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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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swayed for a girl =diet,timing,ph levels,and got another boy.

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racheael76 · 06/04/2013 19:32

hi i really wanted a daughter this time as we already have 2 sons.i did the dairy diet,milk no salt limited chicken drank evian water ,took calcuim and magnesuim tablets,douche with massengill vinegar(cost a fortune form overseas!) plotted ovulation conceived 5 days before ovulation.i did every thing i know for a liitle girl.so many people have a daughter and a son.did anyone sway and got the sex they wanted?did anyone sway and got wrong gender?what did i do wrong?

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sleepywombat · 07/04/2013 07:01

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exoticfruits · 07/04/2013 07:21

Life would be nice and simple if you could just plan a,b and c to get d. I think that it is great that there are somethings that are beyond our control and hope it stays that way.

Fillyjonk75 · 07/04/2013 11:23

Usually I can see through typos/autocorrect but I still can't work out what "swayed for a girl" is meant to mean.

Yes, that's what I thought, Greywhites. Conception very much taking place after ovulation!

IsaacCox · 07/04/2013 11:33

5 years. 5 fucking years we have been trying for one child. What I would do to have 3 boys! Just be happy with what you've got and hope to God they never realise how much you wanted something they're not.

shushpenfold · 07/04/2013 11:34

FFS

WilsonFrickett · 07/04/2013 11:35

So why are you letting yourself sit alone and be lonely? Get involved in your boys' activities. Find activities that you can all do/share as a family. Or find something to do yourself. You are letting your own ideas and preconceptions of gender and what you're 'supposed' to do because you are female and your family is male keep you stuck in a little lonely box.

You can change. And the more involved you are in your sons' lives, the more likely they are to want to keep you there.

Plenty girls grow up to be women who don't see their mothers, btw.

EllenJanesthickerknickers · 07/04/2013 11:38

Well, I've quoted the 70:30 thing lots of times in the past! I'm sure I read it somewhere reputable, but can't find anything to support it now. Just as well I thought that, though, it helped me plan for my third child thinking it would be more likely to be a third boy, so I knew I wouldn't be disappointed with that, IYSWIM.

Trills · 07/04/2013 11:40

Tips for next time:

Don't have a baby unless you would be happy with either sex (if there is a chance that you would be unhappy with the child that you get, don't have one at all)

Don't have a baby unless you would be happy if your child did not conform to the stereotypes that you attach to children of that sex (if you would be unhappy if your girl turned out not to like "girly things", for example)

EllenJanesthickerknickers · 07/04/2013 11:45

I have to add, my DS2 has SN, so didn't even fit the 'as long as it's healthy' mantra, but I still love him just as much as his brothers.

DeskPlanner · 07/04/2013 11:51

"What did I do wrong ?"

So much too say, but must resist. Have a .

mombie · 07/04/2013 12:01

I have 3 boys and a girl and fwiw they are all a pain to take shopping. I dont understand this desire because I have both sexes but it bothers me when people suggest that my sons wont care about me in the same way my daughter will when they are older. Its not why I had them. Appreciate your kids. Learn to love 'boy' stuff or else stop differentiating. Please dont do the vinegar thing again... sounds horrendous.

TheonlyWayisGerard · 07/04/2013 12:43

Have you always been this insensitive or did you have to take an evening class?

digerd · 07/04/2013 12:52

I had a girl, conceived on the 15th day of 28 day cycle.
A friend did the research and got what she wanted.
Another friend had 4 children and got what she wanted 2 girls, then 2 boys. She followed no plan, just had lots of sex

MIL had 13 DC < imagine she had sex everynight>
1,2,3,4, were boys, 5,6,7,8, were all girls. 9 boy, 10 girl,11 girl, 12 boy.

EllenJanesthickerknickers · 07/04/2013 12:55

What about 13?

snickersnacker · 07/04/2013 13:05

There are lots of little girls in the care system. If you really want to guarantee a daughter then perhaps you might consider adopting.

jellybeans · 07/04/2013 13:06

I have 3 boys and 2 girls, I lost 2 girls also both stillborn and early miscarriages also, nightmare pregnancies and births so I treasure all my living children, gender means nothing whatsoever..

But being totally honest i was a bit 'worried' about having boys after my girls but only because all my friends with just boys were 'desperate' (their words) and went on and on about boys being not as good/more for their DH, go off when grown up etc etc :( They have all since had girls and dress them head to toe in pink and have 'girly' days whatever they are!!!

Well as soon as I had my own i needn't have worried at all they are every bit as nice and scrummy as baby girls!! And older boys are as fun as girls. I actually prefer boys clothes and toy shopping but I guess I am not 'girly' my girls wore jeans etc and were not into ballet etc. We don't really push the DC into dif gender areas, they do what they like. My boys used to dress up as mermaids and wear painted nails and have dolls etc. Girls played with cars and in mud. So the point is none are more enjoyable than the other, whatever you get is amazing and lucky.

arghhhhhhhhhh · 07/04/2013 13:06

i read some drivel about one partner climaxing before the other and something about having cool balls but can't remember who had to do what to sway chance of whatever gender.

Ra88 · 07/04/2013 13:10

At least you have a healthy child !!! Unlike some of us, who are not blessed with having 3 healthy babies !

LooseyMy · 07/04/2013 13:10

Jelly- I love shopping for my seven year old DS's clothes- they're so cool! Don't have to worry about him looking sexualised or whether the clothes are too revealing, like you do with little girl's clothes. I'm into rock and metal and used to be a goth in my teens, so I've never been into stereotypical girly clothes. DS is developing an interest in the same music as me. He is extremely soft and loving- always saying lovely things and giving lots of cuddles. I'm not dreading the teen years as I would if i had a girl- I was horrendous as a teenager and horrible to my mum! Neither of my nieces are close to their mum- she always struggled far more to bond with my eldest niece than I ever did with DS- we've always had a close bond.

jellybeans · 07/04/2013 13:13

'my husband takes older boys to watch football i stay at home while friends go out with their daughters shopping /girlie afternoons.i feel alone .i do love my boys so much and would never be without them or tell them i wanted a daughter.'

I don't go out shopping with my DDs or have 'girls afternoons'. We just have family days out. I do the same things with DSs as DDs..One of 3 DSs goes to football with DH along with 1 DD about once/twice a month (as DH works most match days). I would go too but younger DS wouldn't sit still for that long. You could go out to play football in the park? theme parks/cinema? Shopping? Boys like shopping too in my experience!! Why not try have more family days out? You really don't need to focus on gender differences so much. Many girls love football as well, I was obsessed when i was a kid!

jellybeans · 07/04/2013 13:15

LooseyMy your DS sounds lovely :) I agree re boys clothes. (ps I too was a nightmare teen!)

Squitten · 07/04/2013 13:21

Well, I don't think that you're wrong for being honest about wanting a daughter. I have two sons and would be lying if a bit of me wasn't hoping that the one I'm pregnant with now is a girl as it's our last. But me and DH agreed that we would never have another child purely to try and get a girl - it's not fair on the resulting child, male or female. So we'll be equally happy with a third boy to complete the pack.

You need to inject a bit of realism into your brain OP. Firstly, you can "sway" until the cows come home, you will always have a possibility of another boy. Secondly, there is no telling what kind of relationship you and a potential daughter will have. She might grow up to hate the sight of you. Being a girl guarantees NOTHING so take off the rose-tinted specs.

The best advice for you for next time would be to get your head on straight.

Loulybelle · 07/04/2013 13:26

Firstly, be happy you can have children, some cant.

Loulybelle · 07/04/2013 13:27

Secondly, you have no control over nature, since your husbands sperm, contains the X and Y, hes giving a Y for boys and not an X for girls.

cricketballs · 07/04/2013 13:33

I think too many of you are giving the op a hard time; I have 2 sons and I think I understand the op in needing some female company! We I decided that 2 was enough amongst the many reasons why did include the fact that we would more than likely have another boy and there is only so much mud, dirt etc that I can take!

Op - have you any nieces? When I am in desperate need to do the mother/daughter thing I take one of my nieces out shopping/lunch etc and leave the smelly ones at home/football/fishing/trying to find a clean towel because I have refused to be the majic fairy that picks them up

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