To be concerned my friend seemed pissed off after I looked after her DD?

[AuntFini]

I took my friend's DD (23 months) out for the day today to give my friend a chance to prepare for her parents and siblings visiting for the week. I have no kids.

We went to a farm and I took her for lunch, and after 4 hours went back to meet my friend at the coach station where she was meeting family. By this point her DD was asleep in her car seat in my car, exhausted. My friends asked where her DD was and I said asleep and she seemed really cross. She moved her DD (still sleeping, in carseat) to her car, got in and left.

I'm left feeling a bit confused as to what I've done on this one!

[evertonmint]

If you had your own, you would understand...

1. that friends who look after your toddler are worth their weight in gold
   
2. that they're worth double their weight in gold if they don't have DC yet still look after yours
   
3. that nobody knows how to keep a toddler awake in the car or else they'd have patented it and would be a billionaire by now.
   
   You are a lovely person. She, and her DH, are ungrateful and rude and will soon find nobody will help them out with childcare if they continue to behave like this.
   
   Save your wonderful days out for children whose parents will appreciate you.

[Exhaustipated]

OMG! She sounds awful. Is she usually like this? How completely horrible. Does she think she was doing you a favour or something?

I am fuming on your behalf. My mind is also struggling to comprehend how someone could think that was acceptable behaviour!

[Mumsyblouse]

That's a classic, even her apology is an insult! Op you are doing so well to rise above this, but I really wouldn't help her again, you know, with your lack of experience an all :)

[WhereYouLeftIt]

"and she's said I suppose it isn't really your fault, DH* says you would understand if you had your own so I'll see you soon hun"
Loose translation - I know I'm completely in the wrong but I am such a bitch I refuse to apologise and I think you're thick enough to see my total dismissal as an apology. Hun.

Not a very nice person.

[bringbacksideburns]

Plenty of us have got kids on here and we all think she's a patronising spoilt bitch.

Don't do her any more favours. With friends like that...

[Grange]

Quoteunquote - put it very well. What I'd give for 4 hours......

[AuntFini]

Actually looking back I think perhaps she thinks letting me look after her DD so much and spending time with her has been a favour to me since I don't have my own, she did used to make little comments on the topic but I didn't particularly pick up on it, however I think now that that's how she's viewed it. In a way it is a favour to me when lovely friends let me look after their lovely children as I enjoy spending time with them, but I don't want to be pitied for not having any.

[pigletmania]

Op her dd may be lovely but she does not sound too lovely to me.

[Fudgemallowdelight]

Unless she apologised and thanked me in the next few days she would no longer be my friend. An apology when she is next looking for a babysitter wouldn't cut it though! You deserve better friends than that OP

[bringonyourwreckingball]

There is nothing on this earth which will keep a small child awake in a car if they are inclined to sleep. Believe me, I tried. Poking, singing, sweets, even throwing small soft toys at them when sleep was particularly an issue. And if you're on your own with them driving safely is so, so much more important.

Your friend is an ungrateful mare who should be weepingly grateful that you are not only willing but actually happy to take her dd out for the day.

[BigGiantCowWithAKnockKnockTail]

Bloody nora
I really hope this ex-friend is a MNer and is reading this with a growing sense if shame.

What a total bitch.

[apachepony]

She is a complete bitch. That last text was actually designed to hurt. I guessed she thought she was doing you a favour by letting you spend time with her precious dd. seriously time to drop her like a hot stone!

[fuzzpig]

I will be your friend. You can take my DCs out. As a favour to you, obviously. :o

[crashdoll]

You sound like a lovely person. She, on the other hand, is an ungrateful cow. I'm actually a bit shocked at her cheek!

[Hissy]

Oh my god... Really?

There is only one response to her last DH said as much message..



"I may not have my own kids yet, but I know a PFB when I see one."

Bet she's a NetHun.... Wiv a ticker and evryfing

[Sanctimumious]

i laughed at the suggested reply of "next time pay a nanny" but really, I think the straightforward "did you mean to sound so rude and ungrateful?' is in order.

[ChippingInIsEggceptional]

OMG how rude is she???

'You'd understand if you had kids'

[ChippingInIsEggceptional]

I hope she's an MNer actually and gets to read first hand what an utter prat she has been!

[LovesBeingWokenEveryNight]

cheeky cow

[Sanctimumious]

AuntFini, i agree, have a and take heart, she's nuts. If youtook my kids and forcefed them crisps ALL day long, I'd still have appreciated the break fgs, still have thanked you!!!!!!! (and meant it).

[pudcat]

When I pick my 7 year old granddaughter from school she is often asleep by the time I get her home on a 15 minute car journey. No amount of singing or shouting prevents it. Your friend is really very rude and ungrateful. How on earth were you supposed to make her sleep on the way there? And what does your friend do to keep her awake?

[habbibu]

Bloody hell. I have kids and I don't understand her at all. Do you want kids? It sounds a bit like a jibe.

[habbibu]

You could just send her an invoice for the time. With a small discount for "child not returned in sufficiently wakeful condition".

[TheOneWithTheHair]

Have to add my . What a cow!!

If she really thinks you are the kind of person who wouldn't feed her dd at lunch time then why did she let you take her out? Cheeky bloody mare.

[5madthings]

Omg how rude!

Five children here and not much you can do to stop a toddler falling asleep in the car.

I would have to send some sarcy reply back.