To be concerned my friend seemed pissed off after I looked after her DD?

[AuntFini]

I took my friend's DD (23 months) out for the day today to give my friend a chance to prepare for her parents and siblings visiting for the week. I have no kids.

We went to a farm and I took her for lunch, and after 4 hours went back to meet my friend at the coach station where she was meeting family. By this point her DD was asleep in her car seat in my car, exhausted. My friends asked where her DD was and I said asleep and she seemed really cross. She moved her DD (still sleeping, in carseat) to her car, got in and left.

I'm left feeling a bit confused as to what I've done on this one!

[popebenedictsp45]

OMG what a complete arse! "Did you even feed her" ... I would be spitting.

[StoickTheVast]

Absolute cow.

[pointythings]

Bloody hell, don't do her any more favours. I'd go with lockets suggestion for a return text and then ditch this so-called friend permanently.

Actually I'd want to be much more ungracious than lockets but probably would restrain myself for the sake of having the moral high ground...

[HerrenaHandbasket]

I suggest the following as a response:

"I realise that you're stressed with family visiting etc. However I feel that I did you a favour by taking DD out for the day and that you've been completely ungrateful. It's a shame that she was asleep at an unsuitable time of day, but if you can tell me how exactly to keep a sleepy toddler from nodding off in a car then I would be all ears. I've asked a few mums (that's us, ladies ) what they think online and they don't know how to do that either. So basically, I think you're in a bad mood and taking it out on me, which isn't fair. I love spending time with your DD and would like to do so again in future, but not if you're going to be like this. Enjoy your family visit"

Or you could say you'd asked your mum/friends who are mums/woman in Tesco/whatever. Just make the point that it's not you being ignorant of appropriate sleep technique, it's her being wildly unreasonable!

[Fluffycloudland77]

She's not a friend she's an ungrateful madam who can damn well manage on her own next time.

You sound lovely op.

[PickledInAPearTree]

If you were my friend and did that for me I would lie prostrate at you feet and love you forever more.

Will you be my friend?

[JamieandtheMagicTorch]

Really?

what a cow!

[JamieandtheMagicTorch]

Don't text back, call her if you are going to communicate further about this

[piratecat]

how do you make a child sleep on the 'way there'

bizarre woman.

i have a dd who never ever fell asleep in the car, from birth lol. drove me nuts.

[Airwalk79]

Cheeky, rude, ungrateful, sure you can find better friends than this!

[AuntFini]

I did consider the MN favourite 'did you mean to be so rude?'

I've just said not to worry your DD ate plenty at lunchtime. You've been very ungrateful and I'm pretty fed up now. Feel free to apologise at anytime!

and she's said I suppose it isn't really your fault, DH* says you would understand if you had your own so I'll see you soon hun



I considered a simple fuck off but I've turned off my phone and cracked open the wine, it's not too early is it?

[ByTheWay1]

how ungrateful!

To echo digerd "She is totally in the wrong" !!!

[DragonMamma]

Wow
What a bitch. I'd never look after her DD again and I'd be seriously reconsidering the friendship.

[piratecat]

omg i missed the bit about taking her out and food.

utter utter bitch. i don't care how stressed she is, that's bloody rude, and if it were me i wouldn't reply, and i wouldn't be bothering with her again.

[quoteunquote]

OP, please please come and take my children out for the day,

I will provide a slap up meal of your choice and as much wine as you can drink, and you can either crash the night, and be made a lovely breakfast or we will take you home.

I'll also as way of return of the massive favour come round and do your DIY.

That's what we do if friends help out.

Two year olds fall asleep on the way home from great days out, so much to process.

that person is rude and ungrateful.

Tomorrows to do list.

1. Find better friends.

[LemonBreeland]

Wow what a bitch. Still making it out that it's your fault that her dd was tired. And then the bullshit about not having your own. This is one situqtion where that does not apply.

[pigletmania]

My goodness they are both awful. Even more experienced parents find it difficult to keep an exhausted child awake, what to they do poke him hw cruel. They sound bonkers op, steer clear

[Taffeta]

Unbelievable entitled ungrateful cow! I have never had a friend offer to take my DC for a trip out, what a wonderful gesture so rudely and ungraciously accepted.

I would steer well clear. Save the favours for the deserving.

[ClaraOswald]

Wow, she certainly has a chip on her shoulder the size of a brick!

How patronising can a woman get!

[ExBrightonBell]

Wow, she keeps managing to find a new level of rude! And her DH is probably just protecting himself from being on the receiving end of her wrath by saying what she wants to hear.

[AuntFini]

Thanks everyone, I'm not upset as I know now I've not done anything wrong and fuck the two of them, I'm sure they'll soon have no one left to do them favours if this is how they are!

[Fluffycloudland77]

I'd dump her for calling me hun frankly.

[Taffeta]

Reply with "tell your DH he is right. When I have my own I will be expecting you to return the favour and then will micro pick at whatever you do. OK? Or would that be like, really rude?"

[AitchTwoOhOneTwo]

wow, what a shocker of a response...