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swayed for a girl =diet,timing,ph levels,and got another boy.

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racheael76 · 06/04/2013 19:32

hi i really wanted a daughter this time as we already have 2 sons.i did the dairy diet,milk no salt limited chicken drank evian water ,took calcuim and magnesuim tablets,douche with massengill vinegar(cost a fortune form overseas!) plotted ovulation conceived 5 days before ovulation.i did every thing i know for a liitle girl.so many people have a daughter and a son.did anyone sway and got the sex they wanted?did anyone sway and got wrong gender?what did i do wrong?

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BonaDrag · 06/04/2013 19:45

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littlepeas · 06/04/2013 19:45

I have 2 boys and a girl - the girl is in the middle - I did nothing special or different. It is absolutely down to chance. Get over it and enjoy your sons. If you have gender disappointment I suggest you try a forum dedicated specifically to that, posting here is likely to upset people.

CajaDeLaMemoria · 06/04/2013 19:46

The only chance you have to influence the gender of your child is to go to the US, and pay the circa £30k to have only female embryos implanted. (Note: this process is illegal in England.)

There is no other way to choose. Even if you go through with the above, you may find that you can't have a girl. There are families with 10 children who are all boys, or all girls. You can't choose.

I'd recommend finding a therapist to talk too about your longing for a little girl. It'll really help. Before you try for another child, you need to be completely happy to have either gender, and accept that you may well have another boy. I believe your chances increase with every child you have, so you may have a 70% chance of a male after 3 boys, and a 30% chance of having a girl.

There are no sex positions, no eating habits, no vinegar mixes, nothing that will change the gender of your baby. You need a Y chromosome, and if there isn't one, you won't get a girl. There's nothing that you can do naturally to change this.

Ogooglebar · 06/04/2013 19:46

Confused I hope your sons pay attention in science class OP because they're certainly not going to learn it from you.

OHforDUCKScake · 06/04/2013 19:47

Is it even possible to conceive 5 days before ovulation?

Hmm
TheAccidentalEgghibitionist · 06/04/2013 19:47
Biscuit Some people Hmm
lunar1 · 06/04/2013 19:48

Will you keep having children till you get a girl?

Irishmammybread · 06/04/2013 19:50

Having had three miscarriages last year I find it incredible you could be disappointed and feel that there is anything "wrong" with having a healthy baby of a particular sex. I would give anything to have had my little ones make it to term regardless of gender.

RVPisnomore · 06/04/2013 19:50

What is it with the obsession with having a girl?

Ogooglebar · 06/04/2013 19:52

I doubt the OP is even bothering to read our replies properly if she's for real

Eebahgum · 06/04/2013 19:52

Here's a tip - enjoy the children you have and stop playing a weird gambling game with future children. Only get pregnant if you want another CHILD - regardless of gender.

sleepingsatellite · 06/04/2013 19:53

There is not much in life that annoys me, but this attitude is crap.

Be thankful for your sons and be happy with your pregnancy.

LindyHemming · 06/04/2013 19:54

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Booyhoo · 06/04/2013 19:55

"did anyone sway and got wrong gender?"

your poor child. i hope you never tell him he is the wrong gender!

also. how can you conceive before you ovulate?

if you want to guarantee the sex of your child- adopt.

Fairylea · 06/04/2013 19:55

What a load of nonsense.

If it was that simple half the women who have abortions due to gender (which makes me so so sad) would just have to follow your silly rules for making a girl!

As if it was that simple!

golemmings · 06/04/2013 19:56

You could adopt. There are lots of girls in care who would like a permanent home.

TheBigJessie · 06/04/2013 19:56

OHforDUCKScake

Is it even possible to conceive 5 days before ovulation?

No, but this idea is actually science-based, unlike many others. The maximum length of time sperm can survive is five days, and X-sperm tend to live longer than Y-sperm. So, if you shag five days before you ovulate, the number of X-sperm still alive will outnumber the X-sperm. If you conceive at all, it's more likely to be a female foetus.

Booyhoo · 06/04/2013 19:56

and it's another name+number name. surprise surprise.

where have you all come from?

Sleepybunny · 06/04/2013 19:58

Don't feed the trolls

selsigfach · 06/04/2013 19:58

Why did I open this when I knew it would make me want to hit the OP something?

TheBigJessie · 06/04/2013 19:59

When I encounter people desperate for a girl, they always seem to have very rigid ideas about femininity, I'm not sure what terrifies me more: the idea they'll get a boy, or the idea they'll get a girl!

SybilRamkin · 06/04/2013 19:59
Biscuit
Ogooglebar · 06/04/2013 19:59

Doubly suspicious IMO Boo as Rachael/Rachel is spelled v oddly...

Ginformation · 06/04/2013 20:00

Oh, OP you have been doing it all wrong. Your dp clearly doesn't have any girl sperms, you should find someone else to shag.

Biscuit
DaffodilsAhoy · 06/04/2013 20:02

I know this is always an emotive topic and always, always, always someone will say the OP should just be grateful for having a child at all.

Why should the OP not be allowed to want one particular gender of child, there can be genuine reasons for thinking they would love to parent one gender of child and have a lot to give them.
The 'you should be grateful' lot, yes of course we should all appreciate our ability to have children but there is ALWAYS going to be someone worse off than ourselves, it doesn't make the OPs feelings any less real or valid.

OP I think charting your cycle and ttc as early as possible was the best chance you had - the other stuff just sounds a bit bonkers. I think the best advice you've had on here is from Caja saying you should see a therapist before you start ttc. No child should be a disappointment before they are even born. Good luck to you.

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