To have left them all to go and get something to eat?

[DfanjoUnchained]

In short:

Dp's mother and sister come over at 3pm, still sitting around at 7.30pm but don't want to eat.

I'm starving, having a very painful and heavy period (sorry) and ds (7months) needs to eat too. I didnt have lunch either as ds teething and v difficult at the moment.

Dp was meant to cook or get food; he did neither. It got to half 7 and I couldn't wait any longer and said I needed to eat something as was feeling unwell. I asked what they all wanted to do and they said they would eat at home, fine.

I said goodbye to mil and sil and said sorry, ive really got to go, feeling unwell etc hope you dont mind, they said no go its fine. I left with ds and ate out.
When I get back they're gone and P is really angry, says my attitude was terrible and I shouldn't have 'stormed out'.

Apparent SIL feels unwelcome now and I need to apologise if I want any kind of friendship with her. Was I meant to sit there and starve before another night of no sleep due to teething baby and horrible period pains??

Tbh I'm so annoyed at him for not supporting me, he knew I was feeling like shit and didnt support me.

When we moved house we ate everything (and got rid of the freezer) and just bought food on a day to day basis to avoid moving boxes full of food unnecessarily.

"Sorry, I find this all very strange. DH and I have a whole emergency operation in place in case of guests when there's no food in the house. Do you have many guests?"

Jeez - how shit do you feel now, dfanjo?

Just read the supportive comments. Lots of people do know what it can be like.

He's, he is usually quite unsupportive, he's never done a night feed despite me asking for example. Never cooks. Even when I got home after giving birth I had to cook. Hence why I'm thinking my needs are never met in this relationship so I really need space to think.

I find the idea of an emergency plan in case of guests when you have no food quite bizarre Is it ready meals in a glass case with a little axe next to it?

Arf at emergency operation feeding plans for guests. Must add that to my list of things to aspire to having in place.

Was going to say that food particularly important if breast feeding.

Don't apologise. Text SIL and MIL same text. 'Lovely to see you today. Thankfully tea at pizza hut hit the spot. I was starving what with no lunch, breast feeding constantly and DH changing his mind and not cooking tea'

"DH and I have a whole emergency operation in place in case of guests when there's no food in the house."

Please please tell me it involves smoke, mirrors and abseiling out of the house?

Good luck ddfanjo, go to your mum's, rest, sleep it. I feel sorry for you. Maybe your mum will brush your hair for you. It never fails to make me feel cared for when someone does that for me :)

Bloody hell, this is ridiculous! We are always facing the cupboard is bare situation and either DH or I have to pick up food for dinner, as pre-agreed, depending on who is working / doing the nursery run etc. Your DH had agreed to get food and he should've done that. Nothing more to it. I'm so pleased for you that you went out for a meal, best thing you could've done.

As for an emergency plan for unexpected guests turning up for dinner! Wow, a takeaway menu? Or should we have packets of space food tucked away?

Thanks Crumbled and other supportive posters. Going to bed now x

sleep it? I mean, sleep, eat.

"Hence why I'm thinking my needs are never met in this relationship so I really need space to think."

Sounds like you could do with it. Sorry to hear you are struggling, it's not what you need. Look after yourself now.

How soon before some happy homemaker posts a list of her always in the house ingredients? Using bullet points. And with ideas about how to whip them up into a nutritional meal for 30.

It doesn't sound good you don't seem to be very comfortable in your own home, had that been me i'd have started a conversation along the lines of 'eeeeeeee, I could eat a scabby horse between to matresses and I think baby does too, i'm going to order takeout/get some shopping, does anyone want anything'.

It shouldn't be made into an issue, they all sound a bit odd

I totally get why you might end up with no food in the house, but don't get why you took the baby out to eat? Could you not have popped to the shop, grabbed some food and brought it back? (Or to the chippy?)
Where did you go and what did you end up eating?

snort at the comments about emergency plans and axes and abseiling, vv good

nkf I want to know what they'd whip up with a tub of raspberry ripple ice cream, some frozen peppers and some apple juice.

Dfanjo I hope you have a good sleep and not too interrupted by the baby. Come over to mine and I will give you smoked salmon and cream cheese on a bagel with scrambled eggs and French toast for breakfast

Oops, no bagels.

There's usually some ropey old fish at the back of the freezer. I think they sell freezers with the ropey old fish already at the back, I really do.

I'm confused . the OP had absolutely NO food in the house, no baby food/milk and couldn't order a takeaway?

YABU. I would always have something in the house for my DC

If only Dfango had had a chicken. She could have fed at least 20 people for 3 nights with a chicken. If and when I get an Emergency Guest Policy and Procedure document in place, it will definitely feature a chicken.

Dfango - yes, get that space to think a bit. Hope you're OK.

Just want to clarify that you are ebf your DS at 7 months? What about solid foods?

I don't think they should have stayed through most people's evening meal time. They could have offered to look after your DS whilst you went to the shops or at least been a bit more sensitive. They seem a bit selfish. It sounds as if you're not getting the support you should be from your DP.

Don't bother fcek - the op's gone, rather depressed by comments like yours.