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Original poster

to think the teacher shouldn't have called DN a bloody stupid twat?

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wetspringday · 18/05/2013 22:31

DN was working on a compter yesterday and leaned back in his chair (shouldn't have done this) but he knocked over a cup of coffee that went over coursework. The teacher yelled at DN and called him a bloody stupid twat.

DN wasn't bothered and seemed to find it quite funny but I think I'd probably have to say something to the teacher concerned along the lines of it not being acceptable. DN is in Year 10 by the way (15.)

AIBU?

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squeakytoy · 18/05/2013 22:33

At 15 I cant see a problem with it... although is he sure that the teacher said twat and not twit..

persimmon · 18/05/2013 22:33

Twat? Really? Are you just getting DN's version?

LindyHemming · 18/05/2013 22:34

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noblegiraffe · 18/05/2013 22:34

Of course it's not acceptable but teachers are human and your DS had just spilled coffee on coursework, which is a major problem. So maybe cut him a break?

HollyBerryBush · 18/05/2013 22:35

Only he knows the relationship between him and his teacher. He isn't offended, so don't be offended on his behalf

McNewPants2013 · 18/05/2013 22:35

Why was there coffee in the classroom any way.

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AKissIsNotAContract · 18/05/2013 22:38

I thought twat was about equal to cunt in terms of rudeness. I'm surprised the responses here are so chilled out about it.

squeakytoy · 18/05/2013 22:40

twat is nowhere near as much a swearword as cunt.. certainly not in any area I have lived in within the UK..

Branleuse · 18/05/2013 22:42

I think him leaning back on his chair and ruining someones coursework by carelessness is more of an issue than whether he got called a twat for it

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wetspringday · 18/05/2013 22:46

It was definitely 'twat'; his mates overheard it and were grinningly shocked. I can see how the teacher was frustrated although I think it was a bit daft to have coffee and coursework next to each other. I wasn't thinking my brother should put in a big huge complaint but mention to the teacher that it wasn't acceptable even though it was daft of DN to be tipping back on his chair.

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Mumof3men · 18/05/2013 22:46

why was there coffee in the classroom/ict suite?

isitsnowingyet · 18/05/2013 22:47

It all sounds a bit bonkers to me. Why did the teacher have a coffee or was it the DN's coffee Hmm? I was informed only recently that twat meant cunt - charming I'm sure. I don't think I'd be over the moon about a teacher who spoke like that. We're all human, but I don't call my kids 'twats' at any time (well, not to their faces )

IncrediblePhatTheInnkeepersCat · 18/05/2013 22:48

While I don't condone calling a pupil a twat (Akiss I'd put twat on the same parallel as prick on the rudeness scale), I'm astounded that he thought it was funny that he ruined another student's piece of coursework! Or was it worse and multiple pieces of coursework in a pile?

MalcolmTuckersMum · 18/05/2013 22:48

This is not an issue. It just isn't.

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wetspringday · 18/05/2013 22:49

It wasn't an ICT suite, it's an ordinary classroom with four or five computers at the back one of which DN was working on when he leaned back on his chair, knocking into a desk which had a cup of coffee (belonging to the teacher) on it along with the coursework, which was how it got spilled.

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Salmotrutta · 18/05/2013 22:49

Twat is an absolute no-no.

Why should your DN (nephew?) not have leaned back?

Why would the teacher be allowed a cup of coffee in the classroom?

That's totally frowned upon in any school I've ever been in!

ravenAK · 18/05/2013 22:50

Unusual for coursework a) to exist & b) to be done in a computer room (& in which case, just print it out again, surely?).

Having said that, I've never called a year 10 a twat, despite many years of potential provocation.

I asked a year 11 the other day whether he was pratting about because 'you just don't give a shit about your GCSE? Because frankly, if that's how you feel, just leave my classroom now.'

The room went very quiet. Miscreant in question muttered 'No miss. I'm really sorry.' & set about picking up the bits of paper he'd been chucking about.

It's really not language which is habitually used by teachers towards students - I very deliberately did so because we're in the last few vital lessons & I knew it would shock.

Having said that, not really your place to complain on his behalf.

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wetspringday · 18/05/2013 22:50

I don't think he found it funny he'd spilled the coffee to be fair, but he and his mates found it funny that the teacher has Used A Bad Word. They're 15; they're a bit gormless but harmless enough Grin

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Salmotrutta · 18/05/2013 22:50

The teacher was the twat IMHO.

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wetspringday · 18/05/2013 22:52

Raven - you see, I'm a teacher myself and while I can sort of understand the language slipping out I'd NEVER use it deliberately. I would be annoyed at that (sorry.)

It wasn't the Year 10 kids' coursework. It was work from another year (sixth form perhaps?) - think from the sounds of things the teacher was going to mark it with a cup of coffee while the kids got on with work on the computers.

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ravenAK · 18/05/2013 22:53

ah, cross posted. Well, in that case, I'd be mopping up & cursing myself for leaving an unlidded coffee near important paperwork. I'd be guaranteed to spill it myself, without adding klutzy teenage boys into the mix!

Swearing definitely not appropriate, but hey, we're human. No-one actually hurt, & student on receiving end not offended. No real harm done.

Salmotrutta · 18/05/2013 22:54

I relate to raven - I once told a pupil they were talking crap. I intended it to shock.

And it did.

HollyBerryBush · 18/05/2013 22:55

Unusual for coursework a) to exist & b) to be done in a computer room (& in which case, just print it out again, surely?).

Unless its an ICT based subject, including OCR nationals which are all coursework, as are BTECs, and most people call CAUs coursework for ease