swayed for a girl =diet,timing,ph levels,and got another boy.

[racheael76]

hi i really wanted a daughter this time as we already have 2 sons.i did the dairy diet,milk no salt limited chicken drank evian water ,took calcuim and magnesuim tablets,douche with massengill vinegar(cost a fortune form overseas!) plotted ovulation conceived 5 days before ovulation.i did every thing i know for a liitle girl.so many people have a daughter and a son.did anyone sway and got the sex they wanted?did anyone sway and got wrong gender?what did i do wrong?

[josiejay]

I think some women think that their daughter will become their best friend but that is rarely the case in my experience. When I was young shopping trips with my mum were pretty fraught and involved buying clothes that I needed, not some kind of leisure activity. If you want to go out for lunches and shopping trips then you can do it with a friend, a sister or just by yourself!

I also think it's a symptom of the gender stereotyping obsessed society we live in that some women are convinced that they are missing out on this wonderful world of pink and princesses if they don't produce a girl, I'm not judging the women themselves but the whole worship of little girl culture makes me feel a bit queasy tbh. I'm currently pregnant with a dd, already have a DS and it slightly irritates me when people say oh how perfect. What's perfect is getting a healthy child at all, what's even more wonderful is getting two of them, of either sex!

[TartyMcTart]

Honestly made up phrases like "gender preference" and "gender disappointment" get my bloody back up. The end result is that you're unhappy having another boy and shouldn't have tried for another baby knowing you might get a boy and not a girl. Poor fucking you OP.

[jamdonut]

I think boys always love their mums, but you're really lucky if you get a good mother daughter relationship.
My daughter only goes shopping with me if she wants something. At the moment it is a Prom dress, which I cannot afford right now,but get it in the ear because "All my friends are ordering theirs" and "Do you want me to go to the prom looking like a tramp?". I don't get this type of pressure from my boys.

[Floggingmolly]

I haven't actually read the thread; but what the hell is "swaying", and why would it determine or not, in your case the sex of your child?
Btw, boys can do ballet too

[FrankellyMyDearIDontGiveADamn]

My suspicion is that the OP meant "SWI-ing" as in "shagging with intent".

It's another one of those vomit inducing phrases up there with "doing the deed" and the most puke-worthy of all "baby dancing" .

My honest opinion, it's called SEX and if you aren't mature enough to use the word, you're not mature enough to be doing it.

And yes I'm a grouchy old cow, and a barren one at that

[MissyMooandherBeaverofSteel]

baby dancing do people seriously say that

[FrankellyMyDearIDontGiveADamn]

Yup, I've seen it said, and on MN too Along with the feckin' posts about "baby dust" & < puke face.

[Floggingmolly]

Jesus . So, do you sway shag differently "for a girl", then?
Op sounds about 14, God love her.

[MarianaTrench]

Laughing my head off here at 'gender disappointment' being a mental illness. Let's see if it makes it into DSM V, I wonder what the treatment will be?

[exoticfruits]

The chance of a girl is always 50/50. It is also about 50/50 that any girl will turn out to be 'mother's best friend'.

[breatheslowly]

70:30 is a myth data here.

[EllenJanesthickerknickers]

Link doesn't work, breatheslowly. Would be interested in having my previous misguided belief proved dodgy.

[AmandaPayneAteTooMuchChocolate]

Well I'm glad I gave you a cheap laugh then Mariana.

I am sorry for your losses. Loss of a child or infertility is in no way comparable to not getting the gender mix in your family you would prefer. But people tie themselves in knots to the point of depression over many 'silly' things in life. It doesn't make the resulting depression any less damaging. Which is really what I was trying to say about mental illness- that effectively it could possibly be a trigger point for depressive illnesses. A friend of mine became horribly depressed over losing a job, even though she found another quite quickly. It was only a trigger, but the depression wrecked her life for a long time. It didn't wreck her life any less because it wasn't triggered by the death of a loved one or a divorce.

[StrawberriesTasteLikeLipsDo]

Please let this be a joke. Ive never been more morally offended in my life.

[ll31]

Think some posters are being particularly nasty tbh. There is nothing wrong with knowing that you'd prefer a boy or a girl - how could there be? The op has described how she loves her children. I really don't understand the nastiness here. As for the remarks that she should look at the conception / infertility threads - so if someone says on the health thread that she is having a bad time with something relatively minor should she be told to stop complaining and look at the cancer threads -ridiculous comments.

[lappy]

I agree completely with you ll31.

[breatheslowly]

www.in-gender.com/XYU/Odds/Gender_Odds.aspx try this link.

[FrankellyMyDearIDontGiveADamn]

ll31, the key issue here is that the OP refers to her child's gender as "wrong" twice in her opening post.

I'm presuming you've never had any problems conceiving because if you had you'd know how deeply offensive and upsetting it is to listen to someone complaining about having three healthy children.

[EuroShaggleton]

I read sway as "tried to sway the odds in favour of a girl".

Thanks for saying my comment was ridiculous II31 . I'm just off down the homeless shelter now to wave some £50 notes at them and then tell them I had dinner at a Michelin starred restaurant last night and it wasn't all that - which is pretty much what the OP is doing to the fertility-challenged posters on here. She doesn't appreciate the riches she has.

[EllenJanesthickerknickers]

Thanks breatheslowly! I love a statistic. So the odds do increase very, very slightly. Not 70:30, more like 52:48, when the odds for your first DC are 51:49 boy:girl anyway!

[Ledkr]

This subject always causes controversy but I do think its unfair to start telling someone they should think of those who can't conceive or have lost a baby.
I had three ds then a daughter ten years later and hell yes I wanted a girl.
Don't really know why I just wanted the gender I didn't already have. I wanted to buy girls clothes for a change and plait her hair and choose a girls name. All horribly superficial but harmless.
I had a mc and it took me four years to conceive her so I was extremely grateful for a healthy baby but still wanted a girl.
Just because you would prefer a different gender to what you already have it doesn't mean you aren't aware of your good fortune and certainly isn't meant to offend anyone else.

[Floggingmolly]

Really, ledkr? She finished her op by bewailing "I got the wrong gender, what did I do wrong?"

[HorryIsUpduffed]

Thank you AmandaPayne. Yes, gender preference can be a trigger for or indeed a symptom of mental illnesses including anxiety and depression.

Generally you can tell the difference between someone who wants "a lil princess to be ma bff luv u all reddy xXxXx" ... and someone with more deep-seated anxieties she can't quite put her finger on that happen to be currently focused on her baby's sex even though objectively she can see that that is absurd and ungrateful and all the rest of it and is so mortified by her own feelings she turns to self-harm or has suicidal thoughts. And nobody dare tell me that second woman doesn't exist. I was her.

[HorryIsUpduffed]

What she did wrong wasn't to have a preference, but to buy into hokum as a result.