To consider marrying this man?

[PotentialTrophyWife]

Bit of an unusual one, so I have name changed.

I am a never married, childless woman, coming to the end of healthy fertility. I've been in relationships, but never found the one. Don't believe in soul mates or anything like that and have a very practical approach to dating and love.

I'm from a modest working class background, but university educated and have a reasonable income, which I obviously would like to be more.

I had always wanted to get married and have children, but it just never happened. And I thought it wasn't going to, until this offer came along.

My best friend from university has asked me to marry him. We've kept in great touch all these years, and we enjoy each others company immensely. We have holidayed together as friends in the past and I value him a person. There's just not romance. But I would consider marrying for companionship in old age.

However, his offer is a little more enticing than just companionship. He is from a very upper class background and marrying him would basically render me a kept woman. I'd keep my job obviously, but I would be living in luxury. He has property all over the world and we'd be living in a country estate in England. I could have anything I wanted if I accept his offer.

He's asked me to look at this like a business arrangement, neither of us want to enter old age alone and we are great friends.

If companionship was all this was, I'd probably say yes straight away. The extreme wealth and lifestyle change is what is holding me back. I would be mortified if someone suggested I was a gold digger.

Does anybody have any experiences of marrying for reasons other than love? Arranged marriages and such? This feels like I'm arranging my own arranged marriage!

Pah Triumph, he's only middle-class, no cuntry pile, properties all over the world and Cuntry Casuals.

Pippa Middleton is still single, OP. better hope she doesn't cross your Intended's path.

, I think we've got the creative writing group on here today..

In your situation I'd probably go for it. I do wonder though why it's never happened before if you fancied him at uni?

"Only think! At breakfast, and always."

Could you do breakfast and always, OP?

Oh, I dunno, I've had some strange proposals in my time. Some of them even involved marriage. One such came from an unimaginably rich, incredibly good-looking, lunatic cokehead I'd known for ten days, and not had sex with. Given that I'd kept my clothes on because he was too much of a nutter (and I have shagged & married some v. weird men), it seemed unwise to accept his proposal.

It may have been a poor decision, one of many I admit. At least I'd have got a good diamond out of it.

I'd be tempted but no. You're going to get on each other's nerves after a while of living together and if there's no lust to keep you together then what will be left?
Why marry anyway? Can you not just live together and keep each other company if that's what you're both after?

And sorry to say so but it all sounds a bit puerile to me

OP not back?

She's checking fertility clinics online, Ilike. Or demanding keys to all the locked doors in his mansions.

I love this thread. LOVE IT. Can't wait for the sequel.

There are worse reasons, protect yourself financially.

If not, does he have an eye for middle aged bearded men

Sequel end of July I should think.

TheSecondComing that was my thought- if pushed for a trophy wife, 42 year old posh men go younger and stick with posh- think Diana and Charles. They never marry down (no 'benefit' of being married to a common person).

Well if its true, then I probably would. You obviously like him as a good friend, its a good start thats for sure.

Is this like the story about the 'older married lady' looking for sex tips? OP, are you virgo intacto?

It might not be a massively expensive trophy, to be fair.

Even Mr Rochester went younger. WAY younger. :o

But maybe, well, the Earl Spencer did go for a nearly 40-year-old this time round. A rich one, of course. But he had a couple of heirs already and, well, how many kids is it now? Think he had 6 when he married this time round. Hardly in the same league as this guy - cuntry pile, though.

Funniest bit of commentary at the wedding of Wills and Kate. Presenter 1: 'And there is the Earl Spencer and . . . ' Presenter 2 cuts in: 'Is that his new wife?' Presenter 1: 'All his wives are new.'

Marry him.

It is seriously depressing that so many people regard a woman of 42 as unmarriageable.

at 42, i would hold out for true love, however if i was much older and lobnely and really liked the person, i woudl consider it!