to think this dog needs to go to the effing vets?

[TheSeventhHorcrux]

PILs went out, their dog was fine in the garden, they come back an hour or two later and she's only walking on 3 legs. Back leg bent and not touching the floor, she can't extend it at all. Moans when leg is touched.

3 days later OH and I find out, I ask whether she's been to the vets. "No, she's just pulled her leg". (She's still walking on only 3 legs, appears to be in pain).

7 days later OH and I visit, she's still walking on 3 legs and falls over/collapses when she tries to crouch. Basically there is no improvement. FIL says she's fine and he's not taking her to the vets. He says if it is the same by the weekend (will be 14 days) then he'll take him the following week (maybe 16-18 days later).

OH offers to take her to the vets, FIL says "only if you're fucking paying for it."

They're pretty well off, certainly well off enough to pay a vet (dog not insured).

AIBU to think that it is cruel not to be taking the dog to the vets now?!

One phone call.

You could anonymously report if you were that scared.

You do know the dog won't get to see the vet tomorrow, don't you?

Oops, xposts! :)

You could anonymously report if you were that scared - They are taking the dog to the vets tomorrow. If they don't, I will report them. In the mean time, what will it achieve? The RSPCA won't act until tomorrow anyway. The dog has only been seen by OH, myself and his grandparents. It won't really be that anonymous will it?
Scared isn't the word, but i'm not doing something that will achieve nothing but a lifetime of frostiness from my inlaws - not when I can get the dog to a vets (albeit later than I would have liked) without having to get the police/RSPCA/etc involved

When you said about "3 days later" you asked and they hadn't been to the vet was when you should have acted. Give them one chance if you really must but no more.

Now I'm
Worried that the dog is just going to be PtS or something just to save the money. I do think you need to call the vets and explain. And call and check they showed up.

Your dh needs to make sure the dog doesnt just "disappear"

Do you think the vets will tell me if they turn up? They'll probably refuse to release that information.

Lay off the OP. She said she'd act if they don't do anything tomorrow. Did it not occur to any of you that she might be a little bit afraid? Her PILs don't sound like very nice people!

Seventh If I were you, I'd be phoning the vet and giving them a little tip about the situation. It's the best thing you could do for the dog.

I can't believe how nasty some people are being to the OP. she's obviously been very upset and her and her husband have done well to get the pil to agree to get the dog treatment. Yes, this took longer than we all, including op, would have liked but at least the dog will now see a vet tomorrow.

Well done to your dh, op. I appreciate that this kind of thing with in laws and family can be pretty tricksy.

OP I couldn't sleep at night knowing that the poor dog is suffering but I am not stupid enough to think it is easy to just take the dog yourself.

They are not your parents and of course you are going to worry about the outcome of reporting or 'kidnapping' it will have on your husband.

It's not up to the OP if her husband wants a relationship with his parents, he is their child and he is the one (if anyone) who should be getting a hard time for not taking the dog in. I wouldn't expect the OP to just do it and deal with the consequences she might face from her in-laws and her husband.

It's her husbands choice whether or not he want to risk the relationship with his parents and he seems to be doing the best he can without destroying his relationship with them, and it is never as simple as not wanting to know people who are 'scum' they are his parents. People put up with years of crap from parents because it's so bloody hard to stop seeing the people who raised you, so of course he is going to be cautious.

I'd imagine there would be some sort of data protection where the vet couldn't tell you certain things, however I'm sure if they felt there was an abuse/neglect case then they could pass the details onto the relevant parties.

Given the circumstances if you explain then perhaps they will. They may not tell you the treatment course but they may be a&e to confirm the appointment went ahead. I really think you need to Pre warn them purely because if they try to just put the dog to sleep or claim it just happened then they may want to check on that.

A&e? Able- iPhone fail again

Poor dog & poor OP for that matter. I hope it's sorted tomorrow.

Lets face it, without the OP and her OH that poor dog wouldn't be going to the vet at all.

I do think your FIL is a shit.

OP, I am glad you and your OH are doing what you can. Your FIL is a skeeve.

OP, I think you should phone the vet to forewarn them that the dog has been injured for 19 days and they have not sought treatment for it, despite your pleas for them to do so.

The vet has a duty of care and the RCVS states that they should consider discussing any concerns of animal welfare/abuse with the owner and consider reporting to the authorities if appropriate.

I really do understand you being in a difficult predicament but that poor animal has been in pain for 18 days and doesn't deserve to suffer any longer because you/your DH do not want to ruin his relationship with his parents. That animal has no one to stick up for it except you/your DH and I don't say that to guilt trip you but because it's true.

Please phone the vet OP so they have all the info. If they won't tell them whether they have kept the appt for the dog then explain what has been happening and they may provide the relevant info to the RSPCA.

YANBU, our dog had a similar issue and it turned out to be a damaged cruciate ligament. We waited all of 24 hours before getting him seen.

Hope the poor dog gets treatment ASAP.

OP - if I knew where your FIL lived I would be now ringing the RSPCA to report the cruelty. I really hope that legal action is taken against him through the Courts. There is no excuse for someone to knowingly let an animal suffer.

Hi. Just to clarify - by tomorrow it will have been 11 days, not 18. I know that's not much better. They originally said that if it wasn't better by this weekend (which would have been 14 days) then they would take her next week (which would be up to 16-18 days)

Also, this would be a very different story if they were my parents. The dog would be at the vets on day 3 if that was the case.

Day 3 being the day we found out. We give our dog a 24-48 hour gap depending on the severity

Please promise u will report if they fail to follow through. It's too long that poor dog will be in excruciating pain. :( It doesn't sound like they will bother tbh you do need abs k up plan because somehow this dog needs to be seen and your her only hope.

A back up plan

OP

You've done the right thing. For some people nothing is good enough, no relationship worth saving. You are trying to balance your DH, his parents and your concern for an animal. You can't please everyone, you just have to do what you feel is right. I hope FIL did take the dog to the vet and get an earful in the process of getting the injury treated.

Well done to DH for persuading him.

That's great that you and your husband have convinced the inlaws to take the dog to the vets, what a relief that you've made them see some sense. I hope everything works out tomorrow, and well done for not giving up, the dog could still be suffering for a lot longer if it wasn't for you.

Messed up and cruel beyond words! Why are you even bothered about having a relationship with them or your man having one with them. . He would be better off without such cruel individuals . After this I would have nothing to to with them. Why would you?

You are just as bad as them if you are leaving an animal to suffer knowing full well that it is. I couldn't sleep knowing this. No way. Cruel world we live ! There's no excuse.