In brief:
H and I have been having problems for a while. I have just started to take on more work following the birth of DD (now 1yo). I have tried to persuade him to go to couples counselling but he refused as he thought it would end up with him being criticised by the counsellor as well as by me (surely an indication that he knows he wasn't being great?).
Quick background point: he goes out every week with his mates and I babysit and then take care of DD the next day so he is not starved of a social life - he also goes out as and when parties come up; I have moved work projects around to accommodate this.
He was invited to a party on Saturday and double checked I was OK with him going - I said of course but I needed to work on Sunday (fyi I had put off all my work until the weekend to make sure he had last week free to work on the understanding I could work at the weekend - we didn't want to use childcare).
He said fine, he would be home early and sober enough to be in a fit state to look after DD properly first thing on Sunday morning.
Cut to Saturday night: I was woken up at 3:30 am by a tremendous banging from downstairs. I thought someone had broken in but no, it was H so drunk he was bouncing off the walls. I had a MASSIVE go at him and let him know exactly what I thought about his behaviour.
He shouted vile things at me and then kicked me. In the chest. Hard. Then went to sleep.
Worried about what he would do if he woke up again before sobering up, I called the police (once I had picked myself up, ascertained nothing felt broken and got my breath back), he was arrested and, once sober, interviewed when he admitted what had happened. He was charged with battery and bailed on condition that he doesn't come near me or DD or the family home.
Most people have been very supportive BUT some close family members have told me I should drop the charges because it would be awful for him to have a criminal record.
WTAF?
So, and I promise I won't be offended, please tell me honestly AIBU to think the fucker deserves to be convicted because what he did was ACTUALLY CRIMINAL?
Am I missing something?
I am genuinely confused by some people's reactions so if you agree that I should drop the charges, that's fine but please can you explain why?
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AIBU?
To think I shouldn't bloody drop the charges even if the bugger is my husband...?
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Ginshizz · 04/06/2013 13:51
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