To be fuming at the amount DH spent at a stag weekend last weekend?

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Leaving us short for the rest of the month?

Not including accommodation, which he paid for a few months ago, he spent just over £500. This was on a 3 day/2 night stag weekend in the UK.

This has meant we are very short on money for the rest of the month until we both get paid on the last working day of the month.

He doesn't see the problem and doesn't seem to think that he spent an excessive amount...

What a monumental waste of money! I just don't 'get' stag weekends at all. Whatever happened to an eveningdown pub wwith a few close friends the night before the wedding?

Is it just me who thinks these stag and hen dos are a pain in the arse?
Dh and I don't go on them unless its a family member because we'd rather use any extra money for a family holiday.
Normally you've got the expense of a wedding a few weeks afterwards as well.
What ever happened to a night out?

Ha ha brilliant x post there.

The pub 80'sMum? Whoah - ease off on the extravagance. Bottle of dodgy voddy from the offy and sitting outside ladbrokes. Now that's how to do frugal.

Ugh. Whatever happened to going to the park with a few bottles of white lightning and tying the upcoming groom to a lamp-post. Those were the days.

Absolutely. Those youngsters don't know they are born do they?

dhs mate almost had a meltdown when dh wouldn't go on his extravagant stag week when our baby was due.
Two years later he's got his own child and barely leaves the house!
I keep telling dh to organise a big weekend away just to prove a point.

I think he was wrong to spend that amount when you don't have it spare but I can easily see that a weekend away could cost that. There's no need for folk to suggest drugs and strippers.

And, if you don't 'get' weekend stag and hen do's don't go on them! Personally, I like them as do lots of others, there's plenty of them going on. Each to their own.

The problem is MrsBungle is that these days, stag do's and hen do's have become an ever increasing competition into who can plan the most outlandish waste of freshly printed QE money and is usually decided upon by a dictator in the form of a maid of honour/best man who has no idea that the best thing to do is to budget for the lowest common denominator of the group, not the highest.

I agree though - a monkey is nothing for a weekend because I'm basically dripping in gold as we speak and usually drop a G on a night out just on taxis, but it's not the same for everyone.

hey as I said, each to their own. No-one is forced to go on these things. Some people like to have extravagant weekends. My bil went to Vegas for his. We couldn't afford that so dh' didn't go. It really wasn't a big deal.

You're right, no-one is forced to go - absolutely. But I question the motive of the planner who decides it's more important to do a load of silly activities and spunk a load of cash rather than making sure that the maximum amount of the groom/brides' friends can attend. Is that reasonable?

Probably not. I had a cheap weekend in Newcastle for mine cause I knew my best friends were skint and id rather do something with them. I still think each to their own, though. People should do what they want for their own stag/hen. I just can't get worked up about people doing what they want to do.

I could easily spend £500 in a weekend without drugs, prostitutes or accomodation.

Couple bottles champagne, lots of cocktails, eating in really good places for lunch and dinner, an activity or two...

So he's an arse and a really stupid selfish one at that, but I wouldn't automatically think hookers n Charlie.

Or even strip clubs.

Especially eating out for 3 meals a day!

I can see how £500 could easily be spent, without getting hysterical about drugs and prostitutes! My dh is going away with the "boys" later this year, and when he first mentioned it, my only opinion was that as long as I didn't have to use annual leave from work (I work shifts) and as long as he saved for it the I had I issue with him going.
Why the hell would anyone go for an expensive weekend without budgeting ahead??

do people really think its easy to spend that in two night and three days? when it doesnt even cover where they satayed?

really?

£200.. £300 max

but £500?

If you were eating out the whole time, taxis, clubs can cost a tenner or more, drinks add up in rounds, more taxis, cigars,

Ime men get quite flash in groups, just chucking notes in to cover a meal rather than splitting it etc

Excessive but possible

Transport - £50
Accomodation - £60
Drinks - £50
Food - £80
Activities - £60
Drugs - £100
Lapdances - £100
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Total £500

Easy. Didn't even try.

He pissed joint money up the wall, not personal funds?

"He doesn't see the problem" - beans on toast for a fortnight for him then. Maybe no beans a couple of times.

Long term - I think you need to arrange your finances so that this can't happen again. For example, our salaries go into a joint account, from which we both get the same amount monthly (standing order) for personal funds/pocket money - for our hobbies, clothing, haircuts, going out with friends. If we didn't have enough in our sole account to cover e.g. an expensive stag weekend, we do NOT raid the joint account, we just cut our coat according to our cloth. If we know we have something expensive coming up we save our pocket money up beforehand. Household money and personal money are NOT interchangeable!

Have to agree with MrsBungle on the Hen and Stag weekends, it's up to them to decide what they want to do and people to decide if they want to go. In my friendship group there's probably 7 of us very close and we've all decided to do a weekend in the UK somewhere on our dates-luckily we're all getting married in different years. People are welcome to change there minds but we've had 4 so far and each year its been a great weekend spending time with my closest friends and spoiling the bride, for us it's more about actually taking some time as a holiday together.

Would I go abroad at massive expense, no- i couldn't afford it. But I'd be chuffed to get an invite even though I'd turn down.

Then again to me the hen and stag are about being with very close friends or good friends, not just inviting randoms along so we're all like-minded.

wonderingsoul in my DPs pre-sensible stage he, who earns considerably less than his friends, would try to 'keep up' with them on a night out. Since they'd order champagne, yagers and plenty of expensive red, it could cost well over a ton on just a night in London. It is possible if trying to keep up and not keeping note of what you are spending, especially if they, or just a couple of people, are also paying for the groom too.

I don't see why you're going short as he splurged.

We share all our income, pay bills etc and then split what's left. So something like this wouldn't have come out of joint funds, needed for bills and other things, anyway.

YANBU at all to be fuming, but you certainly shouldn't be having to suffer for his lack of financial management. I agree with the PP who said he should sell something to make up the shortfall if the situation is that dire.

How short will you be? Unpaid bills? Everyone eating beans on toast? It's easy to pay out that kind of money. A meal, drinks, a nightclub. That could easily be one night out and easily cost £100. Stag weekends are ridiculous at the best of times and immoral when you have a family going short as a result. Isn't the family money ring fenced and he can save up for his jollies?

Just saw it was only two nights. That is pushing it a bit. Probably was a lapdance or two. Isn't that de rigeur for stag nights?

£500 on strippers. Why do women stand for this shit? Why get married in the first place? Disgraceful behaviour