TidyDancer's bridezilla thread part 2

[TidyDancer]

New thread. :)

yay, confetti bingo

lets invent appalling confetti avatars and see who can get people to agree with the most outrageous thing?

I wonder if this change has caused most of the craziness?

No, oh GOD NO!!!!! The only person more crazy than Bridezilla is Mumzilla, when DH and I married we had mumzilla x 2 (my mother and his...and they didn't agree on anything) so we hired a wedding planner and it was the best money we ever spent. Between both of us having demanding careers and trying to arrange a big wedding, the last thing either of us needed was out mothers having (another) cat fight.

If you think confetti is bad, you should lurk on hitched...

I used confetti and hitched when I got married and in real life met some fabby people who are still very close friends. Mind you we all agreed the bridezilla types were bonkers

I've just had a nose on Confetti and checked out the 'kids at wedding?' post.

One of the responses was [I'm paraphrasing] 'no kids at my wedding as they will take the attention away from me', I kid you not!

Sandiego, if you want the most entitled, foot stamping bridezilla ever then have a look at the confetti thread on Confetti. 'I want it, so there'

I nosed at that one too. I loved the line, "It's not selfish. It's our day and if they don't like it they can stay at home." No, not selfish at all!

'Hubby'. That was enough to make me , never mind the 'lols' and the 'hugs' and 'sacking bridesmaids' - no way was I prepared to delve deeper into Confetti.

Stanley I'll head back over for that! .

Such fun on a lazy Friday afternoon!

You could of included a warning,

why don't I learn, what is wrong with me, fuck to fuckedy fuck.

I thought what are they on about, and went and had a look, every thread is just madness.

clicked on this and just wow.

No wonder I hate going to wedding if this is they type of thing going on behind scenes.

OP I seriously bet there is on one of the sites a thread is running about how you are a selfish cow, as the brideziller lent you a barbie pony in 1982, so you should be begging to decorate the venue.

Kind of sad that it came to this. I think she will look back in years and cringe at her behavior.

Stanley 'have they not heard of a hoover, we've spent £12,000 there, they should do what we want!'

Laughing. My. Arse. Off.

I particularly like this comment on Confetti:

I may just put something out on facebook like "invites sent, if you don't get one I dont like you...only kidding... not... :P" so make it sort of jokey but actually putting it across there

A man I know was hosting his sister's wedding and giving her away (both parents dead) when the MOG-zilla supreme told him she was getting the local county magazine to cover the wedding. He'd already given way over the £££ floral arch (yes, really) for the bride and groom to walk through and numerous other mad, highly expensive piece of nonsense but this pushed him over the edge. He told her they were not celebrities, he didn't want the entire county laughing at his family and any media presence would trigger the opening of the gun cupboard.

MOG backed down. His sister was relieved her mad MIL had been told without her having to do it.

One wonderful piece of advice for your wedding from Confetti:

"Consummate on the night. It makes it very very special"

Just clicked on confetti.

I didn't know there were so many of them.

Oh my goodness, mumsnetters discovering confetti is like managers going to a management meeting and finding out who has been telling their team all this daft shit.

There has to be a middle way though, surely. I am sad because someone I know has put a really half-arsed engagement announcement on fb including the words "we will be getting married in (place) when we are going there anyway and anyone who wants to turn up can". I can't help but feel this lacks a certain sense of occasion. (but I think I might be projecting because I am afraid he doesn't love her and isn't good enough for her)

Blimey Silveroldie I thought for a moment that was a menu recommendation. I thought to myself "Isn't consomme just watery soup? That's not very special!"

Thurlow
Most many people have relaxed weddings because getting married is about something other than having a wedding.
For example
We didn't have a gift list or cash grabby poems as we had lived together for several years and owned our own home so we really didn't need anything (we had too much clutter as it was )

We had children at our wedding and sent them home with the balloons we had used to decorate the evening venue.

We had overdone the buffet a bit so my DB took a couple of platefuls of food out to some homeless people he had spotted sheltering in a shop doorway near the hotel.

I'm sure there are loads of people who had weddings like this that were all about celebrating the next stage of your life with your family and friends and not trying to recreate some saccharine Disney princess fantasy scenario.

OK, bit of a joke there on the not getting married front, as in we definitely aren't anyway and it doesn't have anything to do with big weddings

But frankly the thought of not only organising, but being the centre of attention at, something that detailed and precisely planned is utterly, utterly terrifying and I just can't fathom how people can be so excited by it all!

Though similarly I struggle to fathom how people can get so excited about train numbers. Or fish. Or kites.

Thurlow you have just summed up my thoughts on weddings, should I ever be the bride to be.

The thought horrifies me. I am organising DS's very low key Christening and it is stressful enough.

I do, however, LOVE other people's weddings. Even if there is a poem attached to the invite, money requested for honeymoon - that doesn't bother me. I am a professional guest. I've been a bridesmaid 7 times and witness twice.

thumb that perfectly describes it, even down to the weak-willed partner. I knew there had to be a term for it!

quoteunquote
Love the comments on that thread:

"I'm sorry hun, but I've never known a flaky person change because - once a flake, always a flake...

Would you feel comfortable telling her how you feel and that her attitude is affecting the whole group, and making things more expensive for you? There's really no reason for the bride to bend over backwards to accommodate the one bridesmaid. "

Tbf to the women on Confetti, I have some sympathy over the issue of plus ones. I can understand that a bride and groom might only want to have people at their wedding that they actually know and hopefully like.

If money or space is tight, I can't really see what's wrong with only inviting people that matter to them and not people that they've never met.

Also, if people wanted children there, they would say so on the invitation.

There are so many things to laugh at on that site, it helps you forget how scary it is.

Plus ones are only reasonable at a very big wedding (say 200+) but for the average 50-100 they mean too great a proportion of the guests are unknown to the bride and groom.

That's "plus one", not established partners.

The Confetti girls appear not to have realised the MN golden rule of weddings: Your Wedding Is More Important To You Than Anyone Else. Beyond your own very close relations nobody really gives a shit either way.