To be fuming at the amount DH spent at a stag weekend last weekend?

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Leaving us short for the rest of the month?

Not including accommodation, which he paid for a few months ago, he spent just over £500. This was on a 3 day/2 night stag weekend in the UK.

This has meant we are very short on money for the rest of the month until we both get paid on the last working day of the month.

He doesn't see the problem and doesn't seem to think that he spent an excessive amount...

"Why oh why do women allow their dh's to go off on these absurd stag do's"

Because you don't control or own your partner.

It should be agreed in advance, once you have children that you are both still allowed free time, including trips away.

All of my friends (female) go on these type holidays, life doesn't have to stop because we become parents, or have partners.

I know men who do, do recreational drugs and have used prostitutes in their younger years, but most stag do's are about the drinking, unless they regularly use drugs, anyway, they don't bother.

A personal spending budget, should be set, but allowances should be made to attend the events of friends and family.

I, as a woman, would find it impossible to live with many of the attitudes towards spending/nights out/having a life outside of the home/enjoying myself and the company of others/gift giving etc that many on MN have.

You have to keep a roof over your head, but life is for enjoying.

Just because men go away on these stupid stag weekends doesnt mean they spent the money on prostitutes , the op husband is still a twat though for leaving them short

Yanbu!! If it's not affordable it's just not on. Oh is on a stag at the moment, I got a text yesterday saying he needed more money... He'd street 500 from Thursday to Sat. Unbelievable.

Spent...

We still don't know what 'short' means tbh. Although we have to take OP's word for it and assume money is tight enough that he wasn't able to put it on a card and pay it off longer term (saving ahead would have been preferable but I'm being realistic here - I suspect the total has taken him by surprise).

lemonandice do you really live on £250 a month after rent? That would barely cover utilities and council tax, let alone food.

Oh and ditto, Birds.

I suppose all money could be considered family money, and that £150 I rather embarrassingly spent on one impromptu night out last month ought to have gone towards the new bathroom or whatnot. But a little leeway (where affordable) is breathing space I couldn't be without.

I'm a grown up - we have a roof over our heads, food on the table - and if either of us gets a little over enthusiastic occasionally with the money we earn, then so be it. I wouldn't dream of telling dp how to spend his pocket money and would be pretty pissed off if he tried to do the same to me.

Shouldn't there be an agreed amount for household budget and no jolly touches that? And then money for each person. And if you choose to spend the money on stag nights or haircuts, that's up to you. But you don't raid the money for school shoes for those jollies.