To expect dialogue on here to be civil and diplomatic most of the time?

[cupcakemumma]

Feeling so sick and tired of many threads on this amazing site being poisoned by unkind responses. There is one thing being direct and all, but seriously, I cannot imagine that the tone used by some MN posters would be used outside outside of this place in the wider world and welcomed. Some people seem to enjoy getting a kick out of speaking to others in an over the top spikey way on here, generating responses picking people's words to pieces like amateur lawyers.

What do you all think, or is it just me? Can't we all just get along and support one another and enjoy each other's company in diplomatic way? What is the point of being on here if time isn't spent being pleasant?

[buconfused]

LadyBea...it's also a target for derailers and people looking to grind other individual poster's gears

It never used to be, though. I find that most decent folk would accept there is often a very vulnerable poster on the other side of the screen

Not sure what's happened recently, but it's not good

I'm sure "its AIBU" shouldn't be an excuse to behave like a dick.

No one said that. < gives up>

I agree with you, mary. It's a shame, though.

I'm getting bored of these type of threads now. It just seems they become sneaky digs at people that certain posters don't like, but never name.

I respectfully disagree and I'm getting bored of being told what to post. When I find threads boring, I just don't read or reply.

I genuinely cannot think of the name of one poster who I would say has been a consistent nit-picky PITA but I can recall several threads where people just pile in and go mad. We have freedom of speech on the internet but is it so hard to occasionally take a step back and realise that there a human beings behind the computer screen? I know I have been guilty of being OTT in the past and forgetting that I'm typing to human beings with emotions.

Sometimes it's the threads that start out fine, you join, then they go all pear shaped and you have to hide them that are the most confusing.

Kind of related - I am on another forum where people post constantly and whinge how much they hate certain TV programmes. It's not like they try something new, dislike it and discuss it but they actually watch series after series and whinge. I once said I can't imagine my life ever being so boring that I'd force myself to do that!

Exactly LaQueen and Sparklingbrook, when you invest your time on here (which isn't an awful lot in my case having a 17 mo), it's pretty rubbish when you join in on a decent seeming, interesting thread which goes from fine into an acidic mess.

Jeez Crashdoll, me neither!

I have been on threads that started out fine. Discussion, views exchanged, interesting debate with loads of great differing points of view. Then from nowhere a poster will arrive, derail completely , a bunfight ensues with deletions aplenty. Leaving everyone a bit 'what happened there?'.

Even my Ant and Dec for a webchat thread went a bit horrible.

I got myself in a mess starting an AIBU on Friday. I knew what I meant then made a right hash of explaining it. Got called ignorant and there were multiple 'What is the point of this thread' posts. Never again.

Lol Sparkling, how could an Ant and Dec post turn into a bun fight? Interested to hear the story for that one going sour, do tell![busmile] of course, related to topic!

It seems unbelievably that not everyone would like Ant and Dec for a webchat. Too 'TV Quick/ITV' or something. Oh and not parents so what could they possibly have to say. It's in Site Stuff somewhere.

Here it is

Well, I'm going to put my hands up and say that I was totally out of order on Saturday night. I was foul mouthed and had a real go at an OP. She made what I felt was a flippant remark about ASN and I reacted in a completely over the top way.

I did regret and reported my post.

I am sorry I was not more mature in my response

I don't think I saw that Sparkling.
I've never seen you be unreasonable, apart from the fact that you watch crap daytime tv like me which I love too seems to be rather unpopular on here.

Oh Lady I made a real hash of it I really did. Best you didn't see it.