Active discussions

Meet the Other Phone. A phone that grows with your child.

Meet the Other Phone.
A phone that grows with your child.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Talk
AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

Original poster

To not want this child to come on holidays with us

838 replies

arabesque · 10/04/2013 11:08

A group of girls I used to share a house with years ago have arranged to go on a reunion weekend to the West of Ireland in June. The plan was to book into a nice hotel, and spend the time relaxing, having nice meals and a few drinks and catching up and reminiscing. However, one of the group has now asked if its okay to bring her six year old daughter as her husband wants to play in a golf tournament that weekend. A child hanging around is going to completely change the tone of the holiday imho. I haven't spoken to all of the group yet but the two I have been in touch with are not too keen either.

AI (or we)BU to think of saying that we'd prefer if it was kept to adults only as it's the first time we've all been together in about ten years?

OP posts:
NynaevesSister · 19/04/2013 11:17

I've followed this from the start and am so glad that you called your friend on this. You and your other friends sound like great people, and what I hope more than anything now is that you come back for one last update to tell us you had a lovely weekend together.

JaxTellerIsAllMine · 19/04/2013 11:44

yes I want to hear all about your weekend away and catch up, you will all have great fun. And any further news of EF?

rainbow2000 · 19/04/2013 11:53

Go on your weekend and have a fantastic time and come back and tell us all about it.We wont be jealous[much]

WhatchaMaCalllit · 19/04/2013 12:03

cleoowen - the first email was just stating in written form what the rest of the group already had agreed to, i.e. NO KIDS ON THIS TRIP.
EF wasn't paying any heed to that as she had full intentions of bring her DD on this trip. This was made clearer to her in the email that FF had put together and by including the others in the group on this email any avenue of trying to turn the situation around for EF was cut off there and then.
I wouldn't have interpreted it as 'being ganged up on'.

I'd be sorely tempted (though I'd never have the guts to do it) to send an email to EF asking her if she felt the way she did in her reply, firstly why she would want to spend time with the group and secondly why she would think that it would be a suitable environment for her DD to be exposed to. But I'd never have the guts to do it Blush

At least arabesque you know where you stand now with this 'friend'

Original poster
arabesque · 19/04/2013 13:31

Forthright friend got an email last night accusing her of 'poisoning' everyone against EF and ruining what 'would have been a chance to let bygones be bygones and have a nice weekend together'.

There are no bygones. It's all in her head. Confused

FF didn't dignify it with a reply. Hopefully that is IT!

OP posts:
Oswin · 19/04/2013 13:37

Bloody hell. Your much better off ignoring her totally from now on, best to cut her off she sounds horrid!

gonerogue · 19/04/2013 13:39

My God she doesn't give up does she? Radio silence is the best response so well done FF. I would have flipped at that email and really let her have it.

Best way to get over the whole thing is have a fabulous weekend and not give her any headspace from now on.

BOF · 19/04/2013 13:39

She sounds utterly deranged.

TravelinColour · 19/04/2013 13:40

This reply has been deleted

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

DioneTheDiabolist · 19/04/2013 13:41

This woman sees you all as nothing more than the supporting cast in her life movie. You are better off without her egomania in your life.

Have a great weekendOP.

shewhowines · 19/04/2013 13:41

It wouldn't have been "a nice weekend together" with DD in tow. So no problem.

HorryIsUpduffed · 19/04/2013 13:50

Poor FF.

EF absolutely doesn't see anything wrong or unreasonable in her behaviour, does she? She can't even say "well I can see where you're coming from, but I disagree". She can only see "you don't want my PFB DD therefore you must all be BITCHES".

GingerBlondecat · 19/04/2013 13:52

^^ I am not the least bit surprised by this update but I am Sadened by it. Sad

Loulybelle · 19/04/2013 13:54

I told my friend about this thread, she was shocked at the level of Self importance shown by EF.

MrsMacFarlane · 19/04/2013 13:57

Wow! I've just read this whole thread. Very interesting and entertaining. Like many others I think you've dodged a bullet and will have a much better weekend without this entitled lunatic in tow. I've had "friends" like this throughout my life and now do my utmost to cut people like this off at the pass before getting too involved with them as they just suck the life out of you and destroy other friendships.

Regarding people bringing their children along to adult gatherings. My friend recently celebrated her 50th. There were 9 of us in a limo, champagne etc. and then an upmarket afternoon tea..more bubbly, blah blah. One of the party brought her 17 year old daughter with her. She was a very nice lass but few of us knew her and when we got to the "TMI" stuff after a few glasses, her mother got all arsey with us. I politely advised her that it was my best friend's 50th, not a teenage party and why did she think it was appropriate to bring her along. I didn't get a satisfactory response but was glad I managed to tell her what everyone else was thinking.

Xales · 19/04/2013 13:59

So she emailed you all with your various faults and how evil you have all been to her forever but that is FF fault Hmm Silly cow didn't really think that through did she.

ItsAllGoingToBeFine · 19/04/2013 14:03

At least all the bile came out in the email and nit on your weekend...

Kiriwawa · 19/04/2013 14:08

She really shot herself in the foot with that 'you're all howwid' email didn't she?

What a silly way to behave.

GilmoursPillow · 19/04/2013 14:41

As long as the rest of you are still intact, that's what counts.

When you're together raise a glass to her because she could probably do with the kind thoughts, and have a wonderful, wonderful weekend!

NinaHeart · 19/04/2013 14:49

I love FF. Please tell her that.

GingerBlondecat · 19/04/2013 15:04

I'm glad you pulled her up Mrs.Mac.

If you see her again. Ask her again.

I'd love to know where and why of the mindset.

GingerBlondecat · 19/04/2013 15:06

I'm just hoping she (and her DD) don't turn up at the hotel and follow youse around.

thistlelicker · 19/04/2013 15:14

All I can say is WOW!! Maybe somebody needs to remind ef that this is her doing
By insisting she brings her dd against everyone else's wishes!

LemonPeculiarJones · 19/04/2013 15:33

Yes - if there was to be any response, 'Noone did any poisoning, we were just firm with you about not bringing your DD. If you'd just accepted it there would be no problem. It was always designed to be an adult-only event. You're the one who tried to manipulate the situation'.

Ooh this thread has got me riled!

And I luff FF too Grin

MrsMacFarlane · 19/04/2013 15:34

GingerBlondeCat. She's an attention seeking loon. The limo part of the day had been kept a big secret from my BF and she blurted it out about 30 minutes before it was due to arrive. The friend who had organised the whole thing was a bit narked to say the least. Cue attention seeking loon bursting into tears and storming off. I think she takes her DD everywhere so she has a permanent ally when everyone else is pigsick of her. She's not my friend but is a friend of a friend. I know you can't tell from my tone but I cannot fucking stand her, lol.