to resent my partner buying a new PS3, when I can't afford ante natal classes

[Jadems]

Want to throttle my partner at the moment. Just found out that he's bought a new PS3 (replacing the somehow broken current one), with a plan not to tell me. The plan is to 'switch' over the two, so I won't notice.

Wouldn't normally mind. But. We're really short of money at the moment. Keep being told that we need to cut back. I'm not working, we're paying out a huge CSA bill due to assessment of gross not net income, due to have to pay out a huge tax bill due to tax mix up, paying for a barrister for DP's residency issues with his ex- wife and our first baby is due in late July. I'm not able to afford maternity clothes (currently wearing a size 6 skirt that won't zip up fully any more), and just had to cancel my place on the NCT ante natal course because of lack of funds.

AIBU to want to kill him. I know it's 'his' money as he earns it, but to expect me to have to wing pushing a person out of my vagina when we can't afford ante natal care whilst he can afford 'boys toys' - this is really pushing ALL my buttons.

[DonDrapersAltrEgoBigglesDraper]

So you'd rather your baby was in nursery 12 hours a day, pretty much from birth, just that you can prove to your 'D'H that you aren't a sponger...?

Warped priorities you've got there.

It will be interesting to see whether, having had your child, you will actually be able to go through with the 12-hour a day nursery plan, just so that you can make enough money to pay for said nursery. Very interesting, indeed...

It's not something most people can do. Granted, most people don't have complete arseholes for co-parents.