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AIBU?

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Original poster

to have told this girl off today...

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ImABadGirl · 27/05/2013 23:29

was a lovely sunny day today so I went bike riding with my family, as we waited in the queue for an ice cream, this girl screams and flicks a bug off her shoulder (we're in a country park)

anyway after a couple of minutes she looks at the dragonfly that she flicked off and promptly stands on it.

I'm quite Angry at this and tell her so, there were a lot of kids around. My mum said I shouldn't have had a go at her so WIBU?

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Original poster
ImABadGirl · 27/05/2013 23:30

forgot to add she was in her twenties so not a youngster...

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Samnella · 27/05/2013 23:32

YANBU. But she is a woman not a girl.

SoleSource · 27/05/2013 23:32

Yanbu.i feel the same about any i.sects etc natice to UK

FadBook · 27/05/2013 23:35

Yanbu

I wouldn't have bitten my lip either. Well done for saying something.

It's unkind to kill something that is harmless. What message does that give to young children? Anything smaller than you, you have control over.

What was her reaction to you saying something?

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ImABadGirl · 27/05/2013 23:37

she went very red and murmured 'sorry' the friends she was with all laughed at her...

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wannabedomesticgoddess · 27/05/2013 23:38

So she flicked off the dragonfly and it was there a few minutes later? Hurt? Couldnt fly away?

Should she have let it suffer?

YABU and self righteous.

morethanpotatoprints · 27/05/2013 23:39

I'd have stamped on it too.
Out of sheer panic I think.

YABU, none of your bloody business.

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ImABadGirl · 27/05/2013 23:40

not sure it was hurt, probably a bit stunned, am talking 2 minutes not more than 5, it was certainly crawling around

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hiddenhome · 27/05/2013 23:40

People are encouraged to be pathetic and hysterical these days Sad

Stupid woman for killing it. Let's hope she thinks twice next time.

DiscoDonkey · 27/05/2013 23:40

I suppose it depends why she did, like wannabe said if it was half dead maybe that's why she did it? Or maybe she was an arse

poncypony · 27/05/2013 23:41

If the dragonfly was still on the ground, it was probably injured anyway. I would kill an insect that had no chance of recovery.

Although it is awfully melodramatic to attack a dragonfly in the first place.

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ImABadGirl · 27/05/2013 23:42

she wasn't hysterical, I think it made her jump, if she was that terrified of it, wouldn't she have stamped on it straight away?

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hiddenhome · 27/05/2013 23:42

Such people take a perverse pride in their over reactions Hmm

wannabedomesticgoddess · 27/05/2013 23:43

Melodramatic perhaps.

Still not sure what gave the OP the right to have a go. Is she the insect police now? Hmm

hiddenhome · 27/05/2013 23:43

We are becoming further and further removed from the nature around us Sad

BackOnlyBriefly · 27/05/2013 23:43

I kind of get how you felt, but what do you say to people in the shop buying fly spray?

See you feel a certain way about insects, but others feel differently.

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ImABadGirl · 27/05/2013 23:44

not insect police Hmm just think if you're going to go to a country park you can expect to see bugs and not go around killing them

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SPsCliffingAllOverMN · 27/05/2013 23:45

I stood on ants today. They were trespassing though

hiddenhome · 27/05/2013 23:46

It doesn't matter if it was 'only an insect' it's a living creature and presumably people would be up on arms if she did it to a bird or something.

The insect population needs all the help it can get really.

wannabedomesticgoddess · 27/05/2013 23:46

And if you are going to go to a country park you should expect to be able to enjoy it with out a stranger having a go.

hiddenhome · 27/05/2013 23:47

Fly spray is used to kill disease spreading flies that come into the house. A dragon fly in a country park has the right to be left in peace.

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ImABadGirl · 27/05/2013 23:47

very true hidden, in 20 years half of the insect species we see today won't be around for our children's children to see Sad

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hiddenhome · 27/05/2013 23:49

A country park is home to these creatures. Stupid, hysterical people should remain in shopping centres Hmm

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ImABadGirl · 27/05/2013 23:49

I think if I hadn't said anything a few others would have, got a few people nodding their agreement

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stepawayfromthescreen · 27/05/2013 23:49

seriously, it's a bug. People on Mumsnet are getting het up over someone squishing a bug? For real?!