To be fuming at the amount DH spent at a stag weekend last weekend?

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Leaving us short for the rest of the month?

Not including accommodation, which he paid for a few months ago, he spent just over £500. This was on a 3 day/2 night stag weekend in the UK.

This has meant we are very short on money for the rest of the month until we both get paid on the last working day of the month.

He doesn't see the problem and doesn't seem to think that he spent an excessive amount...

That's utterly outrageous. Has he got anything valuable that you can sell?

Wtf did he buy?!

Are you short on essentials or just luxuries? That would decide for me how I annoyed I was.

Then he is an arse

We're short on essentials.

He has equipment for a hobby he does but no way would he agree to sell those

What a shit.

I would sell them for him tbh. Give him the weekend to find the money another way, then make it clear his stuff is being sold to cover you otherwise.

How utterly selfish can some people get?

YANBU.
You could have had a weeks caravan holiday with the amount he has spent.

I don't understand stag and hen weekends and weeks, but then I'm old.

I don't understand them either. The one he went on just seemed to get out of control cost-wise, it was ridiculous. Apparently lots of the other spent 'loads' more than he did.

That's a lot of lap dances.

Drugs + prostitutes? Not sure how £500 can be spent otherwise.

Easy to do with meals, breakfast, buying rounds, club entry, taxis etc. I've spent £100 on normal nights out so it's not hard to imagine being able to arse £500

But if it's not not affordable it's not on

I love the 'drugs/strippers/prostitutes response.

Patsy is spot on though, it's easy done but not acceptable if its not affordable.

I could do that and I wouldn't have to buy any drugs or lapdances or prostitutes.

What an arse though OP!

DP is in majorca on a stag weekend (well - Thursday to sunday). Flights and accom cost £170- when he asked what I thought would be reasonable amount to take as spending money I suggest he consider what is the reasonable amount- bearing in mind we have the rat of the month to get through after he returns on Sunday.

I advised him not to dare moan at any point through the rest of month about us being short when he has spent money away this weekend.

Ill be interested to see what he thinks is reasonable.

£500 is a lot to spend in UK - where did they go? London?

Yanbu, I'd be fuming too. Out of interest what does he suggest is done to help cover the essentials now he's overspent ? He must have known he was going 'over budget ' ?!

So it would be ok for you to blow £500+ next month ? YADNBU

Is it just me that can't fathom one member of a family feeling entitled to impact on the whole family just for a luxury for them? I think I'd die of guilt if I had to see us struggle through till payday because of my treats.

£500 in three days? "Not an excessive amount"? That's two month's budget (excluding rent) for me. If it leaves you that short for the month, then obviously it's excessive.

YANBU to hit the roof.

Stuff like this is why I hate the idea of joint bank accounts. We each have our own account, pay half the bills, mortgage etc each, and have our own "spends". Saves a lot of arguments that many couples seem to have over money.

I am feeling a bit about the money DH has spent on a family treat today, more than I'm trying to save for desperately needed haircut and new trainers/sandals to replace the ones that are falling apart.

But at least that was a family expedition that benefited us all. If he'd spunked it on a weekend away (on top of accommodation and travel ) then I'd be very annoyed.

If it comes from family money the family has a right to comment on it. If he'd saved up from his own fun money (ie gone without coffees, pub visits and new clothes for a while) then you could eye roll but couldn't complain.

What the fucking fuck? He's a dickhead.

Does he agree that you will be short for the rest of the month, or does he think you are making a fuss about nothing?

I think I would make sure that the portions on his plate were smaller than he is used to, and the luxuries he likes (biscuits, chocolate etc) are not bought.

Five hundred pounds, NOT including accommodation?

What on earth did he spend it on? Has he attempted to itemise it all?

Tbh, I would be thinking about drugs and/or lap dances too. You can't possibly spend all that on food, taxis and booze - especially when other people in the group are spending just as much.

Dp didn't much fancy his pissed up mates forcing a sad naked lady to dance for him...

So he came up with the 'hag' do idea!

We are going to have a joint party, and spend the money having fun together instead.

Sorry went a bit off course there....

Op if I was you I would be twatting furious!!! Sell whatever precious expensive items he has. Don't suffer for the rest of the month because he is a selfish bugger.

Tabitha what would happen if you became a SAHM, though? There would be no money in your account - would your husband/partner be entitled to keep all his 'spends' in that case? I think if you are a couple you should all have a say in all the spending and should have what each of you need/want within reason and budget - which one of you actually earned it should not be a factor.
OP, if your D H went over budget enough to make you all struggle, you have every right to be annoyed.

My DH's salary starts with a one, so sometimes we have quite a bit of disposable income, and he woudn't dream of spending that sort of money.

Less than £20,000 then Youhaventseenme?