To be miffed at "Gift list for mother of the baby/naming ceremony" *PART 2!"

[doubleshotespresso]

Have been advised by the expert Mners here this needs a new thread....

So here it is.

Have printed off todays' email from the sister from hell for friends DH who is dropping in later to read, probably drink and discuss.....

Thanks so much for all your replies.... You ladies are helping me reain sane when I really really really want to lose the plot spectacularly!

Am about to sort dinner and stuff so wll update further later when friends DH has been and I know what to do if anything....

DF just read the email and is "do recycling and smash stuff" to "absorb before he comes over really South London.... . He is furious at the sister even referring to our recent loss amongst other comments in the message and wants a level head before our friend arrives...

All will be fine..... Will update later.

Ok glad that was all, was racking my rains as to what they must hVe said that was sooo bad to get deleted. Nothing exciting. Oh well!

Sorry! One handed typing not good is it?

The term sweetvFA used to describe te new event 'very vanilla' sums up Sweet FA perfectly, self obsessed, self absorbed ad utterly superficial

You can call her Fanny Adams. That's the clean version of Sweet FA.

BOF very good yes! I will pass this on!

Just found part 2 will read this section soon thanks

Double: OK, I can see that friend is seriously vulnerable so in this case it probably is better for her H to take over. Hope she is better soon.

I also agree with whoever suggested Sweet Fanny Adams might be too close a pal of Charlie. It does have that effect (total unreasonable self-absorption) especially on people who were already fairly up themselves and inclined to bully in the first place.

I can't believe she more concerned about the money/client she may or may not lose then her sister/neices health and welfare.

I hope your friend parents give her a rocket up her backside about her chronic bad behaviour. And her sister apologises to your friend and her husband as well.

Oh my giddy (first) aunt.

Friend's husband really is a keeper. The kind of gatekeeper, in fact, that is invaluable with a newborn.

Am I the only person who is beginning to feel a little uncomfortable with this thread?

OP I agree with everyone else that you have been a great friend and I'm glad that you have been able to help your friend get away from the planner and start to take back control.

But you are putting an awful lot of personal detail on this thread and it's not really your information to share, or at least not just yours. This is your friend's family, and potentially a huge event in their lives, that you are chosing to share on a public forum. I know you said way back that your friend doesn't use MN, but can you be sure that her sister doesn't or that mutual friends don't? There is certainly more than enough detail for your friend and her party to be recognisable. How would your friend, who you say yourself is very vulnerable, feel knowing that a bunch of strangers know every detail of her trauma? Or how would she feel if someone mentioned this thread at the party?

I'm sure this won't be a popular post, but I just felt it needed saying.

phoebeC you are right to raise this and much earlier on it was discussed at maybe deleting the original thread. That is something I will think on.

Friend does not use MN and neither we can be sure does her sister......

In terms of mutual friends, no I don't think so ether, have discussed your point with DF who thinks the chances are slim.... Friend and I both have step children in their teens and the fellow Mums are not guests at either the naming ceremony or our wedding.... We are just not on those terms. The majority of those attending we doubt use MN..... But of course there is a risk yes....

To be honest it was not until we needed a new thread I realised how popular this has become (in comparison to other threads) it is quite overwhelming, and really thought it had naturally come to an end. Of course the email brought fresh news to it and so I suppose gathered momentum again.

It has been a huge support to me in a very testing time, so thought I would update with the news of the email. Sorry if this offended you, but thought previous posters would be interested to read on....

And it does not matter if your posts are popular, I came on here originally to seek opinion (good and bad ) and appreciate anybody who takes the time to offer their valid, considered and polite opinion. As you have done..... I will consider this more later.... Thank-you for thinking of my friend which of course is the reason the thread began!

Hmmm..

Glad to hear that your friend's mum has been in touch.

lalaLeona don't you just live up to your name?

I workba very full-time job, am partner and fiance to DF and step-mother to 3 kids..... One thing I wold never describe myself as is bored! Or in a dream world...... I would love to get more sleep though.....

To best describe it for you, the attention is not what I craved, but I will not lie the therapeutic element of posting this thread has made a very tough weeks less so.

Not sure what you find hard to believe and am much less bothered if you do or not, your call of course. And you wait until now? Hmmmmm.....

Lalalalalalalalalalalalalalalalalala

La la la la la la la.......

Sauvignon thanks again.

double ignore, ignore, ignore.

I have reported her post. Troll-hunting is not allowed on MN.

I don't actually think anyone COULD make up the sister. .

Thanks ...... I had to do a search on here I thought trolls were journalists, but have learnt differently. Oh well........ And buildingmycorestrength you are right.... You could not make it up honestly!

For you!

Maybe lalaLeona is humming because she doesn't know the words? Or maybe not.

double ... just thought, as you read through some of the ...errrm...'differing' posts here, that you may want to be reminded of The Parapet Principle.

From the same scientific camp as Sods Law & Murphys Law, it postulates that :
those who inadvertently stick their heads over the parapet by attracting positive attention and popularity, will inevitably attract those unable to accept that anyone should deserve such attention or popularity, and will thus seek to redress the balance with negative input.

[grins]

Mumngran wow...... I will show that post to DF.......

Though he does not deserve it..... He just dunked feckin PRINGLES in my not yet ready for the bread garlic butter!!! No patience or shame!

.......and you are intending to actually MARRY this philistine?!?!?!?!
That's a whole other thread double

I like the parapet principle mumngran-so true, must remember it!

I'm delurking from the thread now-(feeling finny twinges & worried labour coming without a second check of my hospital bag!)

Just want to say thanks for the entertainment, restoring faith in humanity & the generally happy ending. Hope the wedding plans go well & please post about all future drama-maybe you should start a blog? ;)

Take care & good luck!

Mumngran I know! Outrageous behaviour on a Friday evening...... Cold garlic butter! Eurgh!!!

evelynj BEST OF LUCK!!!