To be concerned my friend seemed pissed off after I looked after her DD?

[AuntFini]

I took my friend's DD (23 months) out for the day today to give my friend a chance to prepare for her parents and siblings visiting for the week. I have no kids.

We went to a farm and I took her for lunch, and after 4 hours went back to meet my friend at the coach station where she was meeting family. By this point her DD was asleep in her car seat in my car, exhausted. My friends asked where her DD was and I said asleep and she seemed really cross. She moved her DD (still sleeping, in carseat) to her car, got in and left.

I'm left feeling a bit confused as to what I've done on this one!

[Lexiesinclair]

She was very rude. I'd be so grateful to anyone who took my DC off my hands for the day, nap or no nap!!

[skratta]

Definitely weird.

You sound like a great friend, it's hard to do a day out when my DS was a toddler, and it sounds like you made it a lovely day.

[kinkyfuckery]

I'd imagine it was a panicked reaction to her DD being asleep so late in the day. Hopefully she'll realise she was BU and apologise and thank you for helping her out.

I'm confused as to why she asked where her DD was though, when you were stood right beside the open car door

[Gales]

Maybe she was stressed and pissed of with something else? Having the kind of family visit you need to "prepare" for can't be a lot of fun. If she was already tired and fed up and then realised DD had slept which means she won't sleep later....

She was still rude, but I find when someone is off with you, it's rarely really about the "thing" you think it was, it's always about something else going on in their life at the time.

[LadyClariceCannockMonty]

at 'Your friend wants jam on it.'

That was rude of her. Don't go out of your way for her in the future.

[cees]

Your friend was an ungrateful cow, why not ring her and ask what her problem was and then come back so we can all tear strips off her lend a understanding point of view.

[SatsukiKusukabe]

Right, I assumed you had left her alone in the car (that would piss me off)

But you didn,t so you're friend is just ungrateful and rude really.

[BehindLockNumberNine]

You did nothing wrong and sound very very lovely. Friend was very ungrateful.

[HungryClocksGoBackFourSeconds]

Did she say thankyou?

You cannot physically stop a baby from falling asleep in the car. It's impossible, and if she wanted her to nap earlier she should have told you.

[CSIJanner]

If she didn't want her child to have a late nap, she should have told you when she dropped her off. Even if she has things on her mind, she's being rude.

YANBU - my lot would love to be taken out for the day like you've done for your friend.

[Twentytotwo]

It's not your fault. She didn't warn you and it's pretty difficult to keep a knackered child awake when they're in the back seat and you're driving.

The child might be a 'bad waker'. I have a niece who went through a stage around that age where if she fell asleep and you tried to wake her she threw an uncontrolled tantrum until you let her sleep again. She could go for hours.

[Maggie111]

Hopefully she was in a pissy mood for some unrelated reason.

Either way I wouldn't consider doing any more favours until she said she was grateful for the last one!!

[Fudgemallowdelight]

Did she actually thank you?? You did her a huge favour and she should have thanked you profusely! It sounds like her dd needed that sleep and how could you stop it when you were driving anyway? What a cow. If she doesn't thank you then don't bother to help out again.

[Fudgemallowdelight]

I think it is unfair to expect people to keep an exhausted child awake

[Twentytotwo]

Even crack chocolate buttons don't always work.

[Jinafire]

If my DD has so much as a 5 min doze it affects her sleep for that night.

I, however, would be sooooo grateful for the 4 hours of freedom that being awake for a bit later at night wouldn't bother me.

So what time can I drop her off ...

[eatyouwithaspoon]

It is impossible to keep a tired toddler awake on a car journey, my 4 year old still sleeps in the car after a day out, your friend was very rude.

[AuntFini]

She's just texted to say she would have preferred if I'd let her DD sleep on the way there and not the way back. Not being used to toddlers, I obviously don't know how to do that. I did try feeding choc buttons on the way home but even they weren't enough to keep her awake, she had a few and then fell asleep.

Not to worry as I'll be sure to keep my fun days out for mornings only in future in the hopes they don't need to nap!

[pigletmania]

Yanbu at all, your 'friend' sounds rude and ungrateful and I would not do her any favours again. How can you stop a toddler having a nap if tey are exhausted.

[HerrenaHandbasket]

I poke mine with a stick piglet

[pigletmania]

Your friend is being very unreasonable expecting a baby to nap on demand, te pour thing had a lovely day and needed sleep unfortunately toddlers and babes don't always do what we want. Can you take 14 month ds out you sound lovely, ignore her

[OHforDUCKScake]

I think you would be a door mat to ever take her child out again tbh.

[Floggingmolly]

What a womble. I've had three toddlers and I never mastered the art of "letting" them sleep at a time convenient to me even at night