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To have left them all to go and get something to eat?

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DfanjoUnchained · 30/07/2013 21:01

In short:

Dp's mother and sister come over at 3pm, still sitting around at 7.30pm but don't want to eat.

I'm starving, having a very painful and heavy period (sorry) and ds (7months) needs to eat too. I didnt have lunch either as ds teething and v difficult at the moment.

Dp was meant to cook or get food; he did neither. It got to half 7 and I couldn't wait any longer and said I needed to eat something as was feeling unwell. I asked what they all wanted to do and they said they would eat at home, fine.

I said goodbye to mil and sil and said sorry, ive really got to go, feeling unwell etc hope you dont mind, they said no go its fine. I left with ds and ate out.
When I get back they're gone and P is really angry, says my attitude was terrible and I shouldn't have 'stormed out'.

Apparent SIL feels unwelcome now Confused and I need to apologise if I want any kind of friendship with her. Was I meant to sit there and starve before another night of no sleep due to teething baby and horrible period pains??

Tbh I'm so annoyed at him for not supporting me, he knew I was feeling like shit and didnt support me.

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DfanjoUnchained · 30/07/2013 21:03

That really wasnt short, sorry

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petuniapickletits · 30/07/2013 21:05

Your dp should have sent them home.

SarahAndFuck · 30/07/2013 21:05

YANBU to get something to eat if you are hungry.

Not sure why you had to go out to get it, but again, not unreasonable if that's what you wanted to do.

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DfanjoUnchained · 30/07/2013 21:10

I invited them to come with me and eat, they both said they would eat at home later. They had drinks and biscuits at tea time.

As it got later I sort of hinted gently that ds needed to eat, nothing in house so I would go soon, asked P if he was coming and he said he was ok Confused not sure what I was supposed to do. I didnt 'storm out' I had to lug (sp?) heavy ds in his car seat and big bag out of the house.

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Pagwatch · 30/07/2013 21:10

Your dh was an arse but I don't understand why you didn't just eat at home?

You were at home, your mil and SIL come over. You offer them something t eat but they say no.
Why don't you just say 'ok, if you are sure. But excuse me, I just need to feed ds and get myself something' at anytime between 3.00 and 7.30?

Did you really sit there not eating until you felt ill in your own home?

LemonBreeland · 30/07/2013 21:10

I don't really understand why you went out. I would have , ade myself and my child something to eat and ignored them.

Agree they were rude though, and your DP was awful.

Crumbledwalnuts · 30/07/2013 21:10

Sounds like a reasonable thing to do, very much so. They were terribly rude. Your partner was very badly behaved, by not getting the food and by being rude to you afterwards. I wouldn't give it a moment's thought. If you were short with them, I'm not in the least bit surprised. You could have fainted. Let your husband deal with the fall out.

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DfanjoUnchained · 30/07/2013 21:11

No, apparently I completely out of order Ilove and he would never cook me dinner. I always look after his needs and mine are never met. I feel like a flower wilting to be honest

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Crumbledwalnuts · 30/07/2013 21:11

You were obviously trying to be polite by a. offering food and b. not then making them watch you eat. You did your very best. Your partner is a big pig.

LemonBreeland · 30/07/2013 21:11

Okay you had to go out as no food on the house. I still find that odd though. What kind of family has nothing to make a meal with in yhe house?

Boreoff · 30/07/2013 21:11

Not your problem at all, I think they were rude and how snide to complain about you to your dh when you had gone.

WhereYouLeftIt · 30/07/2013 21:12

You were at home, why did you have to go out to eat?

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DfanjoUnchained · 30/07/2013 21:12

There was no food in my house. So I explained that, as did P. his mother and sister had food at home.

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EhricLovesTeamQhuay · 30/07/2013 21:12

He sounds like a knob, but why didn't you just make some toast? Or order a takeaway?

Crumbledwalnuts · 30/07/2013 21:13

Yes that is a very horrible word. They can't know what it means, surely.

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DfanjoUnchained · 30/07/2013 21:14

What kind of family has nothing to make a meal with in yhe house?

I guess my shitty one. I've had a very rough week and haven't managed to go food shopping. p said he would get stuff but didnt

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Whocansay · 30/07/2013 21:14

Er, if DP was meant to organise food and then didn't, he should be apologising to you!

All of them were incredibly rude and your dp has some making up to do.

YANBU

Crumbledwalnuts · 30/07/2013 21:14

Oh my goodness yes the complaining to the partner is dreadful. Instead of saying Gosh she seemed upset, did we do something wrong. Very unpleasant people. I'm sorry you find yourself related to any of them.

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DfanjoUnchained · 30/07/2013 21:14

Toast for dinner? After no lunch? And while bleeding heavily and no sleep? ?!

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mamij · 30/07/2013 21:15

YABU to have left your own house with DS to eat. You should have tried to cook with what you have or at least ordered a take away for yourself Wink

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DfanjoUnchained · 30/07/2013 21:15

Exactly Walnut where is the support? None of them have looked after a little baby so shouldn't expect any understanding I guess

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