I know, I know, but I need quick answers and am prepared for some of them to not be very nice...
Ds2 (4) had a choking incident last Saturday at pils.
No one saw it happen, just the aftermath and him being very upset, complaining of feeling sick etc.
On Sunday he was no better, and crying with pain in his throat.
I took him to ooh gp who said it wasn't tonsillitis (I didn't think it was)
By this point he was barely eating or drinking and still complaining of pain and feeling sick.
To gp Monday. Same thing. No tonsillitis. Bring him back on weds if no better.
By weds he had really gone downhill and was still complaining of pain and something being stuck.
He then stared to vomit and couldn't even keep water down.
Gp sent him to a and e where they took bloods and put him on a drip...he was really poorly by this point. Also have him abs as his bloods showed he was fighting an infection? They also did an x ray of his throat and said they were happy with it.
He was kept In overnight. Sadly, his drip came out (don't know how) so fluids and abs stopped.
They discharged him in Thursday afternoon with oral abs and said its probably an infection and will get better and they dont think anything is stuck.
It's now a week since this first started and he is still pretty much unable to eat. He is hungry, but can't seem to swallow easily. I am pushing fluids.
I am very unhappy and worried about him.
He has visibly lost weight.
He is better than he was in that he can now keep food and fluids down, but surely a week is too long to leave a 4 years old like this?
Also in the discharge papers under diagnosis it just had a ?
That's not right, surely?
I want to take him back to a and e but dh is being very difficult and saying the dr know best and we have to wait it out.
How long would you leave your dc like this?
Thanks from reading.
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Badvoc · 08/06/2013 10:59
Hi.
I got him an appt at the gp this morning.
I just couldn't face going back to hospital and agree with the poster who said that they would feel I hadn't waited long enough iyswim?
She is a good gp and was a bit 
at the discharge letter but also confused as to why they didn't give him some gaviscon to sooth his gullet.
Anyway, she has given him some gaviscon and wants to see him again on weds morning.
Thanks so much for all your advice and help.
He is quiet and pale, but he has been through a bit of an ordeal and is tired too.
We will be having a nap later! :)
My dad is picking ds1 up from school for me thank goodness.
EP...he has improved in the sense he can keep food and fluids down now but he is definitely not "right" ....sorry, I dont know how else to explain it.
Thanks again. I really appreciate it.
Poor you & your ds! What an awful thing to go through. I hope he is better very soon.
I am wondering if perhaps your ds is picking up on how overwhelmed you are feeling and that is making him a little nervous to get back to his normal eating routine? It would scare the life out of anyone, never mind a 4yr old. He is old enough to remember what happened & it will have it's after effects, but he could perhaps be playing on it a little (attention seeking) and also be scared of a repeat.
Of course his throat will hurt a little, and I think that because it isn't exactly something you can rest, it will take a little longer to heal/feel better.
Maybe you need to go back to basics, with some more runny foods, like soup, porridge, mash, etc and make them lumpier & harder to help him get his confidence back?
The sick thing might be attention seeking too, might be worry as well.
As far as healthy eating, I think just let him eat what he likes (to a degree obviously) as long as he is eating, the rest can come once this is a more distant memory for both of you. 
Oh Badvoc What a nightmare for you, it's no surprise you're feeling so tired and drained. But if you can see an improvement in DS (however small) then you can know this is passing. It's a good sign if he can manage a muffin, would that have been possible a few days ago?
My DS used to say he felt sick as he didn't have the vocabulary to explain tummy ache/headache/most 'ill' feelings when I think about it! Could this be similar with your LO?
Its no fun having a poorly child and having to battle both services and family to get them treated, my exH was packing his bags to leave whilst I called paramedics for DS at 7 months. Mothers instinct is an incredible thing, keep on listening to it 
He's fine now, a happy, boisterous 6yo 
but for a short while he was very poorly. It's lonely and frightening dealing with that on your own.
I think it's perfectly reasonable to be angry? Your right, your DH cant change his personality but behaviours can be changed. DS is poorly and you need some support, that may be adding to why you feel so wretched today.
You've had to keep going to get DS the treatment he needs, but now you can relax a little about that, its understandable that you'll need to process whats happened emotionally.
A day watching cbeebies with snuggles and a few tears could be quite cathartic and maybe just what you need.
No, it's not right and it's the worst type of loneliness IMO. It is possible for behavioural changes to be made with the right guidance and support (for DP) but he has to want to do it. Be kind to yourself today, great news on the toast
As its something practical, is the washing machine something DH could sort so you don't have to worry about it?
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