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swayed for a girl =diet,timing,ph levels,and got another boy.

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racheael76 · 06/04/2013 19:32

hi i really wanted a daughter this time as we already have 2 sons.i did the dairy diet,milk no salt limited chicken drank evian water ,took calcuim and magnesuim tablets,douche with massengill vinegar(cost a fortune form overseas!) plotted ovulation conceived 5 days before ovulation.i did every thing i know for a liitle girl.so many people have a daughter and a son.did anyone sway and got the sex they wanted?did anyone sway and got wrong gender?what did i do wrong?

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AnyoneforTurps · 07/04/2013 21:56

I don't know anything about diet (Evian? ) but "dates" method worked for us - DD was conceived 5 days before ovulation and DS was conceived on the date of ovulation.

Sigh. You would have had a 50% chance of having a girl/boy whatever you had done.

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montage · 07/04/2013 22:04

"i did the dairy diet,milk"

I read this as "I did the dairy milk diet"

It sounded awesome.

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shesariver · 07/04/2013 22:21

I agree with the people who are saying the most offensive part of the original post was the "wrong gender" bit, especially when its referring to a live child. Thats really distasteful.

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Ledkr · 07/04/2013 22:25

floggin I must admit I took that as a bit if a lighthearted joke if not that's a bit silly.
I have to be honest, i always had some underlying sadness that I'd never have a daughter though be that right or wrong I'm just honest.
I was delighted with my daughter and still am 11 yrs later.
It was nothing to do with girly things either my youngest son was a ballet dancer a dc they are all arty types not a football kit in sight Grin

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exoticfruits · 07/04/2013 22:32

If I try and say on other threads that there is a difference between boys and girls I get shouted down. People won't have it- therefore it follows that it really doesn't matter! Grin
I agree that it generally boils down to pretty dresses, long hair to style, a quieter, more pliant personality, no mud and a love of shopping- not to mention a best friend when adults.
. Experience should tell you that it depends on the personality of the DD and that quite probably won't get any of the above!

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breatheslowly · 07/04/2013 22:40

Montage - that sounds great. I am doing the Galaxy diet - what will I get?

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Ledkr · 07/04/2013 22:41

I agree exotic. My daughter certainly isn't the fun shopping friend she "should be" she is quite cheeky at times, likes her own way and is mortified by my very presence Hmm I am just off the phone to ds1 with whom I gossiped and whined and talked about our fav tv programmes and laughed like drains.
I went shopping with ds2 last week who is a bit if a Gok wan.

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Floggingmolly · 07/04/2013 22:41

I've got a 12 year old dd and I'm certainly not getting any of those, exotic Smile

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Thewhingingdefective · 07/04/2013 22:43

I hope your son never realises what a disappointment he is.

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exoticfruits · 07/04/2013 22:52

I have friends who were a great disappointment to their mothers- they wouldn't be seen dead shopping with them! I had one whose mother tried to persuade us all to encourage her DD to wear a dress- she was desperate to buy her one! (I don't think she had managed it over the age of 4yrs!) The friend is now over 50, still doesn't wear dresses and only goes to the supermarket to help her mother with shopping- never for a fun day out.

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Loulybelle · 08/04/2013 20:04

I'd like to point out that daughters often have a similar personality to their mothers, and these personalities can clash with epic proportions.

I love my daughter to bits, but blimey she gets on my nerves, because shes so like me, and i know many mother/daughter relationships like it.

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Scholes34 · 08/04/2013 20:07

If you already have two boys, the chances of having a third is greater than 50%.

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EllenJanesthickerknickers · 08/04/2013 20:10

Scholes, it's been fully discussed and researched up the thread. The chances only increase by maybe 1 or 2 %, so instead of 50:50, maybe 52:48.

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scarlettsmummy2 · 08/04/2013 20:18

Haven't read the posts but this is very sad.

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MooMooSkit · 08/04/2013 20:20

:( I really hope your attitude isn't like this when your LO is born. I have a boy and have always wanted a boy and a girl but if my next is a boy, that is also fine, I will just be happy with being blessed to have two healthy children. I don't think there's anything you can do though I've heard girl sperm live longer and boy sperm swim faster so maybe having sex BEFORE ovulation for more chance of a girl?

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MyBaby1day · 09/04/2013 00:55

They'de LOVE you in China and think you were SOOOOoooo lucky!! Grin. HUGE Congratulations on your Son!. There is something called swaying, it worked for my friend (had 3 boys too).

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MsBella · 09/04/2013 01:04

Jesus christ everyone she didn't say he was a dissapointment, she said she loves him a lot but wants a girl. Maybe she doesn't want 20 kids before having a girl which is why she did those things to try and have a girl. Id say what's actually offensive is your comments suggesting she thinks her child is a dissapointment

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ArbitraryUsername · 09/04/2013 01:16

Oh dear. I know a family where the parents desperately wanted a daughter. They had two sons, had a third and finally conceived a daughter very shortly after their DS3 was born. Their poor DS3 has always suffered from not being a girl. He's always been a disappointment purely because he wasn't a girl and the effects of this last into adult life.

Please make sure you never let your DS know you're disappointed he wasn't a girl, in actions or words.

You may also find that any DD you have doesn't live up to your expectations of what a daughter should be. That wouldn't be good either.

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sashh · 09/04/2013 07:20

Wanting a particular sex or gender assumes that you have some rather rigid expectations of what your child is going to be like and how they ought to behave...

I know that one. My parents really wanted a girl. I just didn't turn out to be the girl they wanted.

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Ledkr · 09/04/2013 07:41

Nonsense. I wanted a girl for. Nice change after 3 boys the same as I'd not buy another pair of whit jeans if I had three other pairs already.
People over analyse this. I wanted to buy girls clothes and shoes (especially little swimsuits) and use a girls name. It really stopped there.
Each previous time I'd had my boys I was ecstatic.
I didn't know what I was having and was excited to see my new baby I merely had a preference for a girl.

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