TidyDancer's bridezilla thread part 2

[TidyDancer]

New thread. :)

I got married in a pub. There was no kerfuffwiddlekittenflowery nonsense, just a nice selection of beer and a barbecue. All the money I could have spent on a dress/ favours/ wee faffy stuff got spent on booze, meat, and hoooge party bags with a gazillion light sticks in for the kids. We had a disco and naff dancing and no speeches. Some rellies were put out, but we danced / staggered around them. We didn't even bother saying "no plus ones" because we invited people with 40 kids between them, so who came, came. We worked on the basis of "when the burgers/ bangers are gone, they're gone" and people rocked up to the chippie later on for more food. The party lasted until 5am. I will never forget it, for all the right reasons. The lady from the party shop down the road was so impressed by the gang of kids politely asking for wedding balloons at some point in the afternoon, that she popped along with a big box of freebie 60th birthday balloons that were going out of date, and so all the kids had a gazillion elderly birthday balloons and were bedecked with neon lightsticks. Cost pennies and far nicer in photos than a floral arch.

And yet STILL I had a few friends who were miffed at not being nearer "top table". This when we were sat on the grass, in a PUB GARDEN. Wedding fever.

I am sad because someone I know has put a really half-arsed engagement announcement on fb including the words "we will be getting married in (place) when we are going there anyway and anyone who wants to turn up can". I can't help but feel this lacks a certain sense of occasion.

That sounds like the invitations to my wedding. We just sent emails round saying 'We are getting married on xdate at xregister office at xpm. Then all off to xpub. We'd love you to join us if you can. Nothing fancy - Just a knees up in a boozer'. (sent about a month before the wedding, when we booked it)

Altho looking back there are things i wish we had/had time to organise and i really wouldn't have got married with a 3mo if i had a choice again.

The problem with confetti et al is you are laughing away, then you suddenly realise there is an awful lot of these people about, then it doesn't seem quite so funny anymore.

OP here. :)

No response as yet.

I may get a response after she's maybe brought it up with other people. Or not if she's embarrassed. Really don't know how to call this one!

Thank you again for all the support!

I wait with much anticipation then.

One wonderful piece of advice for your wedding from Confetti:

"Consummate on the night. It makes it very very special"

No chance of that happening at ours, we'll both be too pissed and full of wedding cake.

I didn't consomme on mine, because dd was in a travel cot in the loo, it was 5am, and we had about 3 other people crashed out on our floor. Result!

Tidy your response was so measured and polite, I hope Bridezilla realises how awful she has been I doubt it

I bloody love weddings, me. All types, large, small or whatever. Great fun. Maybe because all the weddings I've been to are those of people I really like. But there are some crazeeee people out there. Just glad they're not my mates

Tidy, there's nothing more you can do. You sent her a well-worded response. If she chooses to reply, she will; if she doesn't, she won't.

I hope that she does discuss this with other people who will point out the error of her ways - but you we will never know whether she mentions the STD faux pas which, essentially, set this all off.

It's Friday - have another

"Consummate on the night. It makes it very very special"

We did, but we left the party (in the capable hands of the chief bridesmaid and the best man) at 11.30pm and went to the hotel we had arranged. We were also leaving for our honeymoon the next day. As much as I enjoyed the day, I was desperate for some time with my new husband by the time we left.

Bridezilla's probably thinking that she can do without all this aggro before her wedding and losing patience because she's had to explain this 3 times already.

She's not posting on Confetti - I've looked!

It's reading threads like this that make me grateful my family is normal ish

I have been to various cousins weddings the past 4 years - all different with different invite stipulations.

1 - wedding was close family only. Aunts etc and few of us cousins. Great reception at relative of grooms house with huge garden/fields. Marquee, things for kids to do including magician, sit down meal ice cream van, hog roast dance floor. Bring a bottle and some drinks provided at an erected bar. I don't drink and bought myself non alcoholic wine for meal, soft drinks all provided and far cheaper than a bar. Best wedding reception I have ever been too.

2- church wedding and then hotel reception about 8 miles away. Nice garden and dance floor with bar. Sir down meal with wine/water with a later buffet.

3- was 100 miles away. during term time and I didn't attend as too far for a day and no funds to accomadate DS and I. Cousin fine and understanding.

4- church wedding with reception 10 miles away. Again nice place with outside space for children to roam, dance floor and bar. Sit down meal with wine/water and later buffet provided.

5- last week. An hour away at a beautiful manor house/ hotel. Registry service in hotel, huge outside space with indoor bar, magician for children, meal, plenty of pims, OJ, wine and water for guests, dance floor and bar and also a BBQ.

All put about having everything they need but if you wanted to buy a gift then you can, one had a gift list, others just said vouchers for JL or Thomas Cook.

She's not going to reply is she? She has no idea how dude she is being.

My wedding cost less than £200 in 1994, including clothes and buffet/venue. It was a waste of money and I should have saved the cash for the divorce.

Please stop shortening 'save the date' to STD.

Every time I read it, my brain reads 'sexually transmitted disease'.

It has made this thread both hilarious to read and really confusing !!!

Thurlow I'm also a marriage refuser (one relationship where we lived together 10 years, another one 5.5. years and counting, both proposed, both turned down!) and not a big fan of other people's weddings either.

Partly to do with hating ceremonies of all sorts - find all of them from graduation ceremonies (skipped all of mine) to weddings to prizegivings attention-seeking and cringey beyond belief. I still don't understand how people can actually bring themselves to unashamedly invite others to spend a day going on about how gorgeous/clever/amazing they are! It makes me want to curl up and die of shame on their behalf.

I am aware though that I am very much in the minority on this, though it still baffles me that others don't feel this way

me too giantpurple filthy great minds think alike eh !

I read STD as Standard Dialling Code ( Standard Trunk Dialcodes)

It makes the thread very confusing.

OMG had totally forgotten that one. That takes me back , I used to be a BT operator many moons ago. Shows how my thought patterns have taken a nosedive over the years really
I blame Mumsnet

for everyone complaining about STD cards. I still can't read stbxh right. my head decided it meant stupid bastard, probably because most stbxh are that! and there's no logic as surely that would be sbxh

I have just wasted an hour on Confetti, open mouthed at the me me me of it all. Very depressing.

Haha eaglerider, I always think shitheadbastardex when I see stbx

Tho my autocorrect wants it to be Styx. Which is also appropriate.