy an ego massage, it sounds nice.

Emilythornesbff · 13/08/2013 16:21

Other members have meet ups?
All behind my back? I feel so left out now.
Again, where's lego?

Emilythornesbff · 13/08/2013 16:22

Grin honey.

MrsWedgeAntilles · 13/08/2013 16:24

OP, you're a Belle and Sebastian fan, aren't you? I read your post title and now I can't stop singing Grin
Don't go, AIBU goes a bit mad from time to time and then there's a big kerfuffle and then its all gold again. Ride the wave, its all part of the Mumsnet experience.

ICBINEG · 13/08/2013 16:25

Hi Compo! Well I will miss you if you do...but I kinda agree with what you've said. I think AIBU even at it's best is hopelessly cyclic and repetitive...you give a load of emotion on a thread and even win a few people over (well it has happened twice!) and then look down and there are two others already filling with the same old BS.

ICBINEG · 13/08/2013 16:26

I'd be afraid of getting the egg massage instead.