to go crazy at this guy

[Emz8369]

long story short couldnt find daughter (5) so had friend and sister out helping me look found her after after about ten minutes with old next door neighbours dad (bloke in his 50s I'd say) walking the dog along an old cycle track (where she knows she is not allowed) she used to go on dog walks with him and his daughter regularly but daughter since moved. When I found her she got a severe telling off and I went bat shit crazy at this guy (his reasoning being daughter told him she was allowed WTF) part of the reason I flipped is because of something which happened to older daughter which is on another thread I wrote called my world has fallen apart

If you post "AIBU to not allow my nearly 7 yo out of my sight ever, and to build a fence around our back garden and securely lock it, and never let her play out witout me being there to watch her?" the responses will be very different to the posts on this thread!

I think you are being very unreasonable to be honest and you owe the man an apology (as it appears the vast majority of others in this thread think too).

You really have to look at yourself. You should have been keeping a closer eye on her. It is totally your responsibility and no one elses. Instead of going crazy at this man I would have been thanking my lucky stars that she didn't run in to some sick weirdo. Count your blessings and learn from it.

I really cannot understand why you owe him an apology. No adult man or women in this day and age would take a 6 year olds words that something is fine WITHOUT checking with a parent first!! He should have turned round and walked her back home to you then carried on with his walk either with her with your permission or without her.

'thanking my lucky stars that she didn't run in to some sick weirdo'
Just because he is known to the family and she used to walk with him and his daughter - doesnt mean it is exempt from being some sick weirdo. Sadly recent stories in the news have proven this.

Agree giveme I wouldn't consider apologising to him.

Perhaps he'll think twice before he takes the word of a 6 year old that she is allowed to go for a walk with an acquaintance without notifying a parent.

I'd be keeping a closer eye on her too.

I feel I should apologise because of my reaction I really went off one on when I shouldn't have

Okay, OP has said she wants to apologize. She was scared (understandably) and panicking. So, we've established that now.

How about we help her find ways to get an apology to the poor bloke? Can you knock at his daughter's door? (Is that who he was visiting?) and ask for her to pass on your sincere apologies? Could you keep an eye for his car next time and slip a note under the windscreen wiper?

Thanks Roma his daughter no longer lives next door to me but I do sometimes see him in town so will apologise face to face if/when I see him