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Original poster

To leave DP over £2000 he 'accidently' threw away with the rubbish?

226 replies

mumstonic · 04/06/2013 16:57

I think this has to be the final straw really.

We run a business. Its a struggle. Just when I think we're finally turning a corner I discover the DP had accidently thrown out an envelope with just over £2000 in it. We were paid by a customer on Friday, the money was due to go into the bank today and now its in a landfill somewhere.

Gutted is an understatement. Just another careless idiotic thing in a long line. I hate running this business, I've had enough and I just want to leave.

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Kyrptonite · 04/06/2013 16:59

Cheque or cash? If cheque could you explain to the customer and hope they issue a new one?

If not take his bollocks off the feckless twat.

Tee2072 · 04/06/2013 17:00

He threw away cash? I'd kill not leave.

Bakingnovice · 04/06/2013 17:01

You poor thing. I'm not surprised you're livid.

NorthernLurker · 04/06/2013 17:01

£2000 cash? Oh bloody hell. When was the rubbish collected? Contact the council and see if they can trace it all. Do you have insurance - any chance that would cover accidental loss?

I don't think it's reasonable to end a relationship because you hate the business though. Is that all there is? Could you be happy with DP if i wasn't for that?

squoosh · 04/06/2013 17:01

I feel sick to the stomach on your behalf.

3littlefrogs · 04/06/2013 17:01

It depends where the envelope was I suppose. If it was clearly labelled and in a safe place away from any rubbish/scrap paper then YANBU.

If it was not labelled and mixed up with a pile of rubbish then YABU.

I am guessing the former, and that there is a back story here. I would be furious. Is he careless about other things?

Sallyingforth · 04/06/2013 17:04

That is sickening. And of course you have to declare it for tax purposes because you received it from a customer even though it was subsequently lost. Sack him.

Original poster
mumstonic · 04/06/2013 17:04

It was cash. The only time we've ever taken cash too as most customers pay by bank transfer or cheaque. It wasnt all profit either. Over half was allocated to pay for things, so now we'll have to find the money from elsewhere.

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TinBox · 04/06/2013 17:04

Are you sure he really threw it away? Are your business and personal finances completely transparent? Is he carrying debt that he's been concealing?

It's not impossible that he threw away the money the cash. I know that I've put the odd £10 or £20 note in the bin myself when I've been having a busy day and am very distracted - but £2000 disappearing without a trace? My first thought would be a secret gambling problem. Sorry.

AKissIsNotAContract · 04/06/2013 17:05

2k in cash would be in a pretty thick envelope, not easy to mistake for scrap. I bet your DP is feeling terrible about it.

EhricLovesTeamQhuay · 04/06/2013 17:05

Oh fuck.
If it's the latest in a long line...yanbu.

fuzzpig · 04/06/2013 17:08

Fucking hell. That's awful. I don't think YWBU if this is typical carelessness. :(

McNewPants2013 · 04/06/2013 17:09

£2000 in an envelope would have been quite a wade, are you sure he chucked it away.

honeytea · 04/06/2013 17:09

Oh shit, what an awful mistake.

I bet he is feeling worse than you.

DreamsTurnToGoldDust · 04/06/2013 17:10

Oh god, thats bad, is he usually careless or was it an awful accident?

DrGoogleWillSeeYouNow · 04/06/2013 17:11

Nah - nobody accidentally chucks away 2k in cash, that would have been a bulky envelope and hard to miss.

Is he a gambler?

MadamFolly · 04/06/2013 17:12

Are you sure he hasn't pocketed it?

StuffezLaYoni · 04/06/2013 17:13

What??? Dear God. Sad
As others have said tough, it would have been a thick envelope - how did he do it?

MissMarplesBloomers · 04/06/2013 17:15

I reckon he pocketed it personally.

IKnowWhat · 04/06/2013 17:15
Shock

That is awful. How did it happen?

FobblyWoof · 04/06/2013 17:16

OP I feel awful for you. This just sounds like the tip of the iceberg

Original poster
mumstonic · 04/06/2013 17:16

Yes, the envelope was clearly labled and yes, it will have to be declared for tax purposes as we'd already banked the client's first payment. I could cry.

Our insurance only covers £500 cash and even then I think there is an excess. The woman from the council literally laughed when I told her what had happend, which made me feel even more awful.

Back story is DP is a class A twat. Selfish, irresponsible, entitled. Living with him is like swimming through treacle. He constantly creates problem after problem, usually of a financial nature and I'm sick of it. I just cant do this anymore.

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WeAreEternal · 04/06/2013 17:17

Can you not claim on insurance for it?

I agree with others I can't imagine it was easily mistaken for scrap. Not l

Fluffy1234 · 04/06/2013 17:17

I managed to chuck out the whole familiy's passports a couple of years ago.

NorthernLurker · 04/06/2013 17:18

Leave him then. Life's too short to clean up after a twat.

Have you anywhere to go?