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Original poster

To be concerned my friend seemed pissed off after I looked after her DD?

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AuntFini · 09/04/2013 15:51

I took my friend's DD (23 months) out for the day today to give my friend a chance to prepare for her parents and siblings visiting for the week. I have no kids.

We went to a farm and I took her for lunch, and after 4 hours went back to meet my friend at the coach station where she was meeting family. By this point her DD was asleep in her car seat in my car, exhausted. My friends asked where her DD was and I said asleep and she seemed really cross. She moved her DD (still sleeping, in carseat) to her car, got in and left.

I'm left feeling a bit confused as to what I've done on this one!

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Taffeta · 09/04/2013 19:11

Yy invoice plus add petrol, farm entry fee and food.

K8Middleton · 09/04/2013 19:12

I have kids. She's an unreasonable cow.

HighJinx · 09/04/2013 19:14

I suppose it isn't really your fault, DH says you would understand if you had your own so I'll see you soon hun*

Text back "I suppose it isn't really your fault you're so rude and ungrateful. You'd understand that if you weren't such a pair of twats."

Areyoumadorisitme · 09/04/2013 19:15

OP - she is being completely rude and ungrateful.

Ds2 has a friend whose mum seems to think we should be grateful to have her DS round to play as he is so perfect. Drives me mad.

Any parent should be very grateful for anyone who takes their children and voluntarily looks after them and brings them back fed and safe. Bloody cheek of the woman! You were being a good friend and I would steer clear of doing her any more favours.

Nobhead · 09/04/2013 19:15

Speechless, just speechless. What a twat she is!

KenDoddsDadsDog · 09/04/2013 19:15

Utterly rude - and the DH comment is wanky as well.
I hope her DD keeps her up all night. Preferably playing with vTech toys.

Salmotrutta · 09/04/2013 19:16

Text her back to say "NO. I don't think you WILL see me soon...Hun. "

Salmotrutta · 09/04/2013 19:17

She clearly assumes that looking after her DD is lighting up your life Hmm.

She is a cheeky besom.

Taffeta · 09/04/2013 19:17

ROFL @ vTech toy insomnia Grin

BlancheHunt · 09/04/2013 19:19

She is a massive twat.

KenDoddsDadsDog · 09/04/2013 19:19

"Hello Puppy Calling" at 4am would be fabulous revenge.

BalloonSlayer · 09/04/2013 19:19

"Yeah when I have kids I'll understand that having someone give up a whole day to take one of them out so I can have a break is doing me a massive FAVOUR, and not think that dumping my kid on someone is doing THEM a favour, like you seem to."

BlancheHunt · 09/04/2013 19:20

And so is her husband.

Taffeta · 09/04/2013 19:21

Yy or a rogue ZhuZhu pet.

Original poster
AuntFini · 09/04/2013 19:21

Yes hun makes me feel nauseous as well.

The more I think about it the crosser I am. No need to worry that she'll read this, she's definitely more of a nethun

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OHforDUCKScake · 09/04/2013 19:24

You sound really, well, sound!

Glad you arent a door mat Grin Grin.

Salmotrutta · 09/04/2013 19:24

Feed the crossness.

And remember it the next time she asks a favour. Grin

ssd · 09/04/2013 19:28

and her dh sounds a patronising arse as well

they make a cute couple

FryOneFatManic · 09/04/2013 19:31

Wow! What a bitch she is!

AuntFini Thanks I'd love to add you to my list of friends who can babysit (well, they're 13 and 9 now, but one evening a week would be useful).

I'd be so grateful, like all the others here Grin, that I'd treat you like a VIP and be happy to do favours in return.

I mean, isn't that what you're supposed to do? Be grateful if someone does you a favour? After all, at present I'm doing a small craft commission in return for someone who was able to take DS for a few hours when DP got unexpectedly taken to hospital. It's the least I could do.

MusicalEndorphins · 09/04/2013 19:34

did u even give her lunch
What a way to speak to you!

She doesn't realize how lucky she is to have a friend who genuinely adores her dd and takes her out to give her time to go whatever. Talk about ungrateful!
Once my brother babysat for me for overnight when my ds was 3. I came home about 9 at night the next day, and he was just cooking spaghetti for them to eat, he had taken my ds to the beach for all that day and they had not eaten at all, just had drinks. I was not pleased, but my son had a fun day with his uncle whom he adored, and did not die of starvation!

Hopefully it will sink in to her that she was out of line, and gives you a sincere apology.

You will be a great mum when you have your own!

lisad123everybodydancenow · 09/04/2013 19:35

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Chilliandbanana · 09/04/2013 19:35

Hour long car journey today and 5 year old and 3 year old conked in the back from 4 - 5 pm after a day out. It happens and there isn't much you can do about it.

I tried singing one direction REALLY loudly to keep them awake and still ZZzzzzz Grin

Your friend is VERY rude and VERY ungrateful. Bin her!

LittlePoot · 09/04/2013 19:40

Oh my God! I know this has already been said a hundred times but you did nothing whatsoever wrong and she really is a prize pain in the ass! I have a two year old and if you took him off my hands for a few hours, let him have a brilliant time but didn't obey his regular sleep schedule (!) I wouldn't give a monkeys! Even at night if I got home and you still had him up at 11, I'd still just be grateful for the free time and be in your debt. Catching up sleep for a toddler is so not a big deal. One scrappy day max to catch up. Way too precious! You are lovely! x

RenterNomad · 09/04/2013 19:40

Maybe you don't deserve quite the foot-licking you're getting here Grin, but she was totally unrealistic and extremely rude, particularly in not taking the chance to smooth over her first rudeness, and getting increasingly belligerent.

I'm pretty sleep-deprived at the moment, but wouldn't expect to be forgiven anything more than her thoughtless first reaction. Certainly being calculatingly rude like that, whether she's taking out some other frustrations on you or not, is beyond the pale.

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AuntFini · 09/04/2013 19:45

Oh renter I'm enjoying said foot-licking.

We live and learn anyway, no more friendship with this one and her charmer of a husband.

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