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Posting here or traffic...Aibu to take ds2 back to hospital?

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Badvoc · 08/06/2013 10:59

I know, I know, but I need quick answers and am prepared for some of them to not be very nice...
Ds2 (4) had a choking incident last Saturday at pils.
No one saw it happen, just the aftermath and him being very upset, complaining of feeling sick etc.
On Sunday he was no better, and crying with pain in his throat.
I took him to ooh gp who said it wasn't tonsillitis (I didn't think it was)
By this point he was barely eating or drinking and still complaining of pain and feeling sick.
To gp Monday. Same thing. No tonsillitis. Bring him back on weds if no better.
By weds he had really gone downhill and was still complaining of pain and something being stuck.
He then stared to vomit and couldn't even keep water down.
Gp sent him to a and e where they took bloods and put him on a drip...he was really poorly by this point. Also have him abs as his bloods showed he was fighting an infection? They also did an x ray of his throat and said they were happy with it.
He was kept In overnight. Sadly, his drip came out (don't know how) so fluids and abs stopped.
They discharged him in Thursday afternoon with oral abs and said its probably an infection and will get better and they dont think anything is stuck.
It's now a week since this first started and he is still pretty much unable to eat. He is hungry, but can't seem to swallow easily. I am pushing fluids.
I am very unhappy and worried about him.
He has visibly lost weight.
He is better than he was in that he can now keep food and fluids down, but surely a week is too long to leave a 4 years old like this?
Also in the discharge papers under diagnosis it just had a ?
That's not right, surely?
I want to take him back to a and e but dh is being very difficult and saying the dr know best and we have to wait it out.
How long would you leave your dc like this?
Thanks from reading.

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DeskPlanner · 08/06/2013 19:36

Very glad you have had some good advice. Do take him straight back if he doesn't improve in a couple of days. You sound a bit overwhelmed by everything at the moment, hope your ok.Thanks

DeskPlanner · 08/06/2013 19:36

Very glad you have had some good advice. Do take him straight back if he doesn't improve in a couple of days. You sound a bit overwhelmed by everything at the moment, hope your ok.Thanks

DeskPlanner · 08/06/2013 19:36

Very glad you have had some good advice. Do take him straight back if he doesn't improve in a couple of days. You sound a bit overwhelmed by everything at the moment, hope your ok.Thanks

DeskPlanner · 08/06/2013 19:36

Very glad you have had some good advice. Do take him straight back if he doesn't improve in a couple of days. You sound a bit overwhelmed by everything at the moment, hope your ok.Thanks

Badvoc · 08/06/2013 19:37

They were so kind cherries.
And obv not happy at him being discharged the way he was.
I think ds needs to get back to normal obv by eating and drinking more but glad the ABs are working. Was doubtful this morning.
Had to take ds1 with us too and they have bit he been utter stars :)
The docs were very taken with both of them :) < shameless boast>

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DeskPlanner · 08/06/2013 19:37

Sorry about the multiple posts. Phone has a mind of It's own today. Blush

ExitPursuedByABear · 08/06/2013 19:39


Badvoc · 08/06/2013 19:39

Hi worries!
I am overwhelmed ATM you are right and that's why I needed impartial advice.
I have been at that hospital every day since Monday! (Once for myself, twice for my dad and three times for ds) :(

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Badvoc · 08/06/2013 19:40

I am giving it till Tuesday unless he gets obv worse.
Thanks again everyone.

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canyou · 08/06/2013 19:43

Poor DS, I damaged my oesophagus a few yes ago, swallowing was uncomfortable, could you freeze fruit and veg juices for nutrients and fluids if he is uncomfortable swallowing, hope he n you feel Bette soonThanks

Badvoc · 08/06/2013 19:49

And I showed dh this thread before I insisted we took him back in.
Guess what he said?
"Well, they will tell you to take him back, they are all mums"
God, he can be a knob sometimes! :(

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LEMisdisappointed · 08/06/2013 20:34

Glad you got him seen badvoc - err, tell your GP we were right! Glad hes on the mend!

SueDoku · 09/06/2013 15:38

Hi OP, how is your DS today? Have been thinking of you for last 24 hours - hope that the ABs are doing their job..? Also hope that you are feeling a little less stressed - it must be so worrying for you.

Punkatheart · 09/06/2013 15:42

So sorry I came late to this. You must have been so worried. Hope he mends and that you feel better in yourself too.

Sending kind thoughts.

Badvoc · 09/06/2013 15:49

Thank you.
He is ok, I think.
He is still complaining of feeling sick - am thinking this could be the ABs?(although he had been complaining of that since last Saturday :()
He is eating and drinking which is good. Not as much as usual and healthy eating has gone out if the window totally!
He was getting quite upset in the car earlier...keep saying he felt sick.
I wonder if its due to all the to-ing and fro-ing to hospital? He was very ll on weds.
I don't know....

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ImperialBlether · 09/06/2013 15:49

Badvoc, is your DH usually as useless as this?

Badvoc · 09/06/2013 15:57

He thinks I am over reacting imperial.
He believes "dr know best" even after our horrific experiences with ds1.
Ds was complaining in the car just now (had go go to mils for lunch) that he neck itched.
"Oh that will be the scratch healing"
They dont even know it is a bloody scratch!
I am beside myself with worry and I can't make him see why.
Ds is a child that ate on the hour every hour.
He is now almost afraid to eat...he asks for food, tries some and then stops.
Maybe I Aibu? Maybe I am over reacting.
But he is 4 and I am his only advocate.

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loopylou6 · 09/06/2013 16:38

Aww, he's probably feeling a bit traumatised with the whole incident, and it's possible hes too scared to eat.

He maybe feeling sick, simply because hes hungry. I would offer soft yummy food like strawberries, cake, ice lollies etc. :)

Badvoc · 09/06/2013 16:45

He is currently playing drs with dh ATM. He just x rayed him. And gave him some yucky medicine.
It's so sweet, he keeps calling me for a second opinion.
"Excuse me, can you follow me dr mummy" :)
Poor thing. He really his been through it this week.

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Theselittlelightsofmine · 10/06/2013 02:27

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flyingspaghettimonster · 10/06/2013 04:54

Never second guess yourself about a&e trips. Especially in the uk where it is free! I took my son in with breathing difficulties 4 times over 3 nights. On the 4th i almost didn't. I had reached the point where being sent home 3 times made me stop believing my instincts. I did take him in, expecting the same few hours of airways meds then home. They rushed him through to the back so fast i didn't have time to fill insurance info. 6 doctors and nurses were around his bed like something out of casualty.

he looked no worse than the previous night when we had been discharged.
He nearly died of pneumonia; 2 weeks in hospital, operation, every possible antibiotic and at one point the doctor cried. But he wouldn't have made it if I had not gone in that 4th time. He wouldn't have woken up the next morning.

So I think no parent should ever choose not to go to a&e if there is any doubt in their minds about their child. Because things can change and develop and be missed. My kid had no signs of pneumonia on his xray

12 hours later the xray showed one lung completely full.

Sorry if I sound preachy. I still shake thinking how close i came to losing him for fear of the $1,000+ minimum cost each visit. If I had been in England I wouldn't have had that extra thought stopping me going.

I really hope your son is fine and that you went to a&e.

pollywollydoodle · 10/06/2013 05:30

i was thinking about what a difference it makes to have medical/nursing staff apolo gise rather than close ranks glad you got a better experience this time and hope he feels better soon

btw there are some new sherbert dib dab ice lollies out which are really nice Wink

Badvoc · 10/06/2013 07:43

Flying...god, how awful for you. So glad he is ok now. We had an awful time with our ds1 when he was born. They sent me home with a 4.5 lb baby who wasnt feeding and had jaundice. Needless to say, the next day we were back in for him to be fed by ng tube :(
I am actually thinking of making a complaint to PALS about the nurse practitioner we saw (who also failed to dx asthma a couple of months ago too)
Also, I am thinking if complaining about how he was discharged. I don't think ? Should ever be seen on a discharge form.
Ds was complaining last night about pain again and he is Saying he feels sick this morning. Dh says its the ABs but the nausea pre dates the abs and vomiting.
I just dont know what to do.
He begged me last night nit to take him back to hospital :(
Dh doesn't want me to take him back.
The docs said to leave it til tomorrow.
I can't fight them all :(

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Badvoc · 10/06/2013 07:44

I am so tired and worried.
I am not thinking straight.

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Badvoc · 10/06/2013 07:50

I can't ask dh to take us again.
I am too tired to drive.
I could ask my sister....

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