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Aibu to ask my dh to stop making us look like we're trashy

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Doubtfuldaphne · 08/08/2013 21:04

Just moved to a very quiet village in a street with rows of cottages. All you can hear is sheep in the distance, maybe the odd church bell.
I'm quite a quiet person anyway and although my two young children can be noisy, they're in bed by 8.
My dh on the other hand, likes to play his music in the garage while he's
'Sorting it out' with main garage door open in to the street. It's not really really loud but its louder than I feel comfortable with! I've told him before about this and its caused stupid arguments. He can't see what my problem is. I don't like the way as soon as we move in, I feel everyone else's peace and quiet is possibly being ruined by this. I just don't get why the garage door has to be open, making it easier for everyone to hear
The music and see what he's up to in there and people can see all our stuff! (Just moved so a lot of our belongings are in there)
He's also taken to sitting on the wall outside our house with a pint. This embarrasses me. Why?

OP posts:
SupermansBigRedPants · 08/08/2013 22:51

I tend to like the sound of my and my families quiet life to inconsiderate twats on the street. Such is life. my life Hmm

mystaplerisevil · 08/08/2013 22:53

as it appends my neighbours are jewish and spend many a friday night singing loudly for all to hear

would you complain about that?

Sparklysilversequins · 08/08/2013 22:53

Yes I would.

Sparklysilversequins · 08/08/2013 22:53

If it was keeping me up after 11.

therumoursaretrue · 08/08/2013 22:54

This would bother me if DP was doing it. Especially drinking on the street...what is the need!? YANBU OP.

mystaplerisevil · 08/08/2013 22:54

i could complain they are selfish inconsiderate arseholes or just rejoice that us as humans make a noice !

where do you all live where everything shuts down so early, that sounds boring!

Lanceolate · 08/08/2013 22:55

Far away from you thankfully!

SupermansBigRedPants · 08/08/2013 22:56

Yes I would too. Religious tolerance and all that but if it is affecting neighbouring houses then it becomes a social issue, more to the point anti social. No one has the right to make their neighbours suffer anti social behaviour.

Sparklysilversequins · 08/08/2013 22:57

I live in West London. Somehow on my road it's rare that people don't consider their neighbours, even here. If anything does happen we have a 24 hour environmental noise team based at our local council that we can call out. CONSIDERATE behaviour is strongly encouraged around here.

mystaplerisevil · 08/08/2013 22:58

you lot on here have very limited views on what is socially acceptable

hopefully you all have detached houses in the midde of nowhere or at least in villages where everyone agrees with you Grin

Sparklysilversequins · 08/08/2013 22:59

You sound like a complete nightmare neighbour stapler.

Crumbledwalnuts · 08/08/2013 23:00

I just live near normal people who think of others in a normal way

mystaplerisevil · 08/08/2013 23:01

'No one has the right to make their neighbours suffer anti social behaviour.' but we live in a society with free will so they do techically have the right

lol at the 24 hour noise team in LONDON move to devon if you want quite.

Xmasbaby11 · 08/08/2013 23:01

I can't see a major problem ... beer in your own garden is fine ... open garage door showing your stuff is fine, and neither would embarrass me. If the music is loud enough to disturb others at night, it's reasonable to ask him to wear headphones. If not, leave him be.

mystaplerisevil · 08/08/2013 23:02

sparklyshite why exactly am i not a good neighbour?

Sparklysilversequins · 08/08/2013 23:06

I said you sounded like you wouldn't be a good neighbour from the crap you are spouting on here. I could not possibly tell you you are NOT a good neighbour because I have no personal experience of you. But you do sound remarkably selfish.

mystaplerisevil · 08/08/2013 23:10

well hopefully i won't ever live next door to you

Sparklysilversequins · 08/08/2013 23:10

Indeed.

Arisbottle · 08/08/2013 23:11

We are the trashiest people in our village, we don't have immediate neighbours though.

The drinking on the wall wouldn't bother me . Looking in. My garage wouldn't either. The music might it is was loud.

We are quite a loud family and stand out because of our accents , I think the village is relieved that we are surrounded by land!

littlewhitebag · 08/08/2013 23:11

If we lived next to you we would think your DH was a trashy yob. Both for paying his music too loud and too late (I like his choice in music but I want to listen to music when I want to not when someone else dictates it). Also sitting on a car park wall drinking beer smacks of homeless people. Sorry if we are snobs but that's the way it is.

SupermansBigRedPants · 08/08/2013 23:15

Free will may be a right but it doesn't give the right to be an insufferable twunt to your neighbours Confused

mystaplerisevil · 08/08/2013 23:17

oh fgs get real

musicismylife · 08/08/2013 23:20

All men do/behave like this.

It is akin to a dog pissing on it's territory.

He wants to look a twat leave his mark.

littlewhitebag · 08/08/2013 23:25

musicismylfe all men do not behave like this. My DH would rather die than act like OP's DH. He is quiet and neurotic about how he appears to others.

littlewhitebag · 08/08/2013 23:27

My DD(15) is the same. Both give me a row if I talk too loudly in a restaurant or cause any kind of 'scene'.

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