To be miffed at "Gift list for mother of the baby/naming ceremony" *PART 2!"

[doubleshotespresso]

Have been advised by the expert Mners here this needs a new thread....

So here it is.

Have printed off todays' email from the sister from hell for friends DH who is dropping in later to read, probably drink and discuss.....

Thanks so much for all your replies.... You ladies are helping me reain sane when I really really really want to lose the plot spectacularly!

Am about to sort dinner and stuff so wll update further later when friends DH has been and I know what to do if anything....

DF just read the email and is "do recycling and smash stuff" to "absorb before he comes over really South London.... . He is furious at the sister even referring to our recent loss amongst other comments in the message and wants a level head before our friend arrives...

All will be fine..... Will update later.

[diddl]

I just can't get over the self centredness of it.

To use your niece as a money spinner/business excercise.

And to bring OPs personal life into it

Perhaps OPs friend should text her sister saying she will contact her when ready & not to bother OP.

[SauceForTheGander]

I agree with posters who have urged caution. Blood is thicker than water and some families have a short memory when it comes to terrible behaviour.

[SaggyOldClothCatPuss]

OP you are flipping amazing! Absolutely lovely. The sister is pearly deranged! And I agree with your DF. How fucking dares he mention your MC! I would seriously slap the cow!

[diddl]

Thing is, if the friend really cannot stand up to her sister atm-then why shouldn't her husband?

She does sound an absolute bully.

maybe husband just needs to say that OPs friend will be in touch when she wants?

She really does seem to be in some sort of state to need a planner for the event-unless that's usual for her-and to have sent out the invitations with the gift lists with really no thought that a gift list-and not even for the baby was a bit odd.

Unless she didn't know-can't remember.

[wharrgarbl]

I'd suggest to poisonous sister that she make a quick trip to Bunnings (large hardware chain) where you are sure they can show her a wide range of stepladders, one of which we are sure will be perfect for getting the fuck over herself.

[ratbagcatbag]

Shamelessly marking place waiting for next update from friends DH. :)

[ohmeohmyforgotlogin]

wharrgabi

[Wonderstuff]

Another shameless place mark. Unbelievable.

[doubleshotespresso]

fuckwittery Thank-you that is a wonderful to read message... X

[Blatherskite]

Crikey! I've just read the whole first thread. DFriend's Sister sounds like a loon

[doubleshotespresso]

DP and Friends DH are now in the pub with the print-off of the email....

I am here waiting.....

[Ponders]

I bet they're annotating it....

hope her ears are burning

[MumnGran]

double.......having zipped over from part 1, have realised I missed you saying that this bloody women made you cry.

Please don't let her upset you. Block her from contact, and let the people who love you look after YOUR interests a little bit now. You have been more than strong enough.

Plus, if you need it, I suspect there are a multitude of people here who would happily get together to meet her at the airport on arrival......we can wave an appropriately worded banner or two. Or baseball bats.

[ClayDavis]

She's priceless. I've got a feeling you got this e-mail because she's tried with her parents and friend's DP and got nowhere. You're her last ditch attempt to get her money and status back. I think any reply has to come from your friend or her parents and make clear that you are all standing together on this and she is NOT to contact you again.

[scrappydappydoo]

Another person delurking...
Sat and read both threads like this
Cannot believe the front of the sis - really glad that everyone is on you (and friends) side.

[Plomino]

It's not often that I'm left speechless , but this has done it for me . It really is all about her isn't it ? And she doesn't give a shit how much she upsets people as long as she gets her way . If ever there was someone who needed her fortune telling with words and gestures , it's her .

I'd be paying the pilot to drop her over the sea somewhere en route over if it were I . Unfuckingbelievable . What is it going to take for her to back the fuck down ? Can we not get Fronk to bring the wishing well back ? Then we can all chip in for an immediate plane ticket back for her. In cattle class .

[Vellimetry]

Obviously she's having real problems being the bad guy here (even though she could have saved face some days ago) and is desperate to rise, phoenix-like, from the ashes. I actually feel quite sorry for her, she's not living in any sort of real world.

All you can do, really is to reply along these lines:
"Thanks for your email. It seems everyone at this end is happy with what's going ahead, so no further help needed.

For obvious reasons, I'm reluctant to get into any family issues so I've passed on your concerns and will leave it to and

[Vellimetry]

Of course when I say "I actually feel quite sorry for her", it comes with the proviso that she's a vile, selfish loon

[AntoinetteCosway]

She's a bully. Are you prepared for the show down on the day? She's going to be dreadful. Make sure you're ready to smile sweetly and ignore, ignore, ignore...she'll probably self-combust!

[doubleshotespresso]

MumnGran* the situation made me cry.... Made me realise I have been so wrapped up and determined that my friend will be better and get the day she wants that I had sort of parked the whole MC thing somewhere in my brain.

It was like a thunderbolt dropped out from my computer when I read it.....that's all. I knew it would send DP into orbit but that I would have to tell him. So she and the situation /tiredness made me cry. For a bit- but you know it was a little moment and I don't think anybody at work noticed so that's good...

And baseball bats? Good God, the MN army- can you imagine?

Why is here bloody football on instead of Question Time?

[AntoinetteCosway]

Oh that's a good email Velli...

[skyeskyeskye]

The woman is mad isn't she?! everything they had was so over the top and that gift list made a complete fool out of your friend and caused her great embarrassment!

Greet her at the ceremony with a straight jacket and deliver her to Fronk so they can weep and wAil together over it.....

You have been a fantastic friend throughout and far more of a sister to her than her actual one!

[redexpat]

I stopped reading originally when you'd had coffee with her and were going to help sort it! I'm now up to date and gobsmacked. Congratulations on the engagement. I like it when nice things happen to nice people.

[Frogcatcher]

Big hugs double. That comment is just the lowest thing I have ever heard.

[skyeskyeskye]

I had missed where you posted part if the email, have just read it.

What part of *fuck off with your twatty OTT plans" is it that she doesn't understand......

The woman needs a sharp reminder that this is not her day, and that its entirely up to your friend what she plans for the day.

Salvage the original plans ? WTAF is that woman on......

I am really cross now! Your poor friend. Lumbered with a bitch like that for a sister, inferring that her sister can't cope and doesn't know what's best...!!