To wonder why weddings turn perfectly normal women into selfish, thoughtless bitches

[Antibridezilla]

A mixture of another thread on here and a situation i am currently in, but why do perfectly nice, sensible women turn completely insane in the run up to their wedding?

I'm going to a wedding in August and there is absolutely fuck all consideration for the guests, it's all about doing exactly what the bride wants and fuck the rest of us.

All this 'it's their day' is a load of crap IMO, if that's the case they should piss off and get married alone. If they have an ounce of common sense they should realise that they should be grateful people are attending and should not think people should be grateful they are invited.

Rant over!

You have to spill. More. Beans. Please

Just think no meal for the all day guests, venue in the middle of no where, no children unless is suits the bride and cash gifts.

I'm always grateful when I'm invited to a wedding. I would hope the people I invite to mine will feel the same.

Yanbu but i really need more details to be certain

YABU

I don't think they do.

I think that anyone who could be turned into a "selfish thoughtless bitch" was not "perfectly normal" to start with.

If someone invites you to something and it doesn't sound like fun, there is often the option of just not going.

I'm getting married in a few weeks and and am being as considerate as I can, laying on transport, a mobile crèche, etc etc etc and hoping against hope I don't end up reading a thread about what a bridezilla I am .

No meal?

Was there a poem?

You don't have to give a gift, and if you do, surely cash is the very easiest option. You don't have to attend at all, if the plans don't suit you can politely decline as you would any other invite that doesn't work for you.

You might be right trills but on the face of of, shitty behaviour was not apparent!

Because we are sold this idea of being princesses for the day and many fall for it.
Just look at the bridal magazines you can get or look at the wedding forums, it's all about looking the part and nothing about the marriage.
YANBU at all.

It's DH's friend, believe me, if I had my way, we'd not be going.

I think, your wedding, do what you like. If people go along with it, that's their choice. What I can't stand is people who agree to be guests then moan and bitch about how the day doesn't suit them.

Are you the poster who gatecrashed the wedding with your son who wasn't invited?

I know people can decline an invite - but come on, who plans their wedding and doesnt lay on any food for guests, dont get it?

No auntmargaret we've been told to have a big lunch (1.30 service) as the only food, other than nibbles, is the buffet which includes the evening guests.

I hear you.

'Gazes mournfully at mantlepiece with invites x 2. Both over 300 miles away from the happy couples homes (and mine) One with black tie dress code (no children obv) and the other with a grabby cash demand for their honeymoon and a request that children are out of the venue by 8pm)

I'm busy BOTH weekends but have already been told by bride 1 that she knows the people who REALLY love her will make the journey

No eilidh I'm after less invites not more!

I think, your wedding, do what you like

I think if you do this without giving any consideration to your guests makes you pretty selfish actually.

Why? Nobody is making you go.

Sorry, that's was in reply to Sweetestcup.

Thing is, some guests are pretty demanding too! Even if you're being as thoughtful as BellEnd, there'll still be some unreasonable person griping about how their precise needs have not been catered to for this one day.

I'm usually on the side of the guest on these threads, but I do pity some couples stuck between a fixed budget, extortionate costs and trying to keep everyone happy.

We're travelling 300 miles to go to a wedding next week, aren't getting fed either. I feel your pain and pangs of hunger

Eilid - I'm sensing that you maybe had a few erm 'requests' demands of your guests that didn't go down too well