On facebook Friday evening, a not too discreet friend of mine had a rant about how her OH (who I met her through and am friends with too) had gone to bed really early in a strop, leaving her to deal with a new born, a 3 year old and a very messy house, with both kids crying.
She seemed to be getting some support from their families on there and I don't particularly agree with airing dirty laundry on facebook so I messaged him instead to check everything was ok.
He got back to me today and I have to say I'm absolutely bloody livid.
He's pissed off that the government won't give them any cash towards the rent now that they've had their planned 2nd child.
I'll give you some basic background. He works in a low paid job and is determined there's no point in trying to get a better one because he has no qualifications. His other half has never worked and they say it's because of the children despite her not working before they were born either.
The reason the government won't give them any more is because between various benefits they're already getting in excess of £200 a week on top of his wage.
He's always spending money on his car and they both smoke and drink frequently, have decent phones etc... so they do have spare cash.
Myself: age 25 and have held off having a child until now as me and OH agreed we needed a better combined wage to stay comfortable. Now between us earning in excess of 50k (on similar wages to eachother) but each working bloody hard to get to where we are.
I tried to gently explain to him that most people only plan to have children when they can afford to bring them up, explained that the government doesn't have an endless pot of cash etc...
He then told me that he should be entitled to more because of 'all the foreigners who come to this country and get housed in £2m houses.'
I then told him he's bloody lucky to get the help he does and that he shouldn't have actively planned to have 2 kids that he obviously doesn't think he can afford.
He's now not talking to me.
AIBU? I have the same background as him and we've had similar opportunities in life. I made what I could of myself and he didn't. Should I have had a bit more sympathy?